A Two-Day Workshop in London From Expert Relationship Therapists

Learn the Essential Skills To Transform Your Relationship

Gain the skills to break the dysfunctional patterns in your relationships, navigate conflict, and build meaningful, intimate connections – suitable for couples and individuals.

“ Intimacy isn’t something you have, it’s something you do. And you can learn to do it better. ”

— Terry Real

You’re About to Discover the Real Work of Relationships… 

There’s nothing more important in life than our relationships. Science has proven they shape every aspect of our well-being – from our emotional happiness to our physical health. 

Yet, most of us were never taught how to truly make them work. We stumble through, hoping love will be enough – only to find ourselves stuck in the same frustrating patterns, struggling to communicate, often feeling unheard, or disconnected.

The truth is, great relationships don’t just happen. They’re built, moment by moment, through healthy skills and actions. 

This two-day workshop is your chance to learn what no one ever taught you: the real, minute-to-minute work that creates lasting connection, trust, and intimacy.

Whether you’re in a relationship or single, this is one of the most powerful investments you can make in your future love & happiness.

Embrace a Whole New Way of Being in a Relationship

Over two transformative days, you’ll leave behind outdated ways of relating and learn a brand new one rooted in understanding, depth, and real connection.
You’ll leave behind… The Old Way You’ll embrace… The New Way
“Shutting up and putting up” with bad behavior to avoid conflict  Asserting your needs with love & respect so your partner can be more receptive
Listing all the things your partner does wrong in every disagreement Focusing on specific issues instead of blaming
Thinking that if they really cared, your partner would just know what you want Clearly expressing what you want – and helping your partner meet those needs
Getting defensive when your partner shares their feelings Listening with compassionate curiosity to better understand your partner's perspective
Battling to prove you’re right, whatever the cost  Letting go of the need to be “right” in favor of  solutions that work for both of you
Not asking for what you want… and then complaining when you don’t get it Encouraging your partner’s efforts and celebrating progress

What Should I Expect From the Relationship Bootcamp? 

The Relationship Bootcamp runs from Saturday 28 – Sunday 29 June, 2025, from 9:30 am – 5:30 pm each day. Led by senior RLT therapists and educators, Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S, and Bonny Slim, LMFT – both personally trained by renowned therapist and bestselling author Terry Real – this immersive experience will give you the skills and insights needed to transform the way you relate to yourself and others.

Through a blend of teaching, small group exercises, and guided personal reflections, you’ll learn the essential skills of Relational Life Therapy (RLT) – a radically effective relationship therapy approach that creates real and lasting change.

But This Isn’t Just About Learning New Skills…

Because Skills Alone Isn’t Enough – We Work With the Part of You Who Won’t Use them

Imagine you’ve learned how to communicate openly and compassionately when something upsets you. In theory, you know exactly what to say.

But in the heat of the moment – when emotions are high – do you actually use that skill?

For most of us, the answer is no.

That’s because when conflict arises, we don’t respond from our rational, adult self—we react from our inner Adaptive Child. This is the part of us shaped by past experiences, wired to protect us but also the very thing that blocks deep, healthy connection.

In this workshop, you’ll identify and work with these unconscious patterns, so they stop running the show. You’ll learn how to show up as the version of yourself that’s capable of real intimacy, trust, and connection.

This is an authorized presentation of Terry Real’s Relational Bootcamp, using the skills and principles from his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model. 

Who Should Join?

The Relationship Bootcamp is suitable for:

Meet Your Facilitators

Desirae Ysasi

LPC-S in Private Practice San Antonio, TX

About Desirae Ysasi

I have been a licensed therapist since 2006 and a certified Relational Life Therapist since 2018.

The road to RLT certification began as a desire to learn more about my passion for couples work and ended as a completely transformative experience for myself and my own relationship.

I am thrilled to enter into this relational revolution with my fellow faculty members bringing full-respect living to a whole new generation of therapists and clients.

Bonny E. Slim

LMFT in Private Practice West Hartford, Connecticut

About Bonny E. Slim

I started training in RLT in 2012, and I have participated in most of the courses that Terry has offered since then.

Through co-facilitating several Relational Bootcamps,
I discovered how transformative the group experience can be. I anticipate the impact that the practicum groups have for participants will be equally valuable.

My favorite aspect of RLT is the awareness that practicing relational skills in our own lives is essential to be able to authentically share/teach these skills to others.

Getting to the Bootcamp

All participants are required to make their own travel and accommodation arrangements.

Regent’s University London, Inner Circle, Regent’s Park, London, NW1 4NS

Roughly a 5-minute walk from Baker Street underground station. 

Limited (paid) onsite parking is available. Please visit the venue’s website for more information.

How The Relationship Bootcamp Has Helped Others

My wife and I both found RLI’s workshop to be exceptional, and well worth the time and effort to fly to Boston. I would recommend it highly, particularly to couples having communication problems.

RLI’s approach is unique, but common sense, so it is easy to understand &, hopefully, to apply.

– A.M., Toronto
For therapists doing couples work, the Boot Camp is a great chance to see a compilation/distillation of RLT skills in action, plus a great way to do your own relational work. That last part was valuable beyond measure and has shaped my work as a therapist & partner in powerful ways.
– Sarah P.

Terry Real’s Boot Camp was life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together 30+ years so it’d be fair to wonder what would we possibly have to work on.

My love-avoidant, grandiose man said this shifted our relationship to a deeper, more loving level; his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees.

The Boot Camp weekend opened up new ways to talk, to see ourselves and to love each other.

– Sarah P., Portland, OR

The couples work that you do is so valuable — we are relating now in a wholly new and expansive way. I

t’s what each of us knew we were missing but could not have found on our own. Thank you so much!

– Tod, Boston, MA

I have found that most couples really want a relationship that works for both people and they have no idea how to make that happen.

Once they learn that implementing a set of learned skills can achieve their goal, the majority of couples are willing to do things differently.

They become empowered to change!

– J.G., Dallas, TX

Register for the Relationship Bootcamp 

You can join as a couple or individual. Prices include two full days of training and participants are responsible for arranging their own meals, travel and accommodation. 

Join as a Couple

£869

Join as an Individual

£439

Your Guarantee

We know sometimes plans can change so you’re protected by a 100% money-back guarantee until May 28, 2025. Please contact us at support@terryreal.com before May 28, 2025 and we will refund you . Any cancellations after this date will not be eligible for refunds. 

Frequently Asked Questions

When is the training?

Saturday 28 – Sunday 29 June, 2025
9:30am – 5:30pm both days.

Regent’s University London, Inner Circle, Regent’s Park, London, NW1 4NS.

Find directions to the venue here.

Kindly arrive for a 9:30am start.The Relational Life Institute registration desk will be easily visible, staffed by our friendly team who will assist with check-in and provide you with your name badge.

The event costs £439 per individual and £869 per couple to attend for the full two days.
Please note, guests are responsible for arranging their own meals, accommodation and transport.

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Terry Real’s radical approach to couples therapy that breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy. Notably, RLT emphasizes the importance of people learning the ongoing skills they need to nurture and cherish their relationships long after their time in therapy is over. It’s these core skills you will learn in the Relationship Bootcamp to help you create meaningful relationships and keep the spark alive.

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker. 

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections – to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.

Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date, including the senior RLT therapists running this workshop. 

Yes – participation is essential for you to get the maximum knowledge and benefit from the experience. You may come alone or with your partner. 

We know sometimes plans can change so you’re protected by a 100% money-back guarantee until May 28, 2025. Please contact us at support@terryreal.com before May 28, 2025 and we will refund you . Any cancellations after this date will not be eligible for refunds. 

Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.

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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Healing in Connection: 

The Power of Relational Presence in Trauma Recovery

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Webinar facilitated by Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S; RLT Director of Training

Continuing Education credits offered: 1.5 credit hours

Course Description:

This free training introduces clinicians to the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) approach to trauma healing within couples therapy. Participants will learn how trauma-driven behaviors emerge in intimate relationships and how to identify and address these patterns in practice.

The session will demonstrate how conducting inner child work in the presence of a partner allows clients to have corrective emotional experiences, rewire trauma-rooted beliefs, and strengthens their relationships. Through lecture, clinical examples, and Q&A, participants will gain actionable insights on how to integrate relational presence and co-regulation into their clinical work.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

 

  • Describe how trauma impacts the nervous system and relational behaviors, and explain how RLT frames these adaptations as “Adaptive Child” strategies.
  • Identify three ways that relational connection and co-regulation contribute to healing trauma.
  • Apply core RLT principles – truth-telling, compassionate confrontation, and skill-building – to facilitate relational healing in couples therapy. 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   This is a free webinar!

Course Date & Hours:   Monday, September 22, 2025 2:30 – 4:00pm ET

TO REGISTER:  https://relationallife.com/trauma-recovery

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 22, 2025.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel. 

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in relationship counseling. Serving the San Antonio community since 2006, she works exclusively with couples in romantic relationships, folks in non-traditional romantic relationship structures (ethical nonmonogamy), and adults seeking to improve family dynamics. Desirae became a Certified Relational Life Therapist in 2018 trained directly by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She joined the faculty of the Relational Life Institute in 2022 and now serves as Director of Training & Certification, overseeing the global certification program. She has been the owner of Ysasi Counseling since 2014 and in the fall of 2024, Desirae opened Relational Life Texas, a virtual therapy group practice focused on RLT, providing relationship therapy across Texas.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

www.relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

90 minutes each class on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 7, 9, 14, 21, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com