End the Frustration of Working With Men:
Upgrade your approach to working with men with immediate access to five 90-minute classes taught by master couples therapist and expert in male psychology, Terry Real.
“ In the world of boys and men, you are either a winner or a loser, one up or one down, in control or controlled, man enough or a girl. Where in this setup is the capacity to love? ”
In this 3-hour live-recorded workshop, Terry uncovers what’s really going on with men today – and the roadmap for helping men connect with themselves and others, practice emotional responsibility, and become strong, big-hearted, and whole human beings.
Join Julie for three bonus classes with Q&A to gain deeper, practical guidance on how to effectively run your own men’s coaching groups.
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to support your work.
In this 1-hour class and live-recorded Q&A, Terry discusses the roots of male depression, performance-based self-esteem, and the cost of disconnection for their relationships, health, and families.
A 1.5 hour conversation with Terry and feminist psychologist Carol Gilligan, exploring the influence of “traditional masculinity,” including how men learn to disconnect from their childhood wounds, emotions, or behaviors that are deemed “weak” or “vulnerable.”
In this 1-hour interview, Terry and Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), discuss working with men and concepts of masculinity through both the RLT and IFS lenses.
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
In our culture, boys and men are not raised to be intimate. They are raised to be competitive performers, whose self-worth hinges on their ability to achieve.
It’s an imposition placed on boys whether they want it or not, and we’re increasingly seeing the fallout of this in our offices…
Women are insisting upon greater levels of emotional competence from their partners, and men are ill-equipped to meet them.
This places both men and women in a complementary bind that not only fails to make things better, but often ensures they will get worse.
The answer is not asking women to stand down from their demands, it’s to give men the support and tools they need to step up and meet them.
Achieving this ambition requires a new approach – one that understands male conditioning and how to work with it.
Getting buy-in from male clients can make or break the effectiveness of your session. Yet clinicians regularly find themselves hitting a wall of resistance, defensiveness, or emotional shutdown – and many feel unequipped to break through.
Even the most seasoned therapists can struggle with grandiose, power-over men. Our own internalized patriarchal messaging can make it difficult to confidently confront dysfunctional behavior. Especially when we fear that difficult male clients may explode, withdraw, or fall apart if challenged.
That’s why Working With Men is essential training for therapists today. In this 5-class course, you’ll learn the exact tools and techniques Terry Real has used with thousands of male clients to create profound emotional growth and transform their relationships from the inside out.
Not only are we not taught how to tell the truth to power under patriarchy…we’re actively taught not to. In Working With Men, you’ll learn how to confront grandiose and resistant men directly and compassionately for real accountability and transformation.
You’ll learn how to:
Most importantly, this course acknowledges that taking on grandiose male clients who lack self-awareness, accountability, and the willingness to change requires skill and confidence.
Led by Terry Real, Working With Men gives you the practical tools and deep insights needed to move even the most resistant male clients into vulnerability, connection, and wholeness.
Explore the Working With Men curriculum.
Class 1
🗓 Wednesday, September 10, 1–2:30 pm ET
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Class 2
🗓 Wednesday, September 17, 1–2:30 pm ET
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Class 3
🗓 Wednesday, September 24, 1–2:30 pm ET
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Class 4
🗓 Wednesday, October 1, 1–2:30 pm ET
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How to use systemic tools that engage the wider family system to create pressure for growth and deepen emotional impact.
Class 5
🗓 Wednesday, October 8, 1–2:30 pm ET
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“The directness with which Terry speaks with his client I found confidence boosting – he’s able to speak with truth and high regard and compassion and seeing the results was encouraging – particularly with clients most of us might withdraw a bit from. ”
“ Some of the things I love about Terry Real and his work are the practical steps, down-to-earth guidance and his model of having the courage and respect to be honest with couples when one partner is behaving in a way that needs to be addressed first. ”
— Rachel M.
“ I have seen clients that have been stuck for years/decades begin to show growth and move towards their authentic self with pride, dignity and confidence that they’ve never experienced before. Life Changing….”
— Stephanie Lott
We’re confident you’ll love Working With Men, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, sought-after speaker, and bestselling author, who has transformed how we approach relationships.
He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment.
Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.
Julie Rudiger has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last three decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships.
A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.
Yes—this course consists of 5 LIVE 90-minute classes with Terry Real and 3 bonus 90-minute classes with Julie Rudiger from the RLI Faculty.
The classes take place on the following dates and times:
90-minute LIVE bonus classes with Julie Rudiger:
Don’t worry—all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. You’ll receive log in and access details as soon as you enroll.
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
Yes—7.5 CEs are available for professionals who attend all five live calls with Terry Real for an additional $40 fee. Find more information on CEs here.
We’re confident you’ll love Working With Men, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:
Working With Men
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
ACEP No. 7495
FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Continuing Education credits offered: 12 credit hours
Course Description:
Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.
Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:
Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors
Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.
Cost: $497 or three payments of $197 each.
Course Date & Hours:
1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:
September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025
TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men
Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025
Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.
If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com
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Instructor’s Bio:
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.
CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.
Grievance Procedure:
If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for
the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.
A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com