Working With Men Course from Terry Real, Expert in Male Psychology
Join Working With Men to learn the precise therapeutic tools and interventions to engage and transform even the most resistant male clients.
The ones who:
“Why should I listen to you?”
And when faced with men like this, you know you need to get their buy-in fast, or this couple probably isn’t coming back.
Which is easier said than done, because…
We simply were not taught to work with difficult men in therapy school.
How many times have you tried to engage a man like that through nurture? By being nice?
Over 40 years of working with challenging men, Terry Real is clear on one thing:
Clients like this do not need you to be nice to them.
They need you to wake them up to the impact of their behavior, to understand the consequences of not doing the work…
And that requires a very different set of skills – both for them and you.
Learn to confidently confront, engage, and transform even the most resistant, grandiose men.
In this LIVE online course, expert in male psychology, Terry Real, will give you the precise tools to:
🌟 Plus, you’ll access 3 Q&A calls with senior RLT Faculty member, Julie Rudiger, LCSW, that will give you further practical guidance on the course material and share how to effectively run men’s groups as part of your practice.
“ In the world of boys and men, you are either a winner or a loser, one up or one down, in control or controlled, man enough or a girl. Where in this setup is the capacity to love? ”
Join Terry Real for an in-depth exploration of how to effectively work with men, exploring the unique challenges it can present. You’ll learn to break through resistance and guide men into emotional responsibility, connection, and lasting relational change.
The LIVE classes take place on the following dates:
Class 1: Wednesday, September 10, 1–2:30 pm ET
Class 2: Wednesday, September 17, 1–2:30 pm ET
Class 3: Wednesday, September 24, 1–2:30 pm ET
Class 4: Wednesday, October 1, 1–2:30 pm ET
Class 5: Wednesday, October 8, 1–2:30 pm ET
Join Julie for three bonus classes with Q&A to gain deeper, practical guidance on how to effectively run your own men’s coaching groups.
Class 1: Thursday, October 9, 10–11:30 am ET
Class 2: Tuesday, October 14, 10–11:30 am ET
Class 3: Tuesday, October 21, 10–11:30 am ET
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to support your work.
In this 1-hour class and live-recorded Q&A, Terry discusses the roots of male depression, performance-based self-esteem, and the cost of disconnection for their relationships, health, and families.
A 1.5 hour conversation with Terry and feminist psychologist Carol Gilligan, exploring the influence of “traditional masculinity,” including how men learn to disconnect from their childhood wounds, emotions, or behaviors that are deemed “weak” or “vulnerable.”
In this 1-hour interview, Terry and Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), discuss working with men and concepts of masculinity through both the RLT and IFS lenses.
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
Explore the Working With Men curriculum.
Class 1
🗓 Wednesday, September 10, 1–2:30 pm ET
You’ll explore:
Class 2
🗓 Wednesday, September 17, 1–2:30 pm ET
You’ll explore:
Class 3
🗓 Wednesday, September 24, 1–2:30 pm ET
You’ll explore:
Class 4
🗓 Wednesday, October 1, 1–2:30 pm ET
You’ll explore:
Class 5
🗓 Wednesday, October 8, 1–2:30 pm ET
You’ll explore:
Through your 3 included Q&A calls, Julie will provide deeper insights into how you can run men’s coaching groups as part of your practice. Having facilitated numerous men’s coaching groups herself, Julie brings a wealth of experience to the table.
You’ll explore:
By the end, you’ll have a clear understanding of how to facilitate impactful men’s groups that promote lasting growth and connection.
Much of this course will focus on how to work with men in the couples – or family – context. This is the setting you are most likely to encounter resistant, grandiose, anti-relational men.
While it is invaluable for therapists and coaches working with couples, it’s also useful for those who work with men 1:1, or run men’s circles. You will gain a deeper understanding of the broader patriarchal conditioning that affects all men and the roadmap to help them reconnect – to themselves and those who love them.
Choose the payment option that best suits you.
$179
$497
We’re confident you’ll love Working With Men, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
If you’re enrolled in the RLT Certification, you’re entitled to 50% off this course (or you can select it as your special topic course). If you’re not part of the certification and would like to learn more, we invite you to complete the inquiry form.
If you’re RLT-certified and have joined the official RLT Alumni Membership, we will have emailed you a special link to claim your 30% discount. If you aren’t yet a member, you can join here. If you haven’t received your email, please email support@terryreal.com.
Terry Real, LICSW, has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
A family therapist and expert in men’s issues, Terry Real is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections – to themselves, each other, and the planet.
The bestselling author of four books, Terry wrote the first ever book on male depression – I Don’t Want To Talk About It – in the 1990s. Terry’s most recent book is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment.
Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce – and reach even the most resistant, anti-relational men. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.
Julie Rudiger has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last three decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships.
A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.
Yes—this course consists of 5 LIVE 90-minute classes with Terry Real and 3 bonus 90-minute classes with Julie Rudiger from the RLI Faculty.
The classes take place on the following dates and times:
90-minute LIVE bonus classes with Julie Rudiger:
Don’t worry—all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. You’ll receive log in and access details as soon as you enroll.
This is a common and very important question we get asked. As a cisgender white male can Terry get away with saying certain things to men that the rest of us can’t? The answer is nuanced and it will be addressed throughout the course.
While your interventions may not look exactly the same as Terry’s, you absolutely can use these techniques to confront difficult male clients. We encourage you to join the Q&A calls with Julie Rudiger to understand how she uses RLT techniques to great effect in her couples sessions and men’s groups.
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
Yes – 12 CEs are available for professionals who attend all 8 live calls (this includes the Q&A calls with Julie Rudiger) for an additional $40 fee. Find more information on CEs above.
We’re confident you’ll love Working With Men, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
If you haven’t yet taken your special topic course of choice, you can select Working With Men. Otherwise, you’re entitled to 50% off this course. Please check your inbox for an email with details, and if you have any questions, contact support@terryreal.com.
Yes, if you are an official RLI Alumni member, you receive 30% off this course. Please check your inbox from an email from us with the details. If you aren’t yet a member, you can join here. If you haven’t received your email, please email support@terryreal.com.
The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:
Working With Men
Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.
ACEP No. 7495
FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Continuing Education credits offered: 12 credit hours
Course Description:
Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.
Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:
Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors
Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.
Cost: $497 or three payments of $197 each.
Course Date & Hours:
1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:
September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025
TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men
Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025
Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.
If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com
Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com
Instructor’s Bio:
Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022. Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians. Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”
Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.
CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.
Grievance Procedure:
If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for
the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.
A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.
Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com