– RELATIONAL LIFE THERAPY

Level 3 Online Training
with Terry Real

Expand Your Understanding of the RLT Model, Including Its Cultural Context and How to Work With the Most Challenging Situations In Couples Therapy.

TERRY REAL

A Note From Terry

Welcome!

RLT Level 3 is finally here! The incredible faculty and I have put our hearts and souls into this training, and I’m thrilled to finally share it with you.

This is where you take your understanding of the RLT model to an even deeper level. You will strengthen your use of the RLT stances, including when and how to use them to get even more profound, faster results in your sessions. 

Recordings of the July 2022 level 3 calls. When these are announced you will be invited to attend these (included in the price).

You will also access 5 hours of pre-recorded training where you’ll explore the ecological perspective of RLT and refine your skills in working with some of the most difficult resistance that presents in therapy sessions, including grandiose women.

This training is exclusively for those who have completed both RLT Level 1 and 2. RLT Level 3 is for therapists and coaches looking to take their RLT understanding and application to the highest level—and it’s essential if you want to become an RLT certified therapist or practitioner and join our incredible referral network.

By the end of this training, you will:

  • Have a deeper understanding of the RLT model, including its spiritual dimensions and cultural context.
  • Feel confident in the RLT stances and when to use them for optimum outcomes.
  • Know how to identify and work with some of the greatest challenges and resistance in couples therapy.
  • Feel assured and comfortable in your role as an RLT therapist, teacher, and mentor.

See you on the first call.

Warmly,

Terry

Introducing the RLT Online
Level 3 Training

Here’s Everything You Get in RLT Level 3

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3 Recorded Calls With Terry Real

Over 5.5 hours together, Terry will discuss the nuances of RLT Phases 1 and 2, explore the RLT stances, and showcase the most important skills of Phase 3. You will review sections of sessions, with commentary from Terry on the particular stances and skills that he’s utilizing.
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One Pre-Recorded Couple Demonstration

On the second recorded call, you will watch Terry work with a couple to witness how he uses the different stances.

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5 Training Modules (Pre-recorded)

Explore topics including Family of Origin work, the RLT ecological perspective, and stances in greater depth to expand and refine your skills and cement your confidence in your abilities.

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Lifetime Access to all Course Material

You’ll receive access to our private membership site on where you can work through the pre-recorded elements and build connections with the faculty and your fellow students. You will also have lifetime access to the call recordings (excluding the couple demo for privacy reasons) to watch back as often as you wish. 

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Private Membership Site

You’ll receive access to the site so you can work through the pre-recorded elements and build connections with the faculty and your fellow students as you discuss the material, share experiences, give and receive support, and thrive in our worldwide community of practitioners.

Here’s What You’ll Learn

Terry discusses the ecological and spiritual pillars of RLT and addresses questions such as “What is relationality?”, “What is intimacy?” and “What is self-esteem?”.

Terry reviews circular questioning, mutual triggering, and kinds of leverage. He also discusses relational power, relational grief, and relational reckoning.

Understand the trauma grid, rituals, and keeping spiritual company in greater depth, and learn to identify reacting and modeling behaviors.

A discussion of the teaching of skills, with a focus on transmission-reception work.  Relational jujitsu and the spiritual work required for true intimacy. 

Reinforce your learnings as we recap the RLT phases, and focus on using RLT stances to amplify progress and deal with resistance.

How much does Level 3 cost?

Choose the single payment option or easy payment plan:

Single Payment

$497

3 Easy Payments Of

$187

We’re confident you’ll be happy with the Relational Life Therapy Level 3 Training. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days of your purchase and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.

Frequently Asked Questions

Q: How long will I have access to the course?

Forever! All course materials, including the call recordings, will be stored in your private learning platform (the RLT Community Hub) for you to review at your convenience.

Q: Are CEs available for this course?

CEs are not available for the pre-recorded Level 3 course.

Q: Is RLT Level 3 part of the RLT Certification?

Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest, richest couples therapy training), you automatically receive access to RLT Level 3. If you’d like to learn more about the RLT Certification please request information here and we will send you the details.

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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com