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5 x 90-minute class recordings with Terry Real
In this 5-part video series, Terry Real takes you deep into the RLT approach to healing trauma, from why we conduct inner child work in the couples context to how trauma operates in couples.
A 60-minute talk from psychotherapist and NYT bestselling author, Esther Perel, who doesn’t shy away from the opportunities infidelity can open up for a new relationship within an old one.
Moving Clients From Shame & Punishment to Hope & Repair
50% of people come to couples therapy due to some form of infidelity. We see it in our offices frequently, yet it’s still an area that holds great doubt, uncertainty, and even fear for many therapists… Facing the devastating trauma, deep betrayal, and shattered trust in the aftermath of an affair is a particularly stirring issue for us. Many of us have been touched by infidelity personally—in our own relationships or as children.
But helping couples come back from an affair is also one of the most rewarding parts of couples therapy.
It presents you with one of the biggest opportunities to bring about transformation—in each partner and the relationship as a whole.
Too often, the focus is on restoring the old—often problematic—equilibrium. But the truth is, many couples manage to return to the old status quo on their own: two-thirds of couples survive infidelity…
We use the crisis of infidelity to make way for something completely new—a robust and healthy relationship where partners experience true intimacy like never before!
Join Terry Real, the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), to discover a fresh approach to working with infidelity that moves beyond the traditional victim/perpetrator framework into one that builds hope and opportunity for real repair.
Throughout five 90-minute LIVE classes, Terry will teach you the exact RLT framework he has used to help thousands of couples come back from infidelity with a stronger, healthier relationship than before.
Founder & Creator of RLT
You’ll feel certain in your ability to offer your clients more than a return to their old reality.
You’ll feel assured that you can offer them something more: hope and optimism for a stronger, healthier relationship.
Equipped with the powerful RLT tools that Terry has used for 30 years to guide couples through the crisis, you’ll know exactly how to work with infidelity, harnessing it as a mechanism for dramatic and permanent transformation.
It’s exhausting when you can’t help your clients the way you want to. But with the skills you’ll learn inside this course, you’ll feel reinvested in your work as you see the transformations unfold before you.
The RLT perspective on infidelity and how it differs from other models
The goals of treatment: using the crisis as a springboard for transformational change in the character of each partner and the essential character of the union itself
The phases of treatment: containment and transformation
How to be the Wise Adult in the room: approaching infidelity issues from the center of health
How to deal with countertransference: managing your own feelings around infidelity
The importance of not imposing a model of fidelity on your clients
Identifying and disentangling from your own biases and assumptions about fidelity
Understanding infidelity as a trauma for the hurt partner: their basic assumptions about their partner and relationship have been shattered
Creating a platform for the hurt partner to deal with the trauma of betrayal and deceit
Exploring the 2 questions of hurt partners:
The question of disclosure: should everything be disclosed? How and when should it happen?
Reassuring behaviors: how to be the voice of what’s appropriate, moderate, and respectful
What ultimately helps hurt partners regain trust
Shifting the question from “why do people cheat?” to “why don’t they cheat?” – identifying what force has overridden the power of “no”
The 3 reasons behind the lack of ability to say “no” to infidelity:
Realistic remorse: the involved partner doesn’t need to regret the infidelity, but they must regret the consequences of their actions
The involved partner must begin with accountability, but not shame or self-attac
The old relationship is over. The question now is: can we help our clients forge a new one?
Understanding how to use the crisis of infidelity as an opportunity for deeper transformation in the relationship
Moving beyond the victim/perpetrator framework into one that builds hope
Identifying the dysfunctional relational stances that contributed to the infidelity & how to address them
Shifting from what happened to understanding why it happened
Teaching each partner the relational skills for a stronger and healthier relationship:
How to amplify each partner’s progress as they move towards true intimacy
Teaching each partner the relational skills for a stronger and healthier relationship:
How to amplify each partner’s progress as they move towards true intimacy
Demarcating the crisis as having passed
Celebrating the new transformed relationship—perhaps it’s time to renew wedding vows
This course is for you if you’re a therapist, coach, or mental health practitioner who wants to…
Harness the crisis of infidelity as a mechanism for profound change in the relationship, forging true intimacy between partners.
Learn how to effectively approach infidelity as a trauma for the hurt partner, helping them to tell their story, express their grief, and make sense of what happened.
Understand the factors that stop people from saying “no” to affairs: how to identify them and address them to bring about deep, lasting character transformation.
Confidently be the Wise Adult in the room and the sound voice of what is appropriate and respectful when it comes to reassuring behaviors and expressing emotions.
Confront and disentangle from your own biases and assumptions around infidelity, learning to work with different models of fidelity.
Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, sought-after speaker, and bestselling author, who has transformed how we approach relationships.
He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment. Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.
“By weaving past trauma and its impact on relationships and by building new skills together, my clients have expressed new deep and meaningful connections. RLT is not just a training program, it is a community that works in unity to offer ongoing support to therapists as well as clients.”
”and his work are the practical steps, down-to-earth guidance and his model of having the courage and respect to be honest with couples when one partner is behaving in a way that needs to be addressed first.”
“The practical and positive approach of RLT has helped my clients see change almost immediately..”
“By weaving past trauma and its impact on relationships and by building new skills together, my clients have expressed new deep and meaningful connections. RLT is not just a training program, it is a community that works in unity to offer ongoing support to therapists as well as clients.”
“Some of the things I love about Terry Real…”
”and his work are the practical steps, down-to-earth guidance and his model of having the courage and respect to be honest with couples when one partner is behaving in a way that needs to be addressed first.”
100% Money-Back GuaranteeWe’re confident you’ll enjoy Working With Infidelity, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days after purchase and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.
Yes you receive instant access to all 5 90-minute classes with Terry Real as soon as you enroll. And with lifetime access, you can refer back to the material anytime you need.
No. Terry’s core training is pre-recorded but will broadcast live each week so you can experience his work together.
This will be immediately followed up with a live deep-dive session led by Bonny Slim, a senior RLT faculty member with more than 10 years of experience in the model.
These calls are designed to help you integrate the material and apply the 8 diagnostic lenses with more clarity and confidence.
Yes. This specific January 2026 cohort of RLT Level 1 offers 10 NBCC-approved Continuing Education (CE) credits upon completion of the training.
To be eligible, you must attend all five trainings sessions in full (2 hours each). CE credit cannot be awarded for watching recordings.
Registration will be confirmed via Zoom records so make sure you join the classes with the email address you used to enroll.
The Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495.
Please note: While NBCC CEs are widely accepted by many state licensing boards, it’s your responsibility to confirm eligibility with your specific board or credentialing body.
You receive lifetime access to all livestream lectures from Terry Real and Q&As with Bonny Slim. These will be added to your learning platform within 48 hours of each class, so you can catch up anytime.
However, if you’re hoping to earn Continuing Education (CE) credits, live attendance at all five sessions is required.
Each session is two hours long, and CE eligibility depends on full attendance.
That said, we strongly encourage everyone to attend live – whether you’re earning credits or not. It’s a rare chance to get direct support from a senior RLT faculty member, and deepen your learning in real time.
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