Join Terry Real for a Transformative 5-month Journey

Deepen Your Relational Skills to Repair, Cherish, and Nurture Your Relationships With the Us Advanced Workshop

Build on your amazing progress in the Us Workshop and advance your relational skills through LIVE lectures, therapy sessions, and Q&A to unlock new levels of closeness in your relationships.

Register for the Us Advanced Workshop Today
❗Plus be one of just 10 couples to receive therapy directly from Terry to catapult you and your partner to new levels of closeness.
Register for the Us Advanced Workshop to:
  • Deepen your understanding of the sophisticated RLT skills and learn how to apply them to enjoy healthy, fulfilling relationships.
  • Receive therapy directly from Terry to heal your relationship as part of the workshop (for those who join as one of the 10 participating couples only).
  • Observe the powerful therapy sessions and witness the profound breakthroughs you can achieve when you use them in your own relationships.
  • Ask Terry questions about the skills and how to utilize them effectively, and share your own experiences, challenges, and breakthroughs with the group.
  • Leave empowered with the essential skills you need to build deeply authentic, radically honest, and fiercely intimate relationships for life.

Workshop Dates

There will be 10 live workshop over 5 months from September 2022 to February 2023.

How much does the Advanced US Course cost?

Join as a Participating Couple

Receive a therapy session from Terry Real as part of the workshop. 

$2,450

Register Now

Join as an Observer

Observe the couples therapy and participate in the Q&A discussion.

$795

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You Will Explore

Relational Mindfulness

Shifting From Your Adaptive Child to Wise Adult When Trauma-triggered

This is the most important relational skill. Learn how to take distance without withdrawing or physically distancing yourself, take time out, and use dead-stop contracts.

Helping Men Articulate Their Feelings

Your Feelings Haven’t Left You, You’ve Left Them

Practical skills to help men reconnect with their emotions. Helping them understand and identify which of the 7 primary emotions they’re feeling and how to share those feelings with their partner.

The Art of Soft (Loving) Power

How To Stand Up for Yourself and Cherish Your Partner in the Same Breath

Learn how to be respectfully assertive without aggression. Master the difference between “Don’t speak to me like that” and “I want to hear what you have to say. Could you say it differently so I can listen?”

The Repair Process

The Golden Question of Repair

Learn how to listen non-defensively, put objective reality and yourself aside and listen with compassionate curiosity to your partner. Explore the Golden Questions of Repair: “Is there anything I can say right now that will make you feel better?” and “How would you like me to be with you right now?”

Transmission/Receptive work

Daring To Take Yes for an Answer

As you begin to get what you want from your partner, learn to let go of skepticism and past grudges to open up to receptivity and progress.

Shifting From Complaint to Request

How to Shift From Attitude to Gratitude

Remember the reason you are speaking is to repair, not fight. Learn to shift your mindset from a negative past-focus toward future, positive outcomes.

The 3 Phases of Getting What You Want in Relationships

Celebrating the Glass 15 Percent Full

  • Daring to rock the boat
  • Teaching what you want
  • Being encouraging not discouraging

How To Become Ongoing Partners in Health

Cherishing and Appreciating

Putting time and energy into nurturing your relationship, remembering why you love your partner and expressing it. Learn to cherish relationality itself and believe in the importance of connection.

Who Can Join The Us Advanced Workshop?

The Us Advanced Workshop are open to anyone—individuals and couples—looking to improve their relationships.

Only 10 spots are available to be one of the couples who will receive therapy from Terry in the live workshop. This is a unique, highly sought-after opportunity to work directly with Terry to address your biggest relationship challenges and reconnect with your partner.

(Please note: couples spaces are on a first-come, first-served basis, and you must be willing to receive therapy in front of the other workshop participants.)

Watch the lectures and therapy sessions and participate in the Q&A discussions.

See the powerful effects of the relational skills in action between real couples to help you apply them in your own relationships.

Join as a Participating Couple

Receive a therapy session from Terry Real as part of the workshop. 

$2,450

Register Now

Join as an Observer

Observe the couples therapy and participate in the Q&A discussion.

$795

Register Now
How Will The Workshop be Structured?

Each workshop will take place online and follow roughly the same format:

  1. A lecture from Terry introducing and teaching you how to use a particular relational skill.
  2. LIVE therapy session between Terry and a participating couple in front of the group.
  3. Q&A to share observations, experiences, and ask Terry questions directly.
Workshop Dates

There will be 10 live workshop over 5 months from September 2022 to February 2023.

Full dates and times are below:

Join the Us Advanced Workshop

Master Sophisticated Relational Skills for Fiercely Intimate Relationships

Join as a Participating Couple

Receive a therapy session from Terry Real as part of the workshop. 

$2,450

Register Now

Join as an Observer

Observe the couples therapy and participate in the Q&A discussion.

$795

Register Now
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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Healing in Connection: 

The Power of Relational Presence in Trauma Recovery

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Webinar facilitated by Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S; RLT Director of Training

Continuing Education credits offered: 1.5 credit hours

Course Description:

This free training introduces clinicians to the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) approach to trauma healing within couples therapy. Participants will learn how trauma-driven behaviors emerge in intimate relationships and how to identify and address these patterns in practice.

The session will demonstrate how conducting inner child work in the presence of a partner allows clients to have corrective emotional experiences, rewire trauma-rooted beliefs, and strengthens their relationships. Through lecture, clinical examples, and Q&A, participants will gain actionable insights on how to integrate relational presence and co-regulation into their clinical work.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

 

  • Describe how trauma impacts the nervous system and relational behaviors, and explain how RLT frames these adaptations as “Adaptive Child” strategies.
  • Identify three ways that relational connection and co-regulation contribute to healing trauma.
  • Apply core RLT principles – truth-telling, compassionate confrontation, and skill-building – to facilitate relational healing in couples therapy. 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   This is a free webinar!

Course Date & Hours:   Monday, September 22, 2025 2:30 – 4:00pm ET

TO REGISTER:  https://relationallife.com/trauma-recovery

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 22, 2025.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel. 

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in relationship counseling. Serving the San Antonio community since 2006, she works exclusively with couples in romantic relationships, folks in non-traditional romantic relationship structures (ethical nonmonogamy), and adults seeking to improve family dynamics. Desirae became a Certified Relational Life Therapist in 2018 trained directly by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She joined the faculty of the Relational Life Institute in 2022 and now serves as Director of Training & Certification, overseeing the global certification program. She has been the owner of Ysasi Counseling since 2014 and in the fall of 2024, Desirae opened Relational Life Texas, a virtual therapy group practice focused on RLT, providing relationship therapy across Texas.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

www.relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com