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<h5>What You Didn’t Learn in Therapy School…
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<h1>Discover the 5 Secrets to Effective Couples Therapy with Terry Real
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<h1>Discover the 5 Secrets to Effective Couples Therapy with Terry Real
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<p>Traditional therapeutic tools often fall short when it comes to couples work. Join the FREE training to learn the common mistakes we make—and what to do instead for stronger results. </p>
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<h2>Why Even Skilled Therapists Struggle in Couples Work</h2>
<p>If you’ve felt stuck, overwhelmed, or ineffective in couples sessions, it’s not a <i>you</i> problem. Most therapists were never taught how to navigate the complex, high-stakes dynamics that show up in the room.</p><p>Here’s what that looks like in practice:</p><ul><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Sessions spiral out of control</b><b><br /></b>Your clients interrupt each other, argue, or dominate the space, and you struggle to intervene or redirect the session.</li><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>You were trained to stay neutral, but it’s not helping</b><b><br /></b>Traditional models tell you not to take sides, but in high-conflict dynamics, neutrality often makes things worse.</li><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>You’re reacting instead of leading</b><b><br /></b>Without a clear structure, you find yourself improvising each week, hoping something will land.</li></ul>
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<ul><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>You’re doing all the heavy lifting</b><b><br /></b>You leave sessions emotionally drained, carrying the weight of the relationship on your own shoulders.</li><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>Nothing is really changing</b><b><br /></b>Even when clients have insights in session, they go home and repeat the same dysfunctional patterns.</li><li style="font-weight: 400;" aria-level="1"><b>You’re not equipped for deeper issues</b><b><br /></b>Narcissism, addiction, abuse: these power imbalances derail the work, and you were never properly trained to handle them.</li></ul><p>The result? You start to question yourself. You wonder if couples work is even worth it. And yet—you know your clients need more.</p><p>This free webinar shows you a way forward.</p>
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<p>In this free 90-minute training, Terry Real shares the practical framework he’s taught to thousands of therapists through Relational Life Therapy (RLT).</p><p>This isn’t theory: it’s what works when you’re in the room with real couples, in real pain.</p><ul><li><b>Learn what you didn’t in therapy school: </b>Finally get the tools and language you need to navigate high-conflict couples work with clarity and confidence.</li><li><b style="font-style: inherit;">Get a practical framework: </b>Learn how to identify and shift dysfunctional patterns like the “more-more” dynamic, so you’re no longer just managing chaos; you’re guiding transformation.</li><li><b style="font-style: inherit;">Intervene with confidence: </b>RLT teaches you how to speak truth with compassion, even when sessions get heated. You’ll know when to step in, how to hold the line, and what to say.</li><li><b style="font-style: inherit;">Stop carrying the emotional load: </b>You’ll learn how to get your clients doing the work: so you can stop over-functioning, and start seeing progress.</li><li><b style="font-style: inherit;">Address what’s really going on: </b>RLT doesn’t shy away from the hard stuff. Whether it’s trauma, addiction, or abusive dynamics, you’ll gain the tools to navigate these complexities—or know when to pause the work entirely.</li><li><b style="font-style: inherit;">Feel inspired to do this work again: </b>Therapists trained in RLT often say couples work went from being draining… to the most fulfilling part of their practice.</li></ul><p>If you’re ready to feel more empowered, more effective, and more grounded in your work with couples—join us for this session with Terry. It could change the way you practice, for good.</p>
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<h2>About Terry Real
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<p><b>Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, sought-after speaker, and bestselling author, who has transformed how we approach relationships. </b></p><p>He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. </p><p>The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment. </p><p>Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.</p><p>Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.</p>
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FORMAT:

Continuing Education credits offered:

Requirements for CE Certificate:

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Therapy Level 1 Training

Homestudy Course Continuing Ed Details

Facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW

This home study course is approved for continuing education hours as described below.

NBCC (National Board of Certified Counsellors)

10 CE hours for Beginner Mental Health Professionals

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

ACEP No. 7495

Target Audience

Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFTs, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level

The course content is appropriate for beginner level clinicians.

Course Description

Terry Real presents RLI’s introductory training course, Relational Life Therapy Level 1.

Over five recorded classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT) as taught by Terry Real. RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model.  

During this course, students will discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and lasting results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through The Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings to deepen your understanding of Relational Life Therapy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy. 
  2. Describe the role and approach of the practitioner in RLT.
  3. Diagnose the RLT view of power imbalances in couples, of psychological patriarchy, and how these are addressed through therapy.
  4. Summarize Relational Mindfulness and the “fight, flight, fix” responses. 
  5. Describe the role and approach of the therapist in RLT.
  6. Explain the two types of leverage.
  7. Discuss the concept of appropriate discrepancy and how it works with neuroplasticity.
  8. List the 8 diagnostic lenses in RLT.
  9. Interpret how preconditions are addressed in RLT.
  10. Compare the two types of boundaries.
  11. Demonstrate strategies for empowering latent clients. 

Throughout the course, you’ll gain deeper competency in and be able to: 

  • Illustrate that true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” – neither one-up nor one-down.
  • Discuss how RLT practitioners will confront and teach their clients how to live relationally.
  • Hypothesize how RLT practitioners use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

Continuing Ed Credits Available: 7.5 NBCC credit hours ($40 additional fee)

CE Certificate Requirements: 

  • Satisfactory Course Completion
  • Participants must have paid for this course, completed a course Evaluation, and passed the test (80% or higher grade) showing the material has been learned in order to receive a certificate.
  • No partial credit is available.
  • Failure to complete and submit these materials will result in forfeiture of CE credit for the entire course. No exceptions can be made. Partial credit is not available. 
  • Instructions are included in your RLT Course Library for Homestudy Level 1 at https://learn.relationallife.com/
  • If you have questions please contact support@terryreal.com for guidance.

It is the participant’s responsibility to check if their Board, state, organization is approved for these Continuing Ed credit hours. There is no partial credit. No refunds will be given on CE purchases for failure to check state approval.

Cost

This course is $397.00 for a single payment or three payments of $137.00

Commercial Support Disclaimer

There is no conflict of interest for this program.

Cancellation Policy

You may request a refund up to 2 days after purchase.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

Accommodations

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios: 

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in relationship counseling. Serving the San Antonio community since 2006, she works exclusively with couples in romantic relationships, folks in non-traditional romantic relationship structures (ethical nonmonogamy), and adults seeking to improve family dynamics. Desirae became a Certified Relational Life Therapist in 2018 trained directly by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She joined the faculty of the Relational Life Institute in 2022 and now serves as Director of Training & Certification, overseeing the global certification program. She has been the owner of Ysasi Counseling since 2014 and in the fall of 2024, Desirae opened Relational Life Texas, a virtual therapy group practice focused on RLT, providing relationship therapy across Texas.

 

Kate Harris, Ph.D.: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first-hand the tools Terry teaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32-year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

 

Anna Sterk, LMFT

Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation, and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022.  Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.

BONUS Material Instructors (CE hours not included in bonus content)

Dr. Gabor Maté:

Dr. Gabor Maté is a physician who specialized in family practice, palliative care, and addiction medicine. A renowned speaker, physician, and bestselling author, Dr. Gabor Maté is highly sought after for his expertise on a range of topics including addiction, childhood trauma, stress, and mind/body connection. He is called a “people whisperer” for his gift of seeing deep inside anyone. His life’s work is dedicated to liberating people from their childhood trauma so that they can make a choice of how to live in the present moment.

Carol Gilligan, Ph.D., of New York, NY has been recognized by many institutions and organizations for her efforts in the area of women’s advancement and moral psychology. She studied literature at Swarthmore College as an undergrad, and she graduated from Radcliffe in 1960 with a master’s in psychology. She continued to Harvard, where she received her Ph.D. in psychology in 1964. Three years later, Gilligan took a teaching position at Harvard where she worked alongside Erik Erikson and Lawrence Kohlberg. While Gilligan worked as a research assistant along Kohlberg, known for his theory of moral development, she began focusing on the moral dilemmas and development of young girls. In addition to the Grawemeyer Award for Education, Gilligan has also received the Heinz Award for Human Condition and was named one of the most influential people of the year by TIME Magazine in 1996. She has also published works of fiction and developed a full-length play based on Nathaniel Hawthorne’s Scarlet Letter.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com; www.relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

AWAITING Conference CE REQUIREMNTS

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

An Introduction to Relational Life Therapy 

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

Format: A one-day LIVE training facilitated by Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S, RLI Director of Faculty

Location: Regent’s University London, Inner Cir, London NW1 4NS, United Kingdom

Continuing Education credits offered:  5.5 credit hours.

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 5.5 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content: If you’re new to the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model – or just want to revisit the foundations ahead of your training with 2-Day Training with Terry Real.  Join RLI’s Director of Training Desirae Ysasi for a pre-workshop training the day before Terry Real’s course begin.

You’ll explore the theory behind RLT, along with some of the effective tools and strategies that move couples toward meaningful change.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  • Recognize the 5 guiding principles of RLT in clinical practice.
  • Identify the 3 parts of the self in RLT and their roles in relationship dynamics.
  • Interpret the key differences between RLT and traditional couples’ therapy.
  • Summarize the 3 Phases of RLT and the goals and therapeutic intentions of each.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:

Oct 27th one-day training with Desirae ONLY: £170 early bird until July 1 (then £195)

Oct 28-29th two-day training with Terry ONLY: £375 early bird until July 1 (then £425)

BOTH events (3 full days of training): £545 early bird until July 1 (then £620)

Course Dates & Hours:  Monday, October 27, 2025, from 9am to 4pm

TO REGISTER: Please visit:   https://relationallife.com/london-2025-trainings

Cancellation Policy:

We know sometimes plans can change so you’re protected by a 100% money-back guarantee until September 26, 2025. Please contact us at support@terryreal.com before September 26, 2025, and we will refund you. Any cancellations after this date will not be eligible for refunds.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

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Instructor’s Bio:

Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in relationship counseling. Serving the San Antonio community since 2006, she works exclusively with couples in romantic relationships, folks in non-traditional romantic relationship structures (ethical nonmonogamy), and adults seeking to improve family dynamics. Desirae became a Certified Relational Life Therapist in 2018 trained directly by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She joined the faculty of the Relational Life Institute in 2022 and now serves as Director of Training & Certification, overseeing the global certification program. She has been the owner of Ysasi Counseling since 2014 and in the fall of 2024, Desirae opened Relational Life Texas, a virtual therapy group practice focused on RLT, providing relationship therapy across Texas.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

The RLT Level 1 Training Course 

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Bonny Slim, LMFT and Terry Real, LICSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 10 credit hours for 5 Classes. Full attendance required.

Requirements for CE Certificate:  At the end of this course, you’ll receive an email inviting you to request your Continuing Education certificate.
The certificate is free of charge. To qualify, you must:

  • Attend the entire course (no partial credit is available)
  • Pass an assessment quiz demonstrating your understanding of the material
  • Attendance will be recorded to verify completion.

 

Course Content:

Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model.   

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy.
  2. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT.
  3. Diagnose the RLT view of power imbalances in couples, of psychological patriarchy, and how these are addressed through therapy.
  4. Summarize Relational Mindfulness and the “fight, flight, fix” responses. 
  5. Illustrate the role and approach of the therapist in RLT.
  6. Describe the role and approach of the therapist in RLT.
  7. Identify different types of leverage.
  8. Discuss the concept of appropriate discrepancy and how it works with Neuroplasticity.
  9. List the Seven lenses.
  10. Interpret how preconditions are addressed in RLT.
  11. Compare the two types of boundaries.
  12. Demonstrate strategies for latent people.

 

Throughout the course, you’ll gain deeper competency in and be able to: 

  •  Illustrate that true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same as” —neither one-up nor one-down.
  • Discuss how RLT Therapists and Coaches will confront and teach their clients how to live truly relationally.
  • Hypothesize how RLT Therapists and Coaches use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:  $395 in full; or 3 payments of $137 each

Course Dates & Hours:    

Each class will meet from 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time on these dates:

Session 1 – January 22, 2026
Session 2 – January 29, 2026
Session 3 – February 5, 2026
Session 4 – February 12, 2026
Session 5 – February 19, 2026 

TO REGISTER: Please visit this site for registration:

https://relationallife.com/level-1-training

Cancellation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructors’ Bios:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Bonny Slim, LMFT: Bonny started training in RLT in 2012 and has participated in most of the courses that Terry has offered since then. Through co-facilitating several Relational Bootcamps, she discovered how transformative the group experience can be. Bonny teaches several Practicum Trainings each year and anticipates the impact that the practicum groups have for participants will be enormously valuable. Her favorite aspect of RLT is the awareness that practicing relational skills in our own lives is essential to be able to authentically share/teach these skills to others.

 

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

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