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Join Real Life: Continuous Education for Relationship Professionals

Enhance Your Expertise and Expand Your Practice with Terry Real

1. Learn

directly from Terry to elevate your couples work.

2. Grow

your practice with specialist business training.

3. Connect

with a community
of like-minded colleagues.

The group has accelerated my understanding, practice and confidence as a therapist. I have gained a huge amount particularly from working with Terry on cases I have presented and from listening to fellow RLT therapists work.”

— Victoria Shalet, RLT Practitioner, London UK

Terry Real

A Letter From Terry Real

Welcome to Real Life!

As new cases and challenges arise in your practice, navigating them alone is overwhelming. Real Life is a safe place to turn in those moments when you wonder, “What do I do now?”

Consider this community your lifeline—an encouraging network to call upon for fresh perspectives and creative solutions. 

In our live calls, you’ll come together with senior RLT therapists and educators, like-minded peers, and myself. Each month, we dive deep into a particular aspect of your work with couples—topics from recent months include working with two blatant and protecting yourself from burnout. You’ll also have the opportunity to receive input on your cases from the faculty and me.

Our Real Life community is designed to accelerate your professional growth, helping you strengthen your skills and deliver improved outcomes for your clients. 

Not only that, we also recognize the importance of providing you with all the support you need to build a thriving therapy business. This is why we host a monthly business call to help you establish a new practice or grow an existing one. 

Real Life is the only place I share my latest thinking on the most effective strategies for transforming relationships. It’s where you can seek my advice and guidance on your specific cases as you grow your skills as a couples therapist or coach. 

When you join Real Life, you unlock the supportive connection, continuous learning, and business knowledge you need to build a thriving couples therapy practice.

How is Real Life Structured?

Our community comes together for five live 60-minute calls each month. Four of these calls are where you explore the month’s topic in-depth, centered around a particular aspect or challenge of your work with couples. Each call consists of dedicated teaching time from either Terry or the RLT faculty and also Q&A.

 

Terry hosts two calls each month. The first is open for all Real Life members to ask questions. The second takes a more advanced look at the monthly topic through the lens of those highly experienced in the RLT model. All members can watch the call live and access the recording; however, questions and case consultations will be exclusively from advanced RLT practitioners (those who have completed RLT Level 3 or are Certified RLT therapists).

 

Our fifth call provides training on the business side of your practice, delivered by Terry’s wider team.

An Overview of Everything You Get

Plus Receive These Bonuses

Terry On-Demand: Ever-Growing Library of Advice Videos From Terry Real

Search the library of short recorded videos from Terry to receive his advice on pressing and challenging topics outside of your regular calls. You’ll find answers to challenges such as what to do when you take the wrong side or have an overly compliant client.

We currently have 37 videos for you to search and we’re adding more each month—these will include standout responses to questions from the Real Life calls, so a great resource to check if you’re short on time. 

What’s in the library:

11 videos on Understanding and Evaluating Clients

  • A Client Says He Can’t Control His Temper?
  • A Grandiose Woman is Parked in Unbridled Self-Expression?
  • A Man is Resentful Because His Wife Won’t Have Sex with Him?
  • I Ask Them What They Want Out of Therapy and Their Answer is Too Vague?
  • I Don’t Know if Their Behavior Comes From a Disorder?
  • I Have an Overly Compliant Client?
  • They Have no Idea Where They Learned Their Stance?
  • They Think They Had a Perfect Family? (Passive Abuse)
  • One Partner is a Sociopath?
  • Someone is Afraid Their Trauma Will Overwhelm Them?
  • Are You Talking to the Wise Adult or the Adaptive Child?

8 videos on Therapist's Perspective and Challenges

  • I feel Exhausted After Doing this Work? (The Spirituality of RLT)
  • I Take the Wrong Side?
  • I’m Not Sure if it’s a Fix Response or Genuinely Working on the Relationship?
  • She Doesn’t Trust That He Will Change, and I Don’t Either?
  • QUOTE – How RLT is Different From Other Therapies
  • A Case Study on In Session Therapist Behavior
  • Introducing the Relational Grid to Clients
  • Moving Clients from 1st to 2nd Consciousness (Reactivity to Relational Mindfulness)

11 videos on Strategies and Approaches in Relationship Therapy

  • How To Tackle Resentment Issues With Two Blatants
  • Case Study With A Blatant Narcisstic Father – Foundations Course
  • Is there a Difference Between Latent v Blatant Losing Strategy
  • Should You Speak To Individuals Privately Before Their Couples Therapy Session
  • Tips On How To Be Close To A Distant Parent
  • How To Deal With Interrupting Clients
  • How To Deal With A Harsh Partner
  • When Client Has Problem Accepting Validation
  • How To Get A Couple To Tone Down
  • How To Deal With Couples Who Interrupt
  • Dealing With Religious Change Of Heart

5 videos on Quotes and Reflections

  • QUOTE – An Angry Woman Is A Woman Who Doesn’t Feel Heard
  • Someone Denies Their Stance?
  • They Were a Hero to One Parent and a Scapegoat to the Other (Especially with Divorced Parents)?
  • They Won’t Go to AA Because They Don’t Like the Word God?
  • Couple Case Study
Special Expert Interviews
Ed Tronick, PhD, infant observational researcher
  • Mother / Infant Relationships Are Messy – And So Are Yours: What Infant Observational Research Can Teach Couples Therapists
Carol Gilligan, American feminist, ethicist, psychologist, and author
  • From Boys to Men – Trauma and the Culture of Masculinity
  • Re-Imagining Adam & Eve: New Directions for Intimacy

Dick Schwartz, PhD, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS)

  • Working the Many Parts of Men: From Anger to Self Compassion

Esther Perel, relationship, sex, and intimacy therapist

  • Modern Infidelity

Our Upcoming Discussion Topics

A look at what we’ll be exploring together in the coming months.

September 2023

October 2023

November 2023

December 2023

January 2024

Febuary 2024

The 5 Winning Strategies
We’ll discuss the strategies that empower couples to succeed in the critical tasks of getting, giving, and having. We will explore how we can help clients sustain their connection, including how to equip them with the skills to get what they need in their relationship, give what they can to the relationship, and cherish, grow, and honor all that they have.
Cherishing
Relationships can survive negative reactions (with repair) but they thrive on positive interactions. We’ll explore how we can support clients in making each other feel cherished to sustain their connection. We’ll look at the five domains of relational intimacy and how to work with our clients to keep those domains alive.
Transmission/Reception Work
Encouraging couples to open up to the other’s efforts and receive positive changes in behavior is a common challenge which we will explore. How to speak and listen effectively are basic relational skills often lacking in couples. We’ll discuss how we guide our clients in learning the different roles of transmitters (speakers) and receivers (listeners). We’ll consider communication frameworks such as how to make a sincere apology and communicate hurt feelings.
Does Competence Trump Gender/Race etc.?
One of the most common questions we hear from women and minorities as they learn to practice RLT is whether they can achieve the same kind of cooperation as a white man when they are waking up clients and joining through the truth. This phase of RLT requires a willingness to confront blatant clients on their dysfunctional behavior in an empathic way. We will explore the barriers that all therapists face in doing this work and engage in conversation, particularly with women and minorities, around their concerns.
Open Mic
This entire month is dedicated to addressing your pressing topics, burning questions, and biggest challenges. Whether it’s an especially difficult case or an aspect of RLT you’d like more guidance on, this is an open door to ask Terry and the RLT faculty for their insights.
Sex and RLT
Sex is a topic that many clients—and therapists—often find challenging to bring up. We’ll explore how we can be fully prepared to have this discussion with grace, knowledge, and confidence. We’ll consider how we can help our clients with insights without our own biases and assumptions affecting us.
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September 2023: The 5 Winning Strategies
We’ll discuss the strategies that empower couples to succeed in the critical tasks of getting, giving, and having. We will explore how we can help clients sustain their connection, including how to equip them with the skills to get what they need in their relationship, give what they can to the relationship, and cherish, grow, and honor all that they have.
October 2023: Cherishing
Relationships can survive negative reactions (with repair) but they thrive on positive interactions. We’ll explore how we can support clients in making each other feel cherished to sustain their connection. We’ll look at the five domains of relational intimacy and how to work with our clients to keep those domains alive.
November 2023: Transmission/Reception Work
Encouraging couples to open up to the other’s efforts and receive positive changes in behavior is a common challenge which we will explore. How to speak and listen effectively are basic relational skills often lacking in couples. We’ll discuss how we guide our clients in learning the different roles of transmitters (speakers) and receivers (listeners). We’ll consider communication frameworks such as how to make a sincere apology and communicate hurt feelings.
December 2023: Does Competence Trump Gender/Race etc.?
One of the most common questions we hear from women and minorities as they learn to practice RLT is whether they can achieve the same kind of cooperation as a white man when they are waking up clients and joining through the truth. This phase of RLT requires a willingness to confront blatant clients on their dysfunctional behavior in an empathic way. We will explore the barriers that all therapists face in doing this work and engage in conversation, particularly with women and minorities, around their concerns.
January 2023: Open Mic
This entire month is dedicated to addressing your pressing topics, burning questions, and biggest challenges. Whether it’s an especially difficult case or an aspect of RLT you’d like more guidance on, this is an open door to ask Terry and the RLT faculty for their insights.
February 2023: Sex and RLT
Sex is a topic that many clients—and therapists—often find challenging to bring up. We’ll explore how we can be fully prepared to have this discussion with grace, knowledge, and confidence. We’ll consider how we can help our clients with insights without our own biases and assumptions affecting us.
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Join the Hundreds of Mental Health Professionals Who Have Strengthened Their Client Outcomes & Practices With Real Life…

“As a relative newcomer to RLT, the group has accelerated my understanding, practice and confidence as a therapist. I have gained a huge amount particularly from working with Terry on cases I have presented and from listening to fellow RLT therapists work. I very much enjoy the sense of belonging to a larger community, especially given that I’m in the UK.”

— Victoria Shalet, MBACP (London, UK)

“Being from a state/city that has very limited RLT therapists the consult group has given me the opportunity to talk with others of like experience and views of couples work. For many years being part of a group that speaks the same language has been very, very professionally enriching.”

— Mercy Dennis, MA, LMFT (Alaska)

“Listening to Terry teach is enlightening and I always gain clarity about concerns that I have about a case that I am working with. I also really like Terry’s uncanny ability to get to the deeper layers of the ‘person of the therapist’ to crystallize my therapeutic approach with clients.”

— Clare Mezes, MSC, RP, RMFT (Ontario, Canada)

Membership Plans

Choose the plan that best suits your needs.

Annual Plan

$ 499per year
(38% saving)
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Monthly Plan

$ 67per month
  • 2 LIVE monthly calls with Terry Real 2 LIVE monthly calls with RLT faculty 1 LIVE monthly therapy business call Client handouts Call recordings from the previous 12 months Access to a private membership site

Monthly Plan

$ 67per month
  • 2 LIVE monthly calls with Terry Real 2 LIVE monthly calls with RLT faculty 1 LIVE monthly therapy business call Client handouts Call recordings from the previous 12 months Access to a private membership site

Annual Plan

$ 499per year
(38% saving)
  •  

Our Promise to You

We’re confident you’ll love Real Life, but we offer a money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If you join on the annual plan and are not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 14 days of purchase and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked. If you join on the monthly plan, you can cancel any time.  

Frequently Asked Questions

Will I be able to ask questions during the calls?

Absolutely! We encourage you to participate in the calls. We aim to make each call interactive and personal to forge a dynamic, supportive relationship between you, Terry, and the entire group.

All calls will be live, and you’ll have opportunities to ask questions (time permitting). You can also post questions in the RLT Community Hub in advance, and Terry/the faculty will pick the cases and topics that seem the most relevant to help the entire group.

What if I miss a session or can’t make the time?

We understand there will be times you can’t make it, so we record all calls and you will have access to them for 12 months after the call date. This will also be useful for any sessions you wish to listen to more than once.

How long are the calls?

We value your time, so each call is an hour long.

Is Real Life approved for Continuing Education Credits (CEs)?

Real Life is approved for CEs for specific six-month periods. You can find full CE details here.

Is the Real Life membership open to people new to Relational Life Therapy (RLT)?

We naturally like to go as deep as possible in our calls, however, we appreciate that some folks might be new to the RLT model and terminology. This is why Terry has handpicked our senior RLT therapists and educators to host two live monthly interactive calls to clarify any questions regarding the model or teachings of RLT. Everyone is invited to these calls. Of course, we hope everyone gets inspired to take the RLT Level 1 training if they haven’t already, but that is optional.

I’m highly experienced in the RLT model, is this relevant to me?

Yes—this community is designed to help you continually grow as a therapist as you develop your RLT skills and knowledge. We appreciate that everyone in the community is at different stages of their journey, so we have one call with Terry each month exclusively for those who have completed the RLT Certification. This will allow you to explore the model in greater depth, reflecting your extensive RLT knowledge. 

Is Real Life part of the RLT Certification?

Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest training in the RLT model), you receive access to Real Life for 24 months. If you’d like to learn more about the RLT Certification, or to apply, please complete this form and a member of our team will reach out to you with more details.

Do you have a refund policy?

We’re confident you’ll get so much out of your Real Life membership. However, if you’re not 100 percent satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours after the first live call and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked. You may cancel your subscription at any time.

About Terry Real

Terry Real, creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

 

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CEU REQUIREMENTS:

Satisfactory Completion –Live Interactive Online Classes

NOTE – All participants will receive an email from us AFTER THE COURSE ENDS with the link to purchase and receive the CEUs.

Participants must have paid tuition fee of $40, attended the five LIVE classes, and completed an evaluation to receive a certificate. Failure to complete any of the course will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Attendance will be taken. Partial credit is not available. Certificates will be available following course completion.

Any questions regarding accreditation must be directed to you own Board Authority

Satisfactory Completion

Participants must have paid tuition fee, signed in and out each day, attended the entire seminar, and completed an evaluation in order to receive a certificate. Failure to sign in or out each day will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.Certificates available after satisfactory course completion at www.ceuregistration.com

Psychologists 

NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0018. 7.5 contact hour.

Social Workers 

IL-SWs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #159.000785. 7.5 CE hour. 

MN: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the Minnesota Board of Social Work, CEP #2281 approval 12/27/22 – 12/27/23. 7.5 CE hour. 

NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider (#0006) of continuing education for licensed social workers. This program is approved for 7.5 contact hour. 

OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 7.5 clock hour, #RCST110701

Counselors/Marriage and Family Therapists 

IL-MFTs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #168-000141. 7.5 hour. 

NY-LMHCs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0015. 7.5 contact hour. 

NY-LMFTs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists. #MFT0011. 7.5 contact hour. 

OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 7.5 clock hour, #RCST110701 

TX: Approved CE Sponsor through the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage & Family Therapists. Provider #151 7.5 CE hour. 

Creative Arts Therapists 

NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed creative arts therapists, #CAT-0005. 7.5 contact hour. 

Chemical Dependency Counselors

CA: Provider approved by CCAPP, Provider #4N-00-434-0224 for 1vCEH. CCAPP is an ICRC member which has reciprocity with most ICRC member states 

TX: Provider approved by the TCBAP Standards Committee, Provider No. 1749- 06, 7.5 hour general. Expires 1/31/24. Complaints about provider or workshop content may be directed to the TCBAP Standards Committee, 1005 Congress Avenue, Ste. 460, Austin, Texas 78701, Fax Number (515) 476-7597. 

Educators 

TX: R. Cassidy Seminars is an approved provider with the Texas Education Agency CPE# 501456. This course is 7.5 CE hour. 

Nurses 

CA: Provider approved by the CA Board of Registered Nursing, Provider #CeP15554, for 7.5 contact hour 

Dentists 

CA: R. Cassidy Seminars is a provider approved by the Dental Board of California as a registered provider of continuing education. RP# 4874 7.5 CE hour. 

Disability Access – If you require ADA accommodations please contact our office 30 days Or more before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification. 

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often And while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions Or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.