To learn more about how to help people come down from the one-up of grandiosity and into connection with their partner, register for the free training on The 7 Diagnostic Lenses of Relational Life Therapy (Tuesday, January 9, 2–3:30 pm ET), where you’ll learn the effective tools to rectify power imbalances in relationships.
How To Identify the Vicious Cycle Your Clients Are Caught in and Motivate Them To Change It
Discover the 7 diagnostic lenses we use in Relational Life Therapy to get to the heart of the presenting problem, build trust, and redress power imbalances in couples therapy.
Submit your details to secure your spot in the free training: Getting to the Heart of It: 7 RLT Lenses That Get You to the Truth
LIVE on Tuesday, January 9, 2–3:30 pm ET
Getting to the Heart of It: 7 RLT Lenses That Get You to the Truth
Terry and Anna will spend the first 10 minutes introducing you to the 7 diagnostic lenses we use in RLT to precisely and effectively identify the vicious cycle clients are caught in.
Then Terry will take you through a deeper exploration of one lens:
Working with Blatant/Latents (including clips from his real therapy sessions).
You will discover:
- How and when to start taking sides: Identifying blatant/latent dynamics and the key features to look for.
- The critical differences between grandiosity and shame and why each requires a different therapeutic approach.
- The 3 parts of the psyche: Which part of the client are you talking to? Empowering the latent: Gathering data from the disempowered partner to confront the blatant.
- Reconnecting the blatant: Providing positive & negative leverage to spark change.
PLUS we’re dedicating plenty of time to Q&A at the end where you can ask Terry and Anna your questions directly.
- (Don’t worry if you can’t attend live, please still register as we’ll send out a replay.)
“Don’t get out ahead of your client. They’re the ones to assert the leverage, not you. You go too far when you act as if you have more leverage than you have. You go too far if you take on the offender of the blatant, rather than have the latent take on the blatant, generally.”
Who Is Terry Real?
Terry Real, creator of Relational Life Therapy
Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
Anna Sterk
Anna Sterk is an LMFT in private practice in Minnesota. A senior RLT therapist and esteemed member of the RLT Faculty, Anna teaches practitioners from all over the world to expertly use RLT to spark deep and enduring transformations in their clients.
Learning how to build and sustain healthy relationships has been the journey of Anna’s life, and not always an easy or straightforward path. It was life changing for her to build on the personal work she was doing when she started studying with Terry Real in 2012, and she feels honored to pass along what she has learned to clients and through teaching the relational skills in bootcamps, practicums, and mentoring.
- (Don’t worry if you can’t attend live, please still register as we’ll send out a replay.)
“Terry’s work provided foundations of “telling the truth” to clients. I did it easily with individuals but stumbled with couples. Now I LOVE working with couples. It is now always profoundly moving & instructive.”
“Some of the things I love about Terry Real and his work are the practical steps, down-to-earth guidance and his model of having the courage and respect to be honest with couples when one partner is behaving in a way that needs to be addressed first.”
- (Don’t worry if you can’t attend live, please still register as we’ll send out a replay.)