RLT Level 2 – Online Training
Learn how to conduct powerful inner child work in the couples context to heal relational trauma and build empathy between partners.
An 11-hour training including real-time couples therapy demonstrations and previously recorded 90-minute Q&A calls.
“Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.”
Welcome Back!
Thank you for joining me for RLT Level 1—I hope the diagnostic lenses have already proved useful in your sessions.
I now invite you to explore the next phase of RLT: deep trauma work. This is where we deepen our understanding of each partner’s relational stance as we uncover how it developed before conducting the powerful inner child work to heal relational trauma.
We’ll explore multi-generational legacies, and the roadmap for conducting inner child work in the presence of the partner to build empathy and intimacy.
And you’ll learn to work with resistance, including how to reiterate leverage and detach from outcome. We’ll wrap things up with an exploration of attachment styles and how to work with them in therapy.
I’m thrilled to invite you to 3 brand new 90-minute Q&A calls with esteemed RLI faculty member Bonny Slim, LMFT. Bonny will guide you through a deeper exploration of RLT Phase 2 as she takes your questions on the course material. This is an excellent way to cement your learning and clarify any gaps you may have.
I hope you’ll join us.
Warmly,
Terry
What’s included in RLT Level 2:
5 Core Modules with Terry Real
Unlock instant access to 6.5 hours of video trainings from the creator of Relational Life Therapy take you deep into the nuances of RLT Phase 2 and the practical tools you need to confidently conduct trauma work in the couples context.
Pre-Recorded Q&A Call with Senior RLT Therapist, Bonny Slim, answering many of your questions.
Bonus Handouts to Support Your Client Sessions
Download useful handouts to use in your sessions, including Terry Real’s roadmap for inner child work and the Trauma Grid.
Here’s what you’ll learn:
Reviewing Blatants And Latents: Diagnosing & Repairing Power Imbalances
We therapists and coaches often find a power imbalance in many troubled relationships in which one person is on top while the other feels “less than.” Many couples come to us when one partner exerts more power and the other doesn’t feel seen or heard. We help address the fears of the disempowere...
- When to use positive and negative leverage.
- Joining through, as opposed to clobbering someone with, the truth.
- Using family of origin work to rebalance the relationship.
Moving from the Present to Each Partner’s Family of Origin
Multi-generational legacies—the son of a rager becomes a rager, the daughter of a rager becomes a rager, the nonbinary child partners with the rager—go on and on until someone stops them. In this module, you will learn how to silhouette a couple’s present difficulties, their choreography, against the ba...
- Moving from the present into the past by using the “affect bridge” (when have you felt these feelings before?)
- Transitioning to Family of Origin by using the 3 questions:
- Who did you see do this?
- Who did it to you?
- Who did you do it to and no one stopped you?
- How to frame current difficulties as the opportunity to transform one’s legacy and hand over a different future to one’s children
Working with Deep Trauma in the Presence of One Another
All trauma is relational trauma. In RLT, we work to heal a person’s trauma in the presence of their partner because it can deepen and accelerate healing for them both. We will examine how multigenerational trauma plays a role in adult relationships and how to best work with both inner child states...
- 4 types of trauma and where they fall on the Trauma Grid.
- How the Adaptive Child is formed.
- Reparenting the Adaptive and Wounded Child parts.
Dealing with Resistance and Amplifying Progress: The Difference Between Gratification and Relational Joy
When we work with a resistant client, it’s important to hone our skills in how best to use feedback, reiterate leverage, and detach ourselves from specific outcomes. But first, we must determine where the client’s resistance is coming from. Does it come from a fear of showing vulnerability? Or perhaps past tra...
- The five fears behind resistance and how to respond to them.
- Understanding and befriending the resistant part.
- Using positive and negative leverage with a resistant part.
Looking At Attachment Styles: Love Dependent And Love Avoidant—what To Do
Type 1 Love Avoidants are people who grew up in avoidant families and learned, from a very young age, that a lack of emotional connection is normal. As adults, Type 1 Avoidants often find emotional connection oppressive. We teach the Love Avoidant intimacy skills and how to open up his or her heart...
- How to sell the value of intimacy along with its skills to a Type 1 Love Avoidant.
- How to teach negotiation and the assertion of needs along with appropriate trauma work when dealing with a Type 2 Love Avoidant.
- How to work on self-esteem, boundaries, and the remembrance of abundance when working with Love Dependents.
What Practitioners Are Saying About RLT
“Terry Real helps overturn old-fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere.”
"RLT pulled everything together into a clear, comprehensive framework that solidified my practice.
There are certain things that are right and wrong, and we’ve got to call them out… [RLT] It gave me permission to do therapy the way I always believed it should be done… If you want to work with couples with integrity, this is the modality you should learn.”
Dr. Gloria Lee, Psychologist, PsyD, RPsych
Burnaby, BC
“It’s a soft, simple methodology that gets to the root cause very quickly.
Even in difficult cases like infidelity, I was able to handle so much more effectively because of RLT… It’s a very effective way to be with a client.”
Nasim Mughal
Licensed Psychotherapist
Karachi, Pakistan
“Now I have a road map and I know how to begin to make sense of what's going on in a relationship.”
When I think about how I used to approach my work with couples and how I approach my work now… I didn’t know what I was doing, but I didn’t know I didn’t know. Now, I have this clarity and knowledge about what it is that I can deliver to them that’s going to be helpful.”
Brenda Forster
Clinical Counsellor, M.Ed., R.C.C.
Kelowna, BC
Here’s Everything in the RLT Level 2 Online Training:
- 5 Core Modules with Terry Real
- 6.5 hours of pre-recorded video trainings from the creator of Relational Life Therapy.
- 3 Recorded 90-minute Q&A Calls with Senior RLT Therapist, Bonny Slim
- Bonus Handouts to Support Your Client Sessions
Get Started With RLT Level 2 Today
Did you know...
This course is part of the RLT Certification program—our deepest training in the RLT model.
Frequently Asked Questions
When do the live Q&A calls happen?
Are Continuing Ed Credits available?
Is it RLT Level 2 live or self-paced study?
There are two components of RLT Level 2:
- 6.5 hours of self-paced video training with Terry Real
- 3 pre-recorded 90-minute Q&A calls with Bonny Slim from the RLI Faculty
How long will I have access to RLT Level 2?
Is RLT Level 2 part of the RLT Certification program?
Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest, richest training in the RLT model), you automatically receive access to RLT Level 1. If you’d like to learn more about the RLT Certification please visit the information page here.
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