An intensive two-day workshop from The Relational Life Institute

Learn the Essential Skills To Transform Your Relationship

Join a powerful workshop in London for couples and individuals looking to improve communication and build meaningful, intimate relationships. 

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Sat 14 – Sun 15 September, 2024

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9:00 am – 5:00 pm both days

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The Derby - St Pancras Meetings & Events, London, WC1H 8AG

An intensive two-day workshop from The Relational Life Institute

Learn the Essential Skills To Transform Your Relationship

Join a powerful workshop in London for couples and individuals looking to improve communication and build meaningful, intimate relationships. 

🗓
Sat 14 – Sun 15 September, 2024

📍
One Birdcage Walk, London SW1H 9JJ

🕒
9:00 am – 5:00 pm both days

“Intimacy isn’t something you have, it’s something you do. And you can learn to do it better.”

— Terry Real

Build a Relationship on Compassion and Collaboration for Lifelong Intimacy

You’ll gain a wealth of practical skills you can use immediately to build healthier, more meaningful relationships, including:

What Should I Expect from the Relationship Bootcamp?

The Relationship Bootcamp takes place in person for two full days, Saturday 14 – Sunday 15 September, 2024, 9am-5pm each day.

You will learn essential skills from Relational Life Therapy (RLT)—the radically effective approach to relationship therapy created by internationally-recognized therapist and bestselling author, Terry Real. RLT is known for its ability to spark profound, lasting change in individuals and their relationships, and these skills will help you build and sustain meaningful connections.

You will learn through a combination of lecture, small group exercises, and personal reflections guided by the Relational Life Institute Faculty (senior RLT therapists trained by Terry Real.)

Discover the Real Work of Relationships… 

We know that relationships take work, but few of us know what that work actually is…

The real work of relationships isn’t occasional, it’s minute-to-minute. And this workshop will teach you those critical minute-to-minute skills that build and sustain true intimacy.

By the end of the two days, you’ll have the skills to:
Join us for this transformative workshop to learn the powerful relational skills you need to create the deeply connected relationship you yearn for. 

This is an authorized presentation of Terry Real’s Relational Bootcamp, using the skills and principles from his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) model.

Who Should Join?

The Relationship Bootcamp is suitable for:

Couples looking to strengthen their connection, improve communication, and sustain intimacy.

Individuals looking to overcome their barriers to intimacy and cultivate more meaningful relationships.

Mental health professionals looking to deepen their understanding of the RLT model and facilitate their own Relationship Bootcamps. 

Meet Your Facilitators

Desirae Ysasi

 LPC-S in Private Practice, San Antonio, TX

I have been a licensed therapist since 2006 and a certified Relational Life Therapist since 2018.

The road to RLT certification began as a desire to learn more about my passion for couples work and ended as a completely transformative experience for myself and my own relationship.

I am thrilled to enter into this relational revolution with my fellow faculty members bringing full-respect living to a whole new generation of therapists and clients.

Anna Sterk

LMFT in Private Practice, St. Paul, Minnesota

Learning how to build and sustain healthy relationships has been the journey of my life, and not always an easy or straightforward path. It was life changing for me to build on the personal work I was doing when I started studying with Terry Real in 2012, and it is an honor for me to pass along what I have learned to clients and through teaching the relational skills in bootcamps, practicums, and mentoring.

Bonny E. Slim

LMFT in Private Practice, West Hartford, Connecticut

I started training in RLT in 2012, and I have participated in most of the courses that Terry has offered since then.

Through co-facilitating several Relational Bootcamps, I discovered how transformative the group experience can be. I anticipate the impact that the practicum groups have for participants will be equally valuable. My favorite aspect of RLT is the awareness that practicing relational skills in our own lives is essential to be able to authentically share/teach these skills to others.

Julie Rudiger

LCSW, Private Practice, Denver, Co area

I have been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008.

I became certified in 2010, and since then, my practice and personal life has transformed. I love the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenant of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of my practice. I love the role of “coach” in teaching the skills.

Most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families.

I am also co-leader of the Relationship Bootcamp in Denver, whereby we help individuals and couples learn the skills in a 2 day intensive workshop.

Kate Harris

PhD in Private Practice, Dover, NH and PSYPACT

I am a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, I watched Terry Real work with 5 couples and was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with my values.

Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with my husband gave us tools that we use to stay close to each other and deepened our 32-year relationship. I became an RLT certified therapist in 2018 and I am excited to join the faculty and share what I’ve learned.

Getting to the Bootcamp

All participants are required to make their own travel and accommodation arrangements.

The Derby – St Pancras Meetings & Events | Derbyshire House St. Chad’s Street, London, WC1H 8AG.

Just a 5-minute walk from St Pancras International and King’s Cross train stations.

How the Relationship Bootcamp Has Helped Others

Please note: A videographer will be present to record the trainers leading the workshop purely for educational purposes. Participants will not be filmed, and nothing you say will be recorded.

Register for the Relationship Bootcamp

You can join as a couple or individual. Prices include two full days of training and light refreshments. Participants are responsible for arranging their own meals, travel and accommodation.

Join as an Individual

£375

Join as a Couple

£695

Your Guarantee
We know sometimes plans can change so you’re protected by a 100% money-back guarantee until September 10, 2024. Please contact us at support@terryreal.com before September 10, 2024 and we will refund you . Any cancellations after this date will not be eligible for refunds.

Frequently Asked Questions

When is the training?

Saturday 14 – Sunday 15 September, 2024.

9am – 5pm both days.

The training is held at The Derby – St Pancras Meetings & Events | Derbyshire House St. Chad’s Street, London, WC1H 8AG.

Find directions to the venue here.

Kindly arrive for a 9:00am start.The Relational Life Institute registration desk will be easily visible, staffed by our friendly team who will assist with check-in and provide you with your name badge.

The event costs £695 for a couple or £375 for an individual to attend for the full two days and includes light refreshments.

Please note, guests are responsible for arranging their own meals, accommodation and transport. 

Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is Terry Real’s radical approach to couples therapy that breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy. Notably, RLT emphasizes the importance of people learning the ongoing skills they need to nurture and cherish their relationships long after their time in therapy is over. It’s these core skills you will learn in the Relationship Bootcamp to help you create meaningful relationships and keep the spark alive.

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker. 

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.

Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date, including the senior RLT therapists running this workshop. 

Yes—participation is essential for you to get the maximum knowledge and benefit from the experience. You may come alone or with your partner.

You may cancel your registration for a full refund until September 10, 2024. To request a refund and cancelation, please notify support@terryreal.com

Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com

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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com