FREE Live Training with New York Times Bestselling Author Terry Real

Discover the Secrets of Effective Couples Therapy 

Learn why the very techniques that serve us well with individuals often fall short with couples – and the 3 critical shifts that spark dramatic, lasting change.

Tuesday, July 8, 2025 at 12–1:30 PM ET
Register for FREE

(Please still register if you can’t attend live and we’ll email you the replay.)

FREE Live Training with New York Times Bestselling Author Terry Real

Discover the Secrets of Effective Couples Therapy 

Learn why the very techniques that serve us well with individuals often fall short with couples – and the 3 critical shifts that spark dramatic, lasting change.

Tuesday, July 8, 2025 at 2–3:30pm ET

(Please still register if you can’t attend live and we’ll email you the replay.)

What You’ll Learn in This Free Training

Traditional techniques often let us down when we’re navigating the minefield of couples therapy. Emotions run high, tensions escalate, or one partner is more dominant than the other. Should we really stay neutral in these cases? Is empathy alone enough to calm conflict?

If you feel overwhelmed by the complexities of couples work, this free training is for you.

Join Terry Real live to learn the 3 foundational shifts that can significantly increase your confidence and effectiveness.

You’ll explore:

Why staying neutral can stall progress
 …

and how to take a stand without shaming or alienating either partner.


How to work effectively with narcissistic partners
 …

including the techniques that hold them accountable and motivate real change.

Why personal empowerment can backfire in couples therapy
 …

and the essential relational skill that encourages clients to think like a team.

A radical new map for couples therapy that builds true partnership

including how patriarchal conditioning fuels power struggles and prevents intimacy.

PLUS:

We have plenty of time for live Q&A, where you can ask Terry for more insights.

Register for FREE
If you can’t attend live, we’ll send you the replay.

As a result of this training, you will be able to:

Identify when and how it’s appropriate to take sides in couples therapy.

Explain the difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment. 

Outline the different therapeutic techniques required for working with grandiose clients compared to shame-based clients.

About Your Teacher

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, sought-after speaker, and bestselling author, who has transformed how we approach relationships. 

He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment. 

Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.

What People Say About Terry Real

“When I need advice, I call Terry Real…
His decades of clinical experience, research, and wisdom are invaluable to my patients, colleagues, and friends.”
—  Esther Perel, New York Times bestselling author and podcast host of Where Should We Begin
"RLT lines out very clear steps…
I've mostly worked with individuals because I find Couple's work so murky and hard to navigate. I love how RLT lines out very clear steps to go really deep and really make a difference for couples. I find it to be brave, vulnerable and smart. And those are 3 of my favorite things.”
—  Kassandra Brown
“Now I LOVE working with couples…
Terry’s work provided foundations of “telling the truth” to clients. I did it easily with individuals but stumbled with couples. Now I LOVE working with couples. It is now always profoundly moving & instructive.”
— Jeanne O.

Ready to Discover the Secrets of Effective Couples Therapy?

Tuesday, July 8, 2025 at 2–3:30pm ET
Register for the FREE Training

Terms & Conditions

 LIVE Webinar:

3 Shifts to Increase Your Effectiveness as a Couples Therapist

Dates: July 8, 2025

Participation and Authorization Agreement to be Videotaped

Please Read Carefully, and Sign Below

In consideration of my being videotaped for my participation in the webinar course “3 Shifts to Increase Your Effectiveness as a Couples Therapist” (the “RLI Course”), and for other valuable consideration, receipt of which is hereby acknowledged, I hereby irrevocably and unconditionally covenant, agree and acknowledge the following:

  1. Protected Health Information.
  1. As a participant in the RLI Course, I understand that during the LIVE course, my being audiovisually recorded is completely optional, and I do not need to speak, ask questions or comment during the course as I may then be audio and visually recorded. 
  1. If I am recorded, I hereby authorize and grant to Relational Life Institute (“RLI”) and its agents, employees and representatives, the right to audiovisually record, and photograph my participation in the RLI Course, and to include my appearance and participation within the recordings of the RLI Course (the “Recordings”). I understand that I am not required to disclose any health information about myself or any of my family members, but if I do, I authorize RLI to include any and all such health information (the “Health Information”) in the Recordings.  I also authorize other registrants of the RLI Course, including other participants and therapists, to observe on a live basis, and future subscribers of the RLI training materials to review the Recordings, including Health Information thereafter via RLI’s website and otherwise. I understand that RLI will receive remuneration from registrants of the RLI Course and subscribers of the RLI training materials.
  1. I further authorize RLI to use, disclose, display, publicly perform and modify the Recordings (which shall include my name, image, likeness, appearance, and voice as they appear in the Recordings) for future trainings and marketing purposes in perpetuity throughout the universe, in any manner or media, whether now existing or hereafter developed. I understand and agree that RLI shall have the right to receive remuneration from participants in the future trainings where the Recordings are utilized.
  2. I acknowledge and agree that RLI may use and disclose the Recordings as herein contemplated without my further consent, and without the payment of any royalty or other compensation of any kind or nature, to me.
  3. I acknowledge and agree that RLI is and shall be the sole and exclusive owner of all right, title, and interest in and to the Recordings, including all copyrights and renewals therein, and any other intellectual property rights therein, in perpetuity throughout the universe. I understand that uses and disclosures already made based upon my original authorization cannot be taken back.
  4. I understand that my therapeutic treatment is not conditioned upon my signing this authorization, and that I have the right to refuse to sign this authorization for  any reason or no reason.
  5. It is understood and agreed that such Recordings may be incorporated into presentations made by Terry Real, which on occasion may be presented by a third party person or entity (each, a “Third Party Host”).  With RLI’s prior consent, a Third Party Host may be granted the right to incorporate a recording of Terry Real’s presentation into materials utilized by such Third Party Host for teaching purposes, it being understood and agreed that in such event, the Third Party Host may receive remuneration for the use of Terry Real’s presentation, including the Recordings.  Notwithstanding the foregoing, it is specifically understood that no Third Party Host shall have the right to edit the Recordings or use them in any manner other than in the context of Terry Real’s presentation.

Dispute Resolution.  I acknowledge that in the event of any breach or alleged breach of the terms hereof by RLI, I shall not have the right to enjoin the use of the Recordings as contemplated hereunder, it being understood that my remedies shall be limited to an action at law to recover damages.  Any such action shall be brought in an arbitration in Boston, Massachusetts before a single arbitrator in accordance with the rules of the American Arbitration Association then obtaining.  The award of any arbitrator will be final and binding on each of the parties and may be entered as a judgement in any court of competent jurisdiction.

Informed Consent. By signing below, I hereby certify that I am at least 21 years of age, have read and fully understand the above terms and conditions, have had the right and opportunity to consult with counsel of my choosing in connection with this agreement prior to signing, and under no disability or impairment that affects my decision to sign this agreement. 

I acknowledge that I have completely read and fully understand this document and consent to participate and be filmed.

Please sign below to consent. Thank you.

Full Name___________________________________________________

Signature___________________________________________ Date__________________________

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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

3 Shifts to Increase Your Effectiveness as

a Couples Therapist

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Webinar on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Ph.D. and Terry Real, LICSW

Continuing Education credits offered:  1 credit hour

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email request a CE certificate. In order to receive a certificate, you must attend the full webinar and complete the Evaluation. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content: In this 90-minute training session, Terry Real will lead participants through 3 critical shifts in working with couples. These shifts reflect the different therapeutic techniques required in couples therapy compared to individual therapy. Participants will gain a deeper understanding of the techniques that work to explore the deeper issues at play between couples and how to move them closer to their desired outcome. 

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Identify when and how it’s appropriate to take sides in couples therapy.
  • Explain the difference between personal empowerment and relational empowerment. 
  • Outline the different therapeutic techniques required for working with grandiose clients compared to shame-based clients.

  

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost: This is a free course

Course Dates & Hours: 

July 8 2025, from 2-3:30pm Eastern Time

TO REGISTER:

Effective Couples Therapy

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until July 8, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

FAQ’s

How do I receive the Zoom link?

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate?

Certificates will be available within 21 business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios:

Kate Harris, Ph.D.: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first-hand the tools Terry teaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32-year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Healing in Connection: 

The Power of Relational Presence in Trauma Recovery

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Webinar facilitated by Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S; RLT Director of Training

Continuing Education credits offered: 1.5 credit hours

Course Description:

This free training introduces clinicians to the Relational Life Therapy (RLT) approach to trauma healing within couples therapy. Participants will learn how trauma-driven behaviors emerge in intimate relationships and how to identify and address these patterns in practice.

The session will demonstrate how conducting inner child work in the presence of a partner allows clients to have corrective emotional experiences, rewire trauma-rooted beliefs, and strengthens their relationships. Through lecture, clinical examples, and Q&A, participants will gain actionable insights on how to integrate relational presence and co-regulation into their clinical work.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

 

  • Describe how trauma impacts the nervous system and relational behaviors, and explain how RLT frames these adaptations as “Adaptive Child” strategies.
  • Identify three ways that relational connection and co-regulation contribute to healing trauma.
  • Apply core RLT principles – truth-telling, compassionate confrontation, and skill-building – to facilitate relational healing in couples therapy. 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   This is a free webinar!

Course Date & Hours:   Monday, September 22, 2025 2:30 – 4:00pm ET

TO REGISTER:  https://relationallife.com/trauma-recovery

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 22, 2025.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel. 

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Desirae Ysasi, LPC-S is a Licensed Professional Counselor – Supervisor with nearly two decades of experience, specializing in relationship counseling. Serving the San Antonio community since 2006, she works exclusively with couples in romantic relationships, folks in non-traditional romantic relationship structures (ethical nonmonogamy), and adults seeking to improve family dynamics. Desirae became a Certified Relational Life Therapist in 2018 trained directly by Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). She joined the faculty of the Relational Life Institute in 2022 and now serves as Director of Training & Certification, overseeing the global certification program. She has been the owner of Ysasi Counseling since 2014 and in the fall of 2024, Desirae opened Relational Life Texas, a virtual therapy group practice focused on RLT, providing relationship therapy across Texas.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

www.relationallife.com

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com