What Do You Do When You Can’t Remember the Last Time You Wanted Your Partner?
Explore the recorded 3-hour workshop to discover why a good relationship doesn’t automatically make for good sex, what’s really going on, and how you can begin to rebuild your sexual connection.
100% money-back guarantee · 14 days
Watch on your own or with your partner
You miss feeling wanted. And you’re tired of not knowing how to talk about it.
Maybe you miss being touched without having to ask. Or you miss being able to enjoy a kiss without worrying about what comes next.
The more one of you reaches, the more the other pulls away. And the harder it gets to say what you actually need.
This workshop helps you make sense of that cycle—and find a way to start the conversation without making either of you the problem.
Grounded in Relational Life Therapy®, developed by Terry Real.
Is It Them? Is It You?
The One Thing You Know for Sure Is You’re Not Talking About It
You love them. That part has never been in question. What you can’t work out – what you’ve been desperately trying to figure out for longer than you’d like to admit – is where the passion and spark went.
Perhaps they never initiate anymore – and when you initiate, you’re left feeling like they see the whole thing as a chore. So you’re left wondering: Are they even attracted to me now? Is there someone else?
Or maybe you’re the one who flinches when a kiss lingers a little longer. It’s you lying awake torturing yourself: What if I’m broken? What if something in me just switched off?
If any of this resonates, you’re not alone.
Millions of couples are caught in this same stalemate… all wondering what the answer is, and knowing one thing for certain: none of us are talking about it.
Which is why we’re opening the conversation in this recorded workshop with Anna Sterk, LMFT. In this 3-hour exploration, you’ll get to the heart of what’s going on between you – and the steps you can make to strengthen your sexual connection.
How Can Two People Who Are So Good Together Struggle to Connect in the Bedroom?
When the question is “Whose fault is it?”, you can miss the pattern between you.
Date nights and “spice it up” tips may change the setting. They don’t necessarily change what happens between you.
Each of you brings a story about intimacy. Who should want it. How often. What it means when desire changes.
Many of those beliefs took shape long before you met. Exploring them gives you a way forward that begins with understanding, rather than blame.
When you uncover what those stories are, and how they interact with each other, you finally have something you can work on.
And that work can start at your own pace.
The Way Back to Fulfilling Sexual Connection Begins With 3 Steps
step 1
See the Pattern
You’ll learn the cycle you’re caught in – one reaching, one pulling back – and the old stories you’re carrying that lie behind it. Once you know what’s going on, you know the moves to invite change.
step 2
Reconnect to Desire
Desire isn’t a switch that suddenly flicks on and off – it’s more like a muscle that fades when it goes unused, and it can be rebuilt. You’ll start that work on your own, nothing needed from your partner.
step 3
Start the Conversation
You’ll turn years of silence into one small, real request – and learn how to invite your partner along with you, so you can finally talk about the topic without it ending in arguments or shut downs.
What You’ll Learn
The two roles couples fall into when sex fades
Which one you’re playing, which one your partner is, and the underlying fear driving each – so you can stop taking the pattern personally.
Why every “no” cuts so deep
What a no in the bedroom is actually saying, and what it isn’t – without either of you having to be wrong.
Where your story about sex was written
The beliefs you absorbed long before this relationship about what sex should be and who should want it – and whose rules you’ve been following in bed.
How to want again
Why desire is something you can rebuild rather than a spark you wait for – starting with a private exercise you can do without telling anyone.
How to bring it up without it becoming a fight
The gentle way to open the most avoided conversation in your relationship right now – even if every past attempt went badly.
Here's Everything You Get When You Join
The recorded 3-hour workshop with Anna Sterk
Explore the workshop at your own pace on the learning platform.
Recorded Q&A
Hear Anna respond to personal questions from the workshop.
On-demand access to the recording
watch whenever you’re ready – or share it with your partner when the moment is right.
The Pleasure Journal exercise
guidance on how to keep a private journal to help you rebuild your own desire, at your own pace.
A guide of helpful resources
where to go next, whatever you discover.
A downloadable transcript
Read alongside the recording and revisit the ideas that resonate.
All of it for just $47.
This Workshop Is for You If…
You can explore this workshop on your own, with your partner, or as a therapist or coach.
It’s been months – or years – and you’ve lost track of whether you stopped counting or stopped noticing.
You’re the one who still initiates – and every no feels like a deeper rejection.
You’re the one who pulls away – and you’ve privately concluded that you’re the problem.
You’d be attending alone – your partner isn’t in this with you yet – and may not even know you’re looking.
You still love each other – but worry the spark may have permanently dimmed.
You’re a therapist or coach – who wants to see how Relational Life Therapy works with sexual disconnection.
Whether you’re married or partnered, together three years or thirty, attending as a couple or entirely on your own, this workshop will help you take the first steps towards building the fulfilling sexual connection you deserve.
Make Space for Your Sexual Connection
Learn at Your Own Pace
Watch privately, pause when you need to, and return to the ideas and exercises in your own time. You can begin on your own, whether or not your partner is ready to join you.
“Our sex life brings to the fore the most vulnerable parts of us coupled with the least skill to navigate them.
Anna Sterk is the person I trust to help guide you along that path.”
— Terry Real
Anna Sterk, LMFT, RLT Faculty
A certified RLT therapist, Anna Sterk (she/her), is a senior member of the Relational Life Institute Faculty. Her clinical career has been focused on systems and relationships from the beginning. She has worked in community mental health, eating disorder treatment, and private practice.
As she worked with couples and sexuality, Anna found that the way sex was discussed in trainings – and Western culture at large – didn’t match what she was seeing in her office. She drew on her history of training in feminist and cultural studies, integrated with her training as a systemic therapist, to find a way of working with couples – and sex and sexuality specifically – that really took root when she began studying with Terry Real.
She found that RLT provided the framework, techniques, and skills that made the abstract ideas make sense and created the path that Anna’s life and work have taken since that first training. Anna is now at the forefront of shaping how RLT tools and principles can translate to sex therapy, helping transform our relationships to sex – both within ourselves and with our partners.
“I thought Anna was an excellent facilitator – knowledgeable, generous, responsive.”
— Audrey Mayer
Frequently Asked Questions
How do I access the workshop?
This is an on-demand recorded workshop. After your purchase and access are confirmed, sign in to the RLI learning platform to watch the recording and use the workshop materials at your own pace.
Do I have to say anything… or share anything personal?
No. This is a recorded workshop, so you can watch privately. There is nothing to submit or share with a group. Pause whenever you need and take the exercises at a pace that feels comfortable.
Can I attend alone – or without my partner knowing?
Yes, and most people do. The workshop was designed for that. Everything Anna teaches starts with your half of the pattern – and there’s guidance on when, and whether, to bring your partner in later. You can return to the recording together when the time feels right.
Will this fix our sex life?
Here’s the honest answer: no one can promise you that, and you should be wary of anyone who does. What Anna can promise is that you’ll leave understanding the real cause of what happened in your relationship, with a way to rebuild your own desire and one concrete, doable step toward inviting your partner along with you. And if you need more support following the workshop, Anna will supply recommended resources and you can reach out to any of our Certified RLT therapists and coaches via our online directory.
Can I watch at my own pace?
Yes. The workshop is recorded, so you can watch at your own pace and return to the sections and exercises you want to explore further.
I’m a therapist or coach. Is this for me?
You’re welcome to take the workshop. It is designed around personal experience and relationships; the recorded Q&A addresses personal questions. Choose the professional option at checkout if that describes you. Both options include the same workshop.
What's your refund policy?
Your purchase is covered by a 100% money-back guarantee for 14 days. If the workshop isn’t right for you, email support@terryreal.com within 14 days of purchase to request a full refund.
I still have questions. Who can I speak to?
Email us anytime at support@terryreal.com and we’ll be glad to help.
Ready to Find Your Way Back to a Deeper Connection to Pleasure, Desire, and Your Partner
– Without Pressure or Blame?
Explore the recorded workshop with Anna Sterk, LMFT
On-demand learning, at your own pace
Just $47
