Embark on a Transformational Path To Build a More Loving Relationship With Yourself
Join leading therapist Terry Real for a 5-part online course to help you shift from judgment and harshness to acceptance and compassion—toward yourself and others.
1. Understand…
Where your sense of worth comes from and how your early experiences influence your self-esteem in the present.
2. Heal…
Your relationship with your inner critic, learn to handle it with loving firmness, and replace it with something more compassionate.
3. Transform…
Master the skills to hold yourself lovingly despite your imperfections and cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself for life.
Here’s An Overview of Everything You Get In Real Self-Esteem
5 recorded 90-minute Classes with Terry Real
- Tuesday, October 31, 2023, from 1:30-3pm ET
- Thursday, November 2, from 1:30-3pm ET
- Thursday, November 9, from 1:30-3pm ET
- Tuesday, November 14, from 1:30-3pm ET
- Tuesday, November 21, from 1:30-3pm ET
2 LIVE Bonus Classes with Julie Rudiger from the RLT Faculty
- Thursday, November 16, from 1:30-3pm
- Tuesday November 28, from 1:30-3pm
Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.
What You’ll Learn
Class 1 - What We Will Cover:
Explore the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence and understand how our sense of self is formed. Terry will also lead a powerful meditation live to support your inner child healing.
In this opening class, you’ll discover:
- What healthy self-esteem means.
- The 3 forms of unhealthy self-esteem common in Western culture:
- Other-based
- Performance-based
- Attribute-based
- Carried Shame (generational legacies)
- Loyalty issues: Leaving your parents behind
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 2 - What We Will Cover:
Uncover what’s holding you back from a healthy relationship with yourself. You’ll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how they’re affecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in the present.
You’ll explore:
- The biology of self attack: Our brain’s negativity bias.
- The 3 things that get in the way of healthy self-esteem:
- Shame & Grandiosity: Can your self-esteem be too high? Why healthy self-esteem isn’t just pumping yourself up to be “better than” others.
- Trauma: Understanding the impact of childhood relational trauma on your self-esteem.
- Harshness: Explore the negative cumulative impact of harshness (to ourselves and others) on our self-esteem.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 3 - What We Will Cover:
Get to know your stress adaptations: how you behave under stress. Uncover—and begin to heal—the unhealthy coping mechanisms you developed that once kept you protected, but now hinder connection in your adult life.
You’ll explore:
- How your Family of Origin affects your sense of self.
- The Relationship Grid: Understand your default response during stress.
- Description is Prescription: Where you are tells you where to go.
Relational Mindfulness: How to shift out of your default response into something calmer.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 4 - What We Will Cover:
Once you’ve identified and understood your stress responses, it’s time to heal them. In this class, you’ll learn how to replace negative self-talk with compassion, warmth, and accountability.
You’ll explore:
- Handling your inner critic: How to change your negative internal tape.
- Inner child work: How and when to work with your inner child, including the importance of providing nurture, guidance, and limits.
- How to change your self-talk to support healthy self-esteem.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 5 - What We Will Cover:
Our final class prepares you for lifelong healthy self-esteem. You’ll equip yourself with the tools to continue cultivating a better relationship with yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.
You’ll explore:
- The difference between Shame and Remorse: How to “get over yourself” when you make a mistake.
- How to catch yourself quicker in a negative thought spiral, so you can halt harsh self-talk.
- How to be in your Wise Adult self so you can learn from your mistakes and turn mistakes into opportunities for growth.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 1: What is REAL Self-Esteem?
Class 2: What Gets in the Way of Healthy Self-Esteem?
Class 3: Practices for Restoring Inherent Self-Esteem
Class 4: Love Your Inner Child, Handle Your Inner Critic
Class 5: Long term practices for healthy self esteem
Class 1 - What We Will Cover:
Explore the difference between self-esteem and self-confidence and understand how our sense of self is formed. Terry will also lead a powerful meditation live to support your inner child healing.
In this opening class, you’ll discover:
- What healthy self-esteem means.
- The 3 forms of unhealthy self-esteem common in Western culture:
- Other-based
- Performance-based
- Attribute-based
- Carried Shame (generational legacies)
- Loyalty issues: Leaving your parents behind
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 2 - What We Will Cover:
Uncover what’s holding you back from a healthy relationship with yourself. You’ll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how they’re affecting your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors in the present.
You’ll explore:
- The biology of self attack: Our brain’s negativity bias.
- The 3 things that get in the way of healthy self-esteem:
- Shame & Grandiosity: Can your self-esteem be too high? Why healthy self-esteem isn’t just pumping yourself up to be “better than” others.
- Trauma: Understanding the impact of childhood relational trauma on your self-esteem.
- Harshness: Explore the negative cumulative impact of harshness (to ourselves and others) on our self-esteem.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 3 - What We Will Cover:
Get to know your stress adaptations: how you behave under stress. Uncover—and begin to heal—the unhealthy coping mechanisms you developed that once kept you protected, but now hinder connection in your adult life.
You’ll explore:
- How your Family of Origin affects your sense of self.
- The Relationship Grid: Understand your default response during stress.
- Description is Prescription: Where you are tells you where to go.
Relational Mindfulness: How to shift out of your default response into something calmer.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 4 - What We Will Cover:
Once you’ve identified and understood your stress responses, it’s time to heal them. In this class, you’ll learn how to replace negative self-talk with compassion, warmth, and accountability.
You’ll explore:
- Handling your inner critic: How to change your negative internal tape.
- Inner child work: How and when to work with your inner child, including the importance of providing nurture, guidance, and limits.
- How to change your self-talk to support healthy self-esteem.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Class 5 - What We Will Cover:
Our final class prepares you for lifelong healthy self-esteem. You’ll equip yourself with the tools to continue cultivating a better relationship with yourself and feel comfortable in your own skin.
You’ll explore:
- The difference between Shame and Remorse: How to “get over yourself” when you make a mistake.
- How to catch yourself quicker in a negative thought spiral, so you can halt harsh self-talk.
- How to be in your Wise Adult self so you can learn from your mistakes and turn mistakes into opportunities for growth.
Live with Terry Real
Live with Terry Real
Plus these special bonus classes with Julie Rudiger, LCSW, from the RLT Faculty…
Bonus Class #1 - What We Will Cover:
Where does your inner critic come from? Take your understanding to a deeper level as you explore:
- The concepts of Modeling and Reacting in your environment and how they contribute to your internal critical voice.
- How our cultural values contribute to our ongoing negative self assessment. This can include social media, peer expectations, family expectations.
- How our economy depends on people having “outside-in self-esteem” rather than inherent self worth.
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Bonus Class #2 - What We Will Cover:
To support your ongoing practice of cultivating healthy self-esteem, Julie will introduce you to further practices. This class is also your last chance to ask any questions about the course content.
Examples of the practices you’ll explore, include:
- Journaling practices.
- Naming and seeing your inner critic as separate from you.
- Mindfulness practices to disengage from your inner critic.
- Having unconditional love, especially when you screw up.
- Savoring your victories and positive experiences.
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Bonus Class #1: The Inner Critic
Bonus Class #2: Practices to Develop Self-Esteem (with Q&A)
Bonus Class #1 - What We Will Cover:
Where does your inner critic come from? Take your understanding to a deeper level as you explore:
- The concepts of Modeling and Reacting in your environment and how they contribute to your internal critical voice.
- How our cultural values contribute to our ongoing negative self assessment. This can include social media, peer expectations, family expectations.
- How our economy depends on people having “outside-in self-esteem” rather than inherent self worth.
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Bonus Class #2 - What We Will Cover:
To support your ongoing practice of cultivating healthy self-esteem, Julie will introduce you to further practices. This class is also your last chance to ask any questions about the course content.
Examples of the practices you’ll explore, include:
- Journaling practices.
- Naming and seeing your inner critic as separate from you.
- Mindfulness practices to disengage from your inner critic.
- Having unconditional love, especially when you screw up.
- Savoring your victories and positive experiences.
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
Live with Julie Rudiger, LCSW
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Let's Talk About Your Relationship With You...
Is it loving and compassionate… even when you screw up?
Or is it harsh? Critical? Unforgiving?
If it’s the latter, it’s completely understandable. Most of us battle with a negative self-image and the important thing to know is that it’s not our fault.
We weren’t born with a negative inner voice, but we’re ensnared in a culture that thrives on external validation, fostering competition, comparison, and criticism over compassion, connection, and collaboration.
We’ve been conditioned to believe that our value hinges on performance, attributes, and others’ opinions.
But none of that is true.
You have worth simply because you are alive.
Your worth cannot be added to or subtracted from. You are no worse than, no better than anyone else on this planet.
And the good news is, you can feel comfortable in your own skin and experience the positive ripple effect of that transformation in every aspect of your life—from your relationships with others to your performance at work.
That’s what you’ll learn inside Real Self-Esteem. This 5-session course will equip you with the knowledge, strategies, and tools to handle your negative inner voice, and reconnect to your inherent sense of worth.
Join us for a profoundly transformative journey to building a healthier, more loving relationship with yourself.
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“Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”
“Terry Real’s work is nothing short of miraculous… His work has quite simply changed my life. Read this book. It could well change yours.”
Portland, OR
“Terry Real’s Boot Camp was life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together 30+ years so it’d be fair to wonder what would we possibly have to work on. My love-avoidant, grandiose man said this shifted our relationship to a deeper, more loving level; his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees. The Boot Camp weekend opened up new ways to talk, to see ourselves and to love each other.”
Daniella S.
“Thank you for introducing me to the real Laurence, and for introducing him to himself. I am happier in our relationship than I have been in many many years. I use the strategies you taught us with Laurence as well as with my siblings and friends. They work! If we never found someone willing to be straight and honest we would not be together , that much I know. Your honesty about Laurence allowed me to stand down. Now that I am able to stand down I am able to try to be the person I want to be in this relationship.”
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About Your Teachers
Terry Real, creator of Relational Life Therapy
Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
Julie Rudiger, LCSW, Senior RLT Therapist
Julie has been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008. She became certified in 2010, and since then, her practice and personal life has transformed.
Julie loves the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenet of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of her practice. She loves the role of “coach” in teaching the skills. She believes most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families. Julie is also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, which helps individuals and couples learn the skills in 2-day intensive workshops.
A senior RLT therapist and a member of the RLT Faculty, Julie is part of the team responsible for training mental health practitioners in the Relational Life Therapy method.
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this course pre-recorded?
Yes—you receive instant access to all classes and our online community to ask follow-up questions.
How long will I have access to the course material?
Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.
Will this course really transform my self-esteem?
If you commit to showing up, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate a more loving relationship with yourself. Your self-worth will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you hold yourself in warm regard despite your imperfections and mistakes.
I still have questions. Who can I speak to?
Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.
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