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Embark on a Transformational Path To Build a More Loving Relationship With Yourself

Join leading therapist Terry Real for a 5-part online course to help you shift from judgment and harshness to acceptance and compassion—toward yourself and others.
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1. Understand…

Where your sense of worth comes from and how your early experiences influence your self-esteem in the present.

2. Heal…

Your relationship with your inner critic, learn to handle it with loving firmness, and replace it with something more compassionate.

3. Transform…

Master the skills to hold yourself lovingly despite your imperfections and cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself for life.

Here’s An Overview of Everything You Get In Real Self-Esteem

5 recorded 90-minute Classes with Terry Real
  • Tuesday, October 31, 2023, from 1:30-3pm ET
  • Thursday, November 2, from 1:30-3pm ET
  • Thursday, November 9, from 1:30-3pm ET
  • Tuesday, November 14, from 1:30-3pm ET
  • Tuesday, November 21, from 1:30-3pm ET
2 LIVE Bonus Classes with Julie Rudiger from the RLT Faculty
  • Thursday, November 16, from 1:30-3pm
  • Tuesday November 28, from 1:30-3pm
Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material
Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.

What You’ll Learn

Plus these special bonus classes with Julie Rudiger, LCSW, from the RLT Faculty…
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Is it loving and compassionate… even when you screw up? 

Or is it harsh? Critical? Unforgiving? 

If it’s the latter, it’s completely understandable. Most of us battle with a negative self-image and the important thing to know is that it’s not our fault.

We weren’t born with a negative inner voice, but we’re ensnared in a culture that thrives on external validation, fostering competition, comparison, and criticism over compassion, connection, and collaboration.

We’ve been conditioned to believe that our value hinges on performance, attributes, and others’ opinions.

But none of that is true.

You have worth simply because you are alive.

Your worth cannot be added to or subtracted from. You are no worse than, no better than anyone else on this planet.

And the good news is, you can feel comfortable in your own skin and experience the positive ripple effect of that transformation in every aspect of your life—from your relationships with others to your performance at work. 

That’s what you’ll learn inside Real Self-Esteem. This 5-session course will equip you with the knowledge, strategies, and tools to handle your negative inner voice, and reconnect to your inherent sense of worth. 

Join us for a profoundly transformative journey to building a healthier, more loving relationship with yourself.

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Gwyneth Paltrow
founder and CEO of goop

“Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”

Bradley Cooper
actor and filmmaker

“Terry Real’s work is nothing short of miraculous… His work has quite simply changed my life. Read this book. It could well change yours.”

Sarah P,

Portland, OR

“Terry Real’s Boot Camp was life-changing for me and my husband. We’ve been together 30+ years so it’d be fair to wonder what would we possibly have to work on. My love-avoidant, grandiose man said this shifted our relationship to a deeper, more loving level; his love-dependent, grandiose wife agrees. The Boot Camp weekend opened up new ways to talk, to see ourselves and to love each other.”

Daniella S.

“Thank you for introducing me to the real Laurence, and for introducing him to himself. I am happier in our relationship than I have been in many many years. I use the strategies you taught us with Laurence as well as with my siblings and friends. They work! If we never found someone willing to be straight and honest we would not be together , that much I know. Your honesty about Laurence allowed me to stand down. Now that I am able to stand down I am able to try to be the person I want to be in this relationship.”

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About Your Teachers

Terry Real, creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker. 

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.

Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date. 

His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.  

Julie Rudiger, LCSW, Senior RLT Therapist

Julie has been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008. She became certified in 2010, and since then, her practice and personal life has transformed. 

Julie loves the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenet of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of her practice. She loves the role of “coach” in teaching the skills. She believes most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families. Julie is also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, which helps individuals and couples learn the skills in 2-day intensive workshops.

A senior RLT therapist and a member of the RLT Faculty, Julie is part of the team responsible for training mental health practitioners in the Relational Life Therapy method.

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CEU REQUIREMENTS:

CEU Information for Real Self-Esteem Course October and November 2023

Hosted by The Relational Life Institute – Continuing Education Details

NOTE – All participants will receive an email from us AFTER THE COURSE ENDS with the link to purchase and receive the CEUs.

Participants must have paid fee of $20, attended both full days LIVE and completed an evaluation to receive a certificate. Failure to complete any of the course will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Attendance will be taken. Partial credit is not available. Certificates will be available following course completion at www.ceuregistration.com


Approved for 7.5 CEs for Intermediate Mental Health Professionals

Please note that CEs are an additional cost of $20 and can be purchased at the end of the program. Evaluations and Certificates are available online following course completion, instructions will be sent to by email once the course completes.

It is the participant’s responsibility to check if their state is approved for CEs through the Specific CE Information below. No refunds will be given on CE purchases for failure to check state approval.

Presenter Bio

Terry Real:

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW:

Julie has been a licensed therapist since 1993; and is an esteemed member of the RLI Faculty.

She was introduced to Terry Real’s ‘Relational Life Therapy’ in 2008 and became RLT Certified in 2010. Julie loves the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenet of RLT, and teaching both clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of her practice.

Julie states that “most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families.” Julie is also co-leader of the “Relationship Bootcamp” held in Denver, where she and her co-facilitators help individuals and couples learn these skills during this 2-day intensive workshop.

 

Target Audience

Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level

The course content is appropriate for Intermediate level clinicians.

Location:

Live Interactive Online 

Cost

This course is $397 single pay or $145/3 monthly payments.

Course Dates & Hours:

  1. Oct 31st from 1:30-3pm ET (Tuesday)
  2. Nov 2nd from 1:30-3pm ET (Thursday)
  3. Nov 9th from 1:30-3pm ET (Thursday)
  4. Nov 14th from 1:30-3pm ET (Tuesday)
  5. Nov 21st from 1:30-3pm ET (Tuesday)

Policies

For questions or concerns, please send an email to support@terryreal.com

Commercial Support Disclaimer

There is no conflict of interest for this program.

Cancellation Policy

You may request a refund up to Nov 5th, 2023.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase. 

CEU REQUIREMENTS:

Satisfactory Completion – Live Interactive Online

NOTE – All participants will receive an email from us AFTER THE COURSE ENDS with the link to purchase and receive the CEUs.


Satisfactory Completion Participants must have paid tuition fee of $20, attended both full days LIVE and completed an evaluation to receive a certificate. Failure to complete any of the course will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Attendance will be taken. Partial credit is not available. Certificates available after satisfactory course completion at www.ceuregistration.com

Any questions regarding accreditation must be directed to you own Board Authority.

Psychologists
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0018. 7.5 contact hour.

Social Workers
IL-SWs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #159.000785.  7.5 CE hour.
MN: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the Minnesota Board of Social Work, CEP #2281 approval 12/27/22 – 12/27/23.  7.5 CE hour.
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider (#0006) of continuing education for licensed social workers. This program is approved for 7.5 contact hour.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 7.5 clock hour, #RCST110701

Counselors/Marriage and Family Therapists
IL-MFTs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #168-000141. 7.5 hour.
NY-LMHCs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0015.  7.5 contact hour.
NY-LMFTs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists. #MFT-0011.  7.5 contact hour.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for 7.5 clock hour, #RCST110701
TX: Approved CE Sponsor through the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage & Family Therapists. Provider #151 7.5 CE hour.

Creative Arts Therapists
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed creative arts therapists, #CAT-0005. 7.5 contact hour.

Chemical Dependency Counselors
CA: Provider approved by CCAPP, Provider #4N-00-434-0224 for 1vCEH. CCAPP is an ICRC member which has reciprocity with most ICRC member states
TX: Provider approved by the TCBAP Standards Committee, Provider No. 1749-06, 7.5 hour general. Expires 1/31/24.  Complaints about provider or workshop content may be directed to the TCBAP Standards Committee, 1005 Congress Avenue, Ste. 460, Austin, Texas 78701, Fax Number (515) 476-7597.

Educators
TX: R. Cassidy Seminars is an approved provider with the Texas Education Agency CPE# 501456. This course is 7.5 CE hour.

Nurses
CA: Provider approved by the CA Board of Registered Nursing, Provider #CeP15554, for 7.5 contact hour

Dentists
CA: R. Cassidy Seminars is a provider approved by the Dental Board of California as a registered provider of continuing education. RP# 4874 7.5 CE hour.

Disability Access – If you require ADA accommodations, please contact our office 30 days or more before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.

 

CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Working With Men

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs.

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: A LIVE Online Course facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW; and Julie Rudiger, LCSW

Continuing Education credits offered: 12  credit hours

Course Description:

Over eight live online classes, learn the skills to engage, motivate, and create breakthrough change with resistant male clients in this live, practice-focused training led by renowned couples therapist and male-psychology expert Terry Real, alongside RLT Faculty Member Julie Rudiger, LCSW. Grounded in Relational Life Therapy (RLT), the course unpacks how patriarchal conditioning and performance-based self-worth fuel disconnection, defensiveness, and shutdown, then shows you how to build trust with even the most challenging men through clear, compassionate confrontation that preserves the therapeutic alliance. You’ll learn to create effective leverage for transformation without triggering collapse, withdrawal, or escalated resistance; tailor interventions for the three common presentations—“boys, bullies, and avoiders”; and reframe masculinity so emotional expression is aligned with strength, honor, and integrity rather than weakness. Through demonstrations and actionable tools from both instructors, you’ll guide men in trauma healing and relational skill development that supports healthier partnerships and parenting. Leave with a concrete RLT roadmap you can use immediately to help clients move from resistance to responsibility and from disconnection to genuine intimacy.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to be able to:

  • Summarize the cultural shaping of masculinity and its consequences.
  • Recognize shame and grandiosity as dual defenses tied to male self-worth.
  • Develop skills to help men shift from defensiveness to compassion.
  • Identify how shame and performance-based esteem show up in male clients.
  • Discuss culturally sensitive ways to challenge entitlement and grandiosity.
  • Identify and work with three major types of difficult men: boys, bullies, and avoiders.
  • Describe how to use leverage as a tool to create change.
  • Identify patterns of resistance in men and learn how to engage them effectively.
  • Utilize leverage to create internal or external motivation for change.
  • Illustrate empowerment to the partner or family system to create pressure that opens the door to transformation.
  • Compare and differentiate between their wounded child, adaptive child, and functional adult selves.
  • Develop an internal caregiving relationship with their inner children rather than expecting partners to repair old wounds.
  • Demonstrate full relational responsibility as an adult, especially in high-conflict, high-defensiveness relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Coaches, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:   $497 or three payments of $197 each.

Course Date & Hours:   

1pm-2:30pm Eastern Time on:

September 10, 17, 24; October 1, 8, 2025 

TO REGISTER: https://relationallife.com/working-with-men

Cancellation Policy: You may cancel your registration up until September 16, 2025

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us at support@terryreal.com 

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com 

Instructor’s Bio:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.  Terry founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Julie Rudiger, LCSW has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker for the last 30 years. In 2002, Julie opened her private practice, where she has helped hundreds of individuals and couples over the last two decades. Her professional journey took a transformative turn in 2008 when she began training with Terry Real, the founder of Relational Life Therapy (RLT). Julie has since used RLT to guide clients in discovering self-esteem, healing early wounds, and fostering deeper, more authentic relationships. A faculty member at the Relational Life Institute since 2022, Julie now trains other therapists and leads community workshops, including Men’s Groups and Relationship Skills Bootcamps. Additionally, she is trained in EMDR, ACT, DBT, Gestalt, and the Enneagram.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files.

A copy of this Grievance Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com