A FREE 90-Minute Training: Finally Start Parenting as a Team
Why Does the Way Your Partner Parents Drive You Crazy?
That urgency to stop them, fix them, overrule them – it’s not the calm, reasonable version of you making a parenting call. Learn what’s really going on and how to get back on the same side.
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Tuesday, April 21, 2026 · 12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET · LIVE with Terry Real · 90 Minutes
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When you see your partner handle something with your child and think:
“Why the hell would you do that?”
- You said no to staying up late… and five minutes later your partner says, “Okay, just this once.”
- Your kid rolls their eyes… and your partner laughs it off while you’re thinking, “That’s not okay.”
- Your kid forgets their homework… and your partner launches into a lecture while you’re trying to calm the panic.
And then the argument starts.
And you find yourself wondering: “If we both want the best for our kids… why can’t they see what I see?”
Terry Real has a name for this moment.
He calls it Parental Hell.
It’s the painful experience of watching your partner do something that makes every nerve in your body scream at them to stop.
Most of us think these moments mean something is wrong with our partners.
But in Terry’s experience working with families for nearly forty years, these moments are actually incredibly common.
They happen when two caring parents are trying to protect different things.
One is protecting structure and responsibility.
The other is protecting connection and emotional safety.
Both instincts come from love. But when couples get polarized into those roles, parenting starts to feel like a battle instead of a partnership.
The good news is, you can learn to work as a team without one of you having to be “wrong.”
Join This Free Parenting Training to Discover:
Why neither of you is the problem
– and how each of you is usually seeing something real that the other one is missing.
How to set limits without becoming the bad guy
– there’s a way to be firm and kind at the same time. It’s not about being tough or soft. It’s about something else entirely.
The real reason your partner’s parenting triggers you so deeply
– it’s not about screen time or bedtime. Something deeper is running the show.
Why trying to be the “perfect parent” is making things harder
– and the surprising research about what children really need to grow up secure.
PLUS live Q&A with Terry
– where you can ask questions about your specific parenting challenges.
If you feel like you can’t get on the same page. Or you’re worried you’re doing damage you can’t undo.
You’re not alone – and this is more fixable than you think.
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This Free Live Training is For You If…
You set a boundary and your partner immediately softens it – and you’re tired of being the only one who holds the line.
You hear your partner’s tone with the kids and something in your body clenches – and you can’t quite explain why it hits you that hard.
You’ve had the same fight about parenting more times than you can count – and you’re wondering if you’ll ever get on the same page.
You want something different for your kids than what you had – you’re just not sure how to give it to them.
You’re co-parenting with an ex, a single parent, or blended family and wondering how you can best navigate your circumstances.
“When you watch your partner do to your child some version of what was done to you – that’s one of the most painful moments in family life. And it’s also an opportunity to finally break the chain and give your kids the gift of something better than you had.”
— Terry Real
Meet Your Teacher:
Terry Real
Terry Real is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and the founder of the Relational Life Institute.
For over 40 years, he has worked with thousands of couples, individuals, and families – earning a reputation as “the turnaround guy” for his extraordinary ability to help relationships on the brink. Terry is the author of four books, including the New York Times bestseller Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, and his work has been featured on Oprah, Good Morning America, The Today Show, and in The New York Times, The Wall Street Journal, and Psychology Today.
Terry is also a father. He raised two sons – now adults in their thirties – and will be the first to tell you he didn’t get it right every time. What he learned from decades of clinical work and from his own family is that the patterns running your parenting decisions today started long before your kids were born. And they can be changed.
“When I need advice, I call Terry Real. His decades of clinical experience, research, and wisdom are invaluable.”
Esther Perel, psychotherapist and New York Times bestselling author
“Real’s approach teaches us how to step outside of the culture of individualism and embrace our interconnectedness. We can use it to heal a single relationship and to shift our collective culture.”
Gwyneth Paltrow, founder and CEO of goop
Testimonials
“It felt very profound and healing for me…
I loved Terry’s energy and how tenderly he spoke to the students when they came on to share. He made the concepts so clear and easy to understand and they really resonated with me. I appreciated his competence and his warmth.”
— Michelle
“The dots’ are beginning to connect for me…
Attending a workshop like this and listening closely to TR et al, made the connections between those dots stronger and clearer, and assisted me to validate my interpretation of all of my readings to date.
My journey to understand my SELF and heal, to become a better person, husband, father etc has been a long road. I am cherishing every moment of this journey.”
— Jim MacDougall
“It was a blessing to be with Terry and witness a master at work…
Terry’s loving presence, his journey to recovery, and his mastery of the skills he teaches are transformative, inspiring, and healing.”
— Leslie Sann
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You’re Both Right!
How to Stop Killing Each Other and Act Like a Parental Team
You’re not alone and you’re not getting this wrong, you just need to learn to work together.
A Free Live Training with Terry Real
Tuesday, April 21, 2026 · 12:00 PM – 1:30 PM ET · LIVE
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