- Monday 16th - Tuesday 17th of September, 2024
A two-day workshop in London hosted by the Relational Life Institute
A Two-Day Training in Relational Life Therapy with LIVE Couples Therapy Demonstrations by Terry Real
A Two-Day Training in Relational Life Therapy with LIVE Couples Therapy Demonstrations by Terry Real
Join master couples therapist Terry Real for an in-person training as you watch him conduct life-changing work with one couple and discover the RLT techniques behind the transformation.
9am – 5pm Both Days
One Birdcage Walk, London, SW1H 9JJ
Discover the Progressive RLT Tools to Effectively Navigate the Complexities of Couples Therapy
Join Terry Real in London for two days of theory, observation, and Q&A to strengthen your work with couples. This is a rare chance to observe his couples therapy sessions in person and learn the theory and techniques behind his RLT model.
RLT breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy to produce dramatic, lasting change in relationships—and the people within them.
In this workshop, you’ll learn precisely what makes RLT so effective through theoretical lectures and lively Q&A with Terry. You’ll also see the remarkable results first-hand as you observe Terry working in-depth with one couple over three sessions.
You’ll be introduced to seven powerful data-gathering tools to get to the heart of the problem, discover how to conduct deep trauma work in the partner’s presence, and teach your couples the relational skills they need to sustain intimacy for life.
What You’ll Learn
RLT is known for producing deep, permanent change quickly. It transforms not just the relationship but the character of each partner.
As you observe Terry, you will learn how RLT works in three phases:
Phase 1: Waking up the Client
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Loving Confrontation:
Terry will show you how to help each partner identify their dysfunctional "relational stance"—their part of the endless vicious circle they're both stuck in. For instance: "The more I pursue, the more you distance, and the more you distance, the more I pursue." -
Joining Through the Truth
This is the core skill here and is the art of engaging the client's Wise Adult part of the psyche (their non-reactive prefrontal cortex) and forming an alliance with them by sharing difficult truths right out of the starting gate.
Phase 2: Trauma Work in the Presence of One Another
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Deep Inner Child Work
RLT is unique in that we do trauma work within the couples context. It's infinitely preferable for one partner to dive into the roots of the childhood adaptation they now bring into their relationship with their partner sitting beside them to doing such transformative work behind closed doors. -
Show Me The Thumbprint, and I'll Tell You About the Thumb
Once we identify each partner's Adaptive Child strategy, the next question is: "Where did you learn this?" What, and who, were you adapting to?
You'll learn RLT's unique “parts” work: a distinctly relational approach in which the client encounters and begins to reparent their immature, trauma-based parts, opening up understanding and compassion in their partners.
Phase 3: Skill-Building (Strengthening the Best Part of You)
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Sustaining Intimacy
RLT does not believe, as many current trauma therapies do, that once one resolves trauma, partners will know how to be intimate. We live in an individualistic, patriarchal culture that does not equip us with the skills we need to sustain true intimacy. -
Relational Living
The final stage of therapy arms the Wise Adult part of each client with a sophisticated yet practical map to live in a new, relational way. You'll learn how to stand up for yourself and cherish your partner in the same breath, how to listen with compassion rather than defensiveness, and the specific steps of repair. These are a few examples of a repertoire of uncommon skills capable of delivering lasting intimacy.
One of the wonderful aspects of RLT is that you cannot learn this work without experiencing the benefits for yourself. This training introduces you to the powerful techniques that will turn around your clients’ relationships and the essential relational skills to transform your own.
How it Works
You’ll join Terry Real for two days of in-person training at One Birdcage Walk, London, SW1H 9JJ.
Each day will be a mix of couples session observation, Q&A, and theory:
Day 1
Day 2
Refreshments will be served upon arrival and at coffee breaks throughout the day including tea, coffee, and cakes. Guests will also be able to choose from a variety of delicious options for lunch, included in the ticket price.
Who Should Attend?
This training is for mental health professionals already working with couples or looking to add couples work to their practice.
Please note this workshop is not suitable for the general public.
Book Your Place
Tickets to this event cost £375, including lunch and refreshments throughout the day.
One payment of
£375
Who is Terry Real?
Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.
A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.
Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.
His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
How Observing Terry’s LIVE Sessions Has Helped Your Colleagues
I have been doing couple’s work for 23+ years. It is never easy and always a challenge. I started my journey learning from Terry Real and I am STILL learning and growing! Terry’s work is SO IMPORTANT if not imperative and should never be missed if you also want to do couple’s therapy. I recommend 100%, so, so fantastic and NOT JUST MORE theory, but you learn INTERVENTIONS!!!
— Dr. Fallynn C. Cox
Rarely does a therapist have the ability to get to the heart of a matter quickly. Incorporating fierce honesty, deep listening, compassion, and a way forward, Terry shares insights and wisdom from beyond. After he worked with each couple, it felt like a little piece of suffering was lifted from the universe.
— Christine King
Instead of hearing how to do therapy, the Couple’s Experiential provided the opportunity to watch Terry Real, a master therapist, work with four couples who were on the brink of divorce. It was an exquisite opportunity to see Real Life Therapy in action. As a result of attending, I will hold my clients in a more loving space while having specific goals and caring far less about outcome. I found it life changing!
— Janet M Congo
I learned so much from observing Terry and then being able to debrief with him over lunch and at the end of each day. Very powerful, very educational, very comprehensive. It’s well worth the time and money. I plan to attend again. Thank you Terry!
— Cindy Hastert
It is a wonder to watch Terry work… The mix of challenge, support and empathy is quite breathtaking. Finally, the meetings with the Observer group was enriching, often moving. All in all, just what a great educational experience should be.
— Mary Anne Lushe, LMSW, LMFT.
Frequently Asked Questions
Monday 16th – Tuesday 17th September, 2024
9am – 5pm both days
The training is held at One Birdcage Walk, London, SW1H 9JJ.
Parking:
Public Transport: Nearest tube stations are Westminster (Jubilee/District & Circle lines) and St. James’s Park (District & Circle lines), both just a 5-minute walk away.
Kindly arrive from 9:00am, using the main entrance. The registration desk will be easily visible, staffed by our friendly team who will assist with check-in and provide you with your name badge. Upon entry, you will be directed downstairs to the cloakroom to store any belongings and enjoy refreshments before the first talk scheduled to start at 09:30am. The lecture theatre will be open for seating at 09:15am. We kindly ask that guests refrain from occupying the back three rows to ensure optimal visibility and engagement for all attendees.
The event costs £375 to attend for the full two days and includes lunch and refreshments.
Please note, guests are responsible for arranging their own accommodation and transport.
No, this workshop is the perfect introduction to Terry and his Relational Life Therapy model. You will gain a solid understanding of how the model works and come away with fresh ideas, tools, and interventions to use in your own sessions.
You can contact the Relational Life Institute by emailing support@terryreal.com.