Online training from leading couples therapist Terry Real and the Relational Life Institute faculty

Relational Life Therapy Level 1 

Learn powerful techniques to get to the heart of couples therapy issues, build trust with clients, and set them on a swift path to reconnection.
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🗓 Starts Tuesday, January 14

10-hour online training with Terry Real and the Relational Life Institute faculty

Gain Practical Tools to Identify Patterns, Shift Dynamics, and Reconnect Couples with Relational Life Therapy Level 1

Learn how to apply transformational tools in couples therapy sessions to build trust, break negative patterns, and save couples from the brink of divorce.

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🗓 Starts Tuesday, January 14

🗓 Starts Tuesday, January 14

Gain Practical Tools to Identify Patterns, Shift Dynamics, and Reconnect Couples with Relational Life Therapy Level 1

Learn how to apply transformational tools in couples therapy sessions to build trust, break negative patterns, and save couples from the brink of divorce.

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“Family dysfunction rolls down from generation to generation, like a fire in the woods, taking down everything in its path until one person in one generation has the courage to turn and face the flames. That person brings peace to their ancestors and spares the children that follow.”
- Terry Real, Creator of Relational Life Therapy

A Note From Terry Real

Welcome!

Connection has never felt more precious or critical. We have never wanted more from our relationships, not just our romantic relationships but friends, family, and children.

At no time in history has it been more clear that intimacy is life’s grail.

Yet divorce attorneys have never been busier. Perhaps this is because we all have lived in an anti-relational, addictive, narcissistic culture that may give lip service to the importance of relationships but has not taught us the skills to realize them.

As therapists, we can fill in those gaps. There is a world of relational technology that can be taught and mastered once we open to the need for it. We can give our clients those tools.

This is the basis of Relational Life Therapy (RLT)—my life’s work.

Developing my approach has been a thirty-year project. When I first got into the reality of practice, the couples who came to me were suffering, and the tools I had were inadequate for the task. So I made it my mission to figure out a way to bring relief, healing, and change to my clients.

After teaching RLT workshops all over the US, I created this online course to make the material available to more people. I designed RLT Level 1 to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. It is also the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

I have seen this model help thousands of therapists get faster and more effective results for their clients.

In the kinds of cases I see, it can be quite detrimental to let therapy drag on. RLT allows you to go deep and understand the negative patterns in the relationship quickly to help clients make rapid and substantive changes.

I will give you the fruit of my life’s work in this training. 

I encourage you to join me and my terrific faculty for 10 hours of training. You’ll join myself and Kate Harris from the RLI faculty for five 2-hour classes. I will lead the teaching through pre-recorded livestream lectures before Kate takes your questions LIVE to deepen your learning.

These sessions will be packed full of real case demonstrations so you can see how the techniques translate into practice.

I look forward to sharing the transformative power of RLT with you.

I look forward to sharing the transformative power of RLT with you.

I look forward to sharing the transformative power of RLT with you.

Warmly,

Terry

An Overview of What You Get Inside Relational Life Therapy Level 1

FIVE 2-Hour Classes with Terry Real (Pre-recorded) and RLI Faculty (LIVE)

(Classes consist of pre-recorded lecture & couples therapy demos from Terry and LIVE Q&A with RLI Faculty)

Class 1: Tuesday, January 14, 12–2 pm ET

Class 2: Tuesday, January 21, 12–2 pm ET

Class 3: Tuesday, January 28, 12–2 pm ET

Class 4: Tuesday, February 4, 12–2 pm ET

Class 5: Tuesday, February 11, 12–2 pm ET

Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material

Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.

A Supportive Community of Like-Minded Peers

Join your private community group to share your progress and give and receive support as you apply your learnings to your work.

Plus 3 special bonuses…

SPECIAL
BONUS 1

75-Minute RLT Couples Therapy Demonstration with Terry Real

Witness the speed and precision of RLT firsthand with an inside look at one of Terry’s full-length couples therapy sessions. You will observe RLT Phase 1 in action to help you cement your understanding of how the data gathering and diagnostic tools translate into practice.

SPECIAL
BONUS 2

60-minute interview with Terry and Gabor Maté

An in-depth discussion between Terry and Dr. Gabor Maté (renowned speaker, author, and trauma expert) on how trauma impacts our physical health and the health of our relationships.

SPECIAL
BONUS 3

60-minute interview with Terry & Carol Gilligan 

Discover the origins of Relational Life Therapy in this candid conversation between Terry and his colleague and friend, the feminist psychologist Carol Gilligan.

SPECIAL
BONUS 4

3 Video Clip Demonstrations From Our Faculty to Role-Play Key Learning Outcomes

Watch senior RLT therapists and trainers role-play as real couples while a practitioner showcases data-gathering techniques to gain deeper insight into RLT Phase 1 and key learning outcomes.  

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10 CEs are available for this course.

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What You’ll Learn

Explore the Relational Life Therapy Level 1 Curriculum

Class 1: What is Relational Life Therapy?

Tuesday, January 14, 12–2 pm ET

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described.

Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness and psychological patriarchy.

Learning Objectives:

  • Explain the 3 Phases of RLT and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  • Understand the RLT view of power imbalances in couples, of psychological patriarchy, and how these are addressed through therapy
  • Describe the role and approach of the therapist in RLT
  • Explain Relational Mindfulness and the “fight, flight, fix” responses 

Class 2: Overview of Phase 1

Tuesday, January 21, 12–2 pm ET

Explore the reasons why, in RLT, data must be gathered as a first stage of therapy. Also laid out are the eight diagnostic lenses of RLT, and the first three explored in depth. The “stance, stance, dance” dynamic is explained, tools are given to describe each partner’s pattern and the dance that results, and the goal of therapy in working with this entire dynamic is expressed. Presenting problems, preconditions, and stance stance dance are explored.

Learning Objectives:

  • List the seven lenses
  • Explain the role of data gathering
  • Understand how preconditions are addressed in RLT

Class 3: Data Gathering with RLT Diagnostic Lenses

Tuesday, January 28, 12–2 pm ET

Explore relational trauma and its impact on adult relationships. The three major family of origin roles are discussed, the 5 losing strategies explored, and advice is given on how to work with grandiose partners.

Learning Objectives:

  • Differentiate the various losing strategies clients employ
  • Describe the two kinds of boundaries
  • Outline the major family of origin roles and how they play with stances
  • Understand effective approaches to working with grandiose women as well as grandiose men

Class 4: Data Gathering with RLT Diagnostic Lenses Continued

Tuesday, February 4, 12–2 pm ET

The Relationship Grid diagnostic tool is laid out as a tool to help you identify each partner’s relational stance. You will also explore the two kinds of boundaries and self-esteem, with advice on how to work with grandiosity.

Learning Objectives:

  • Explain the relational grid and track losing strategies against it
  • Describe strategies for latent people
  • Explain the difference between blatant and latent stances
  • Understand that RLT requires that the latent person be a “relational champion” in therapy
  • Understand the concept of leverage and how to use it

Class 5: Reconnecting the Blatant

Tuesday, February 11, 12–2 pm ET

This module focuses on empowering the latent, finding leverage, and reconnecting the blatant.  From a neurobiological perspective we discuss how to create the right combination of stress and safety for promoting change.  We explore how to work with the fears of the latent and the grandiosity of the blatant.  Terry demonstrates joining through the truth with a blatant man.

Learning Objectives:

  • Understand the concept of appropriate discrepancy and how it works with Neuroplasticity
  • Understand types of leverage
  • Know how to join through the truth
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“Terry Real helps overturn old-fashioned, confining roles and opens up a treasury of hope for lasting and exciting intimacy for couples everywhere.”
— Edward Hallowell, M.DAuthor of Crazy Busy
“Terry’s work provided foundations of “telling the truth” to clients. I did it easily with individuals but stumbled with couples. Now I LOVE working with couples. It is now always profoundly moving & instructive.”
— Jeanne O.
“Some of the things I love about Terry Real and his work are the practical steps, down-to-earth guidance and his model of having the courage and respect to be honest with couples when one partner is behaving in a way that needs to be addressed first.”
— Rachel M.
“Terry, you are an absolute gift to the the mental health community. “
— David Feder, MSW, RSW, CSATClose Connections, Toronto, Ontario, Canada
“Before learning Terry Real’s model I’d work with couples to problem-solve their dilemmas of the day. I always had misgivings about the long-term potential of my work because I didn’t know how to move in deeper to address with them their relational processes. Now, having Terry’s model for teaching clients healthy relating, I have guidelines to help them perform the modest miracle of personal transformation on a permanent level. “
— R.D.
“You have lots of ideas that are very useful with couple work – particularly with the male client. I love your stuff about gender discourses and boundaries, asking clearly for what you need from your partner.”
— Claire O
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The Shift from Individualistic to
Relational Thinking

by Terry Real

Objective vs. Subjective Reality

“He won’t listen!” cries Lucy, flinging open her arms, as she sits on the edge of the couch, as if to implore me.

“I don’t get her,” says Stan, sinking his face in his hands, beleaguered, exhausted, as if to say, “No matter what I do…”

And then there’s me, watching, listening. Couples on the brink fly in to see me. Together we spend one or two full days working, at the end of which time we agree that you’re either back on track or divorcing. One way or another, this is the last stop. Lucy and Stan are on the edge of dissolution, have been for over a year. This past weekend was a disaster.

“So, what happened?” I ask.

Stan snorts. “This whole thing is ridiculous,” he declares, one leg pumping, impatient, annoyed.

Lucy cuts him off, taking charge. “We took two cars, for a weekend alone at our house on the Cape. Both were loaded with groceries. So, I can’t see out the back. Already I’m nervous. I don’t like driving at night. I ask Stan to stay by me, in case I… I don’t know, get lost, take a wrong turn, whatever.”

“She wanted me to keep an eye on her,” Stan tells me, wanting to hurry the story along. “Which I did.”

“Which you didn’t!” says Lucy.

“Which is exactly what I did. Look,” Stan turns to me, the arbiter. “I was winding my way through the traffic. I’m about two cars up ahead of her…”

“But I can’t see him,” Lucy interjects.

“I’ve got her square in my rearview mirror.” I look at Stan’s harried expression. I’m already sensing where this going. “She calls me, panicked, out of her mind. ‘You said you wouldn’t leave me!’ Already, she’s like screaming at me.”

“But you left me! After you said…”

“Okay,” I interrupt. “I think I’ve got it.” Stan and Lucy were caught in a typical who’s right / who’s wrong battle – hinging on their slightly different definitions of what it meant to “be there for” Lucy. To Lucy, “being there” meant being right by her side. For Stan, it meant keeping an eye on her. Who was objectively right?

Who Was Objectively Right?

That’s a trick question. In marital relationships it’s never a matter of landing on the one true reality, but rather two people in need of negotiating differing subjective realities.

Between the two, I sided with Lucy – a difference between RLT and other therapies. We take sides. Stan was factually correct but relationally incorrect. Was he, as promised, looking after Lucy to make sure she was alright? Yes, absolutely. And if Stan had been the one to make the request, he would have been fine.

But Stan wasn’t married to Stan. Lucy wanted the comfort of Stan by her side, in sight of her. It wasn’t his aid she was after, but the reassurance of his company. In this instance – as in so many others just like it, Lucy assured me, Stan didn’t “get it.”

He missed the point because he wasn’t thinking relationally.

Shifting into
Relational Thinking

Even though on the brink of divorce, Stan wasn’t a bad guy. What he argued so vehemently for, the point he got so defensive about was, in fact right – in the linear, individualistic, Newtonian world we all live in. But I have a saying, “You can be right, or you can be married. What’s more important to you?”

Repair & Reconnection

I turn to Stan: “In this moment, right now, ask yourself, would you rather make the case that you’re right or would you rather make peace with your wife and help her feel better?”

“Meaning?” he says, tentative but listening.

“Turn to your wife right now and tell her something from the heart,” I coach him.

And, bless him, with a little encouragement, he tries it.

“Lucy,” he takes her hand. “I’m sorry, okay? I’m sorry if you felt so abandoned that day.”

“And you’re sorry you didn’t hear her,” I add.

“I am,” he says. “Really. No BS. I wish I could have listened better.” Stan looks at his wife’s tearful face.

“I’ve been waiting for this moment for years,” she says, crying, her body straining toward him.

“Wanna hug from the guy?” I ask her and she lurches forward, reaching for him.

“Take your time,” I tell them, as Stan rocks her gently. “Take all the time you need.”

Stan’s well-meaning but misguided loyalty to “sorting things out,” that is, determining the one right reality about it, deprived them both of moments like the one they had now in my office. Moments of repair.

When Stan stopped defending himself and instead tended to his wife’s bruised feelings, she felt heard, the chasm between them was bridged, and everyone could breathe again.

Here’s Everything You Get Inside Relational Life Therapy Level 1

  • FIVE 2-Hour Classes with Terry Real and RLI Faculty
    (A blend of pre-recorded livestream lecture with Terry and LIVE Q&A with faculty)
  • Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material
  • A Supportive Community of Like-Minded Peers

Plus 4 special bonuses…

SPECIAL
BONUS 1

75-Minute RLT Couples Therapy Demonstration with Terry Real

SPECIAL
BONUS 2

60-minute interview with Gabor Maté

SPECIAL
BONUS 3

60-minute interview with Carol Gilligan

SPECIAL
BONUS 3

3 Video Clip Demonstrations From Our Faculty to Role-Play Key Learning Outcomes

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Enroll in Relational Life Therapy Level 1 Today

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$497

3 x Monthly Payments

$179*3

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know…

This course is part of the RLT Certification program.

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We’re confident you’ll be happy with the Relational Life Therapy Level 1 Training. However, if you are not 100% satisfied with your purchase, simply contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll give you a full refund, no questions asked.

Meet Your Teachers

Terry Real,

Creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker. 

 Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, sought-after speaker, and bestselling author, who has transformed how we approach relationships. 

He is the creator of Relational Life Therapy (RLT), a groundbreaking therapeutic approach that equips people with the essential relational skills to build and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole. 

The author of four books, Terry’s most recent is the New York Times bestseller, Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship, which guides readers toward deeper intimacy and fulfillment. 

Known as “the turnaround guy,” Terry is famous for his extraordinary ability to save couples on the brink of divorce. Through his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, he has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.

Terry is committed to relational empowerment, helping everyone develop the skills needed for meaningful, lasting relationships.

Kate Harris,

PhD in Private Practice, Dover, NH and PSYPACT

Kate is a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, she watched Terry Real work with 5 couples and was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honours “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with Kate’s values.

Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with her husband gave them tools that they use to stay close to each other and deepened their 32-year relationship. Kate became an RLT certified therapist in 2018 and is excited to join the faculty and share what she has learned.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course live?

Each class is a mix of pre-recorded lecture and live Q&A. You will first watch the pre-recorded lecture (and therapy demos) of roughly 60 minutes with Terry Real, which will be livestreamed. You will then join Kate Harris, senior RLT therapist, for an LIVE in-depth Q&A on the material to deepen your understanding and further explore practical aspects.

All elements of the training will be recorded and stored within your private learning platform. 

The classes take place on the following dates and times:

Class 1: Tuesday, January 14, 12–2 pm ET

Class 2: Tuesday, January 21, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 3: Tuesday, January 28, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 4: Tuesday, February 4, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 5: Tuesday, February 11, 12–2 pm ET

(All classes will be recorded and stored within your private learning platform.)

Yes—10 CEs are available if you attend all five classes live. See more details here.

Forever! All course materials, including the call recordings, will be stored in your private learning platform (the RLT Hub) for you to review at your convenience.

A limited number of partial scholarships are available for those with financial need. Please email us at support@terryreal.com with a brief outline of the following: your financial ability, your unique situation or challenge you are facing, and how you plan to use your learnings from this course (2-3 sentences max).

Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest training in the RLT), you automatically receive access to RLT Level 1. Find more information on the RLT Certification here. 

We’re confident you’ll enjoy Relational Life Therapy Level 1, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

Yes! RLT is useful in preparing you to work effectively with couples, but it is also helpful in your work with individuals. Learning how to compassionately tell the truth to your clients, work with grandiosity, and gather data to identify dysfunctional patterns will all benefit your 1:1 sessions, too.

Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com. 

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CE REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

The RLT Level 1 Training Course

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Kate Harris, Phd; plus teaching by Terry Real, LICSW; Cathy Hill, PhD; and Anna Sterk, LMFT

Continuing Ed credits offered:  10 credit hours for 5 Classes

At the completion of this course, all participants will be invited by email to purchase the 10 CE credits for a $40 fee. To receive a certificate, you must attend the full course. There is no partial credit, attendance will be taken.

Content:

Over five live classes you’ll be introduced to the powerful principals behind Relational Life Therapy (RLT). RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. 

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other. RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

RLT Level 1 is the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  2. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT
  3. List the seven lenses
  4. Explain the role of data gathering

  

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

    • True intimacy can only happen when partners are “same as”—neither one-up nor one-down
    • That RLT Therapists and Coaches will confront and teach their clients how to actually live relationally
    • How to use the RLT Lenses in Intervention & Finding Leverage
    • How RLT Therapists and Coaches use judicious self-disclosure, sharing stories of they use these same skills in their own relationships.

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost: $497 in full; or 3 payments of $179 each

Course Dates & Hours: 

January 14, 21, 28; February 17, 11, 2025

Hours: 12pm to 2pm Eastern Time each class

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase.

If you need special accommodations or have questions, please contact us.

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.

FAQ’s

How do I receive the Zoom link?

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at support@terryreal.com

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name?

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate?

Certificates will be available within ten business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions support@terryreal.com

Instructor’s Bios:

Terry Real, LICSW: Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist

Kate is a Clinical Psychologit and a certified Martha Bec, North Star Coach. In 2015, Kate watched Terry Real work live with 5 couples and was instantly committed to becoming an RLT therapist. Kate believes that RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and it aligns clearly with her own personal values. After attending a Relationship Bootcamp workshop, she and her husband learned first hand the tools Terry reaches and they continue to use them today to deepen their 32 year relationship. Kate became RLT Certified in 2018 and is a valued teacher.

Anna Sterk, LMFT

Anna began training in RLT with Terry Real in 2012 and has been providing therapy, Essential Skills Bootcamps, consultation and supervision through the RLT model for years; Anna was thrilled to have the opportunity to teach and train practitioners as faculty with the Relational Life Institute (RLI) beginning in 2022.  Anna’s style as a therapist, teacher, and supervisor is to balance compassion and collaboration with direct feedback. Anna’s roots are in systems theory and cultural studies, which was a natural fit for the RLT model, and supports her goal of teaching the skills to navigate long term relationships and support relational living for both clients and students alike. As RLI Faculty, Anna teaches the Practicum courses and Small Group Mentoring for RLT certification students, along with special topic courses.

Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych:

Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure:

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance

Procedure is available upon request.

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030 lisa@relationallife.com

CEU REQUIREMENTS:

The Relational Life LEVEL 1 TRAINING

Taught by: Terry Real, LICSW  and Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych   

Approved for 10 CEs for Beginner Mental Health Professionals

Please note that CEs are an additional cost of $40 and can be purchased at the end of the program. Contact us at: support@terryreal.com and request the link to take the course test for your CEU Certificate. You will need to take a test to show that you’ve learned the course material.

Evaluations and Certificates are available online following course completion at www.ceuregistration.com

It is the participant’s responsibility to check if their state is approved for CEs through the Specific CE Information below. No refunds will be given on CE purchases for failure to check state approval.

Target Audience

Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level

The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

COURSE DESCRIPTION:

Terry Real presents his introductory training course, Relational Life Therapy—RLT Level 1 Training.

After teaching RLT workshops all over the U.S., Terry created this online course to make the material available to more people. RLT Level 1 is designed to give you an in-depth introduction to the theory and practice of the RLT model. It is also the first step toward RLT certification and will prepare you for the Level 2 & 3 trainings.  

Connection has never felt more precious or critical. We have never wanted more from our relationships, not just our romantic relationships but friends, family, and children. At no time in history has it been more clear that intimacy is life’s grail.

Yet divorce attorneys have never been busier. Perhaps this is because we all have lived in an anti-relational, addictive, narcissistic culture that may give lip service to the importance of relationships but has not taught us the skills to realize them.

As therapists, we can fill in those gaps. There is a world of relational technology that can be taught and mastered once we open to the need for it. We can give our clients those tools. This is the basis of Relational Life Therapy (RLT)—my life’s work.

Developing Terry’s unique approach has been a thirty-year project. When he first got into the reality of practice, the couples who met with him were suffering, and the tools he had were inadequate for the task. Terry has made it his mission to figure out a way to bring relief, healing, and change to his clients.

Terry will share the fruit of his life’s work in this training. You will access to 7 hours of course content, 

Terry will share the fruit of his life’s work in this training. In addition, you will also receive 6+ hours of pre-recorded video training from Terry and RLT-certified therapist Cathy Hill and a wealth of practical case studies and demos designed to help you become a better, more confident therapist. In addition, you will receive bonus calls with Experts such as Carol Gilligan and Gabor Mate, along with an actual video of an RLT couples session, and hours of previously recorded Q&A calls with Terry and RLI Faculty. 

You will have the opportunity to go deeper into the theory and application of RLT using a combination of these tools.

This training has been designed for the helping professional to achieve a introcuctory level in the clinical practice of RLT.

Course Objectives

Participants will be able to:

  1. Compare the RLT phases and how RLT differs from traditional therapy
  2. Rate the RLT view of power imbalances in couples, of psychological patriarchy, and how these are addressed through therapy
  3. Describe the role and approach of the therapists in RLT
  4. Utilize the practice of Relational Mindfulness
  5. Explain the ‘fight, flight, or fix’ responses ot the whoosh of the first consciousness
  6. Contrast the functions of the three aspects of the psyche
  7. List the seven lenses
  8. Explain the role of data gathering
  9. Differentiate the various losing strategies clients employ
  10. Analyze the difference between blatant and latent stances
  11. Identify the client’s ‘stance, stance, dance’
  12. Practice the relational grid and track losing strategies against it
  13. Compare the two kinds of boundaries
  14. Relate the major family of origin roles and how they play with stances
  15. Summarize the concept of ‘reconnecting’
  16. Appraise the heroism of RLT work

 Presenter Bio

Terry Real, LICSW:

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, and most recently The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.

Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Cathy Hill, Ph.D., R. Psych: 

Cathy Hill began training in RLT in 2010 after attending her first Relationship Bootcamp and from that experience was determined that Terry needed to teach others to do RLT. Cathy persisted in this idea and Terry ended up having Cathy set up adanced training for his senior therapists which was very well received. Soon after she was named Director of Training for RLI. Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and is devoted to getting RLT ‘evidence-based’ which requires excellent in training in order to translate into excellence in practice. 

Cost

This course is $497.

Policies

For questions or concerns, please send an email  to support@terryreal.com

Commercial Support Disclaimer

There is no conflict of interest for this program.

Cancellation Policy

You may request a refund up to 2 days after purchase.

Please contact support@terryreal.com if you wish to cancel your purchase. 

Satisfactory Completion
Participants must have paid course fee plus the $40 fee to purchase CE certificate (payable to R. Cassidy Seminars), verified identity by checking checkbox on verification webpage, completed evaluation. Failure to complete and submit these materials will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available. Details to collect the CE’s and purchase them for $40 will be offered to at the completion of this course.

Specific CE Information

Cosponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars, P.O. Box 14473, Santa Rosa, CA 95405

Satisfactory Completion
Participants must have paid course fee, completed evaluation, and completed post-test with passing grade of 75% in order to receive a certificate. Failure to complete and submit these materials will result in forfeiture of credit for the entire course. No exceptions will be made. Partial credit is not available.

This course is co-sponsored by R. Cassidy Seminars, P.O. Box 14473, Santa Rosa, CA 95402

Psychologists
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Psychology as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed psychologists #PSY-0018. (10) contact hour.  Home Study.

Social Workers
IL-SWs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #159.000785.  (10) CE hour.
MN: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the Minnesota Board of Social Work, CEP #2281 approval 12/27/22 – 12/27/23.  (10) CE  hour.
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board for Social Work as an approved provider (#0006) of continuing education for licensed social workers. This program is approved for (10) contact hour.  Home Study.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for (10)  clock hour, #RCST110701

Counselors/Marriage and Family Therapists
IL-MFTs: Illinois Dept of Professional Regulation, Approved Continuing Education Sponsor, #168-000141. (10) hour.
NY-LMHCs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed mental health counselors. #MHC-0015.  (10) contact hour. Home Study.
NY-LMFTs: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed marriage and family therapists. #MFT-0011.  (10)  contact hour. Home Study.
OH: Provider approved by the Ohio Counselor, Social Worker and Marriage and Family Therapist Board for (10)  clock hour, #RCST110701
TX: Approved CE Sponsor through the Texas State Board of Examiners of Marriage & Family Therapists. Provider #151 (10)  CE hour.

Creative Arts Therapists
NY: R. Cassidy Seminars is recognized by the New York State Education Department’s State Board of Mental Health Practitioners as an approved provider of continuing education for licensed creative arts therapists, #CAT-0005. (10)  contact hour. Home Study.

Chemical Dependency Counselors
CA: Provider approved by CCAPP, Provider #4N-00-434-0224 for (10) CEH. CCAPP is an ICRC member which has reciprocity with most ICRC member states
TX: Provider approved by the TCBAP Standards Committee, Provider No. 1749-06, (10) hour general. Expires 1/31/24.  Complaints about provider or workshop content may be directed to the TCBAP Standards Committee, 1005 Congress Avenue, Ste. 460, Austin, Texas 78701, Fax Number (515) 476-7597.
Educators
TX: R. Cassidy Seminars is an approved provider with the Texas Education Agency CPE# 501456. This course is (10)  CE hour.

Nurses
CA: Provider approved by the CA Board of Registered Nursing, Provider #CeP15554, for (10) contact hour

Dentists
CA: R.Cassidy Seminars is a provider approved by the Dental Board of California as a registered provider of continuing education. RP# 4874 (10) CE hour.
 

Disability Access – If you require ADA accommodations please contact our office 30 days or more before the event. We cannot ensure accommodations without adequate prior notification.

Please Note: Licensing Boards change regulations often and while we attempt to stay abreast of their most recent changes, if you have questions or concerns about this course meeting your specific board’s approval, we recommend you contact your board directly to obtain a ruling.