An online training course from Terry Real and the Relational Life Institute Faculty

Relational Life Therapy Level 1 

Learn how to the heart of the problem in couples therapy, identify the vicious circle your clients are stuck in, and help them make substantive changes.

🗓 Starts Wednesday, July 10

An Overview of What You Get Inside Relational Life Therapy Level 1

FIVE 2-Hour Classes with Terry Real and RLI Faculty

(Classes consist of pre-recorded lecture & couples therapy demos from Terry and LIVE Q&A with RLI Faculty)

Class 1: Wednesday, July 10, 12–2 PM ET

Class 2: Tuesday, July 16, 12–2 PM ET 

Class 3: Thursday, July 18, 12–2 PM ET 

Class 4: Thursday, July 25, 12–2 PM ET  

Class 5: Tuesday, July 30, 12–2 PM ET 

A Supportive Community of Like-Minded Peers

Join your private community group to share your progress and give and receive support as you apply your learnings to your work.

Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings & Course Material

Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.

Plus 3 special bonuses…


75-Minute RLT Couples Therapy Demonstration with Terry Real

Witness the speed and precision of RLT firsthand with an inside look at one of Terry’s full-length couples therapy sessions.

You will observe RLT Phase 1 in action to help you cement your understanding of how the data gathering and diagnostic tools translate into practice.


60-minute interview with Terry and Gabor Maté

An in-depth discussion between Terry and Dr. Gabor Maté (renowned speaker, author, and trauma expert) on how trauma impacts our physical health and the health of our relationships.


60-minute interview with Terry & Carol Gilligan 

An in-depth discussion between Terry and Dr. Gabor Maté (renowned speaker, author, and trauma expert) on how trauma impacts our physical health and the health of our relationships.

10 CEUs are available for this course.

What You’ll Learn

Explore the Relational Life Therapy Level 1 Curriculum

Class 1: What is Relational Life Therapy?

Wednesday, July 10, 12–2 pm ET

Discover the differences between RLT and traditional psychodynamic therapy. Also considered are the stances of “one-down shame” and “one-up grandiosity” in couples; according to RLT, true intimacy can only happen when partners are “same-as” with each other.

RLT is about action and swift results, helping people to make major changes to the negative parts of their character, and the critical role and stance of the therapist is described. Presented also are the concepts of Relational Mindfulness, Joining Through the Truth, and psychological patriarchy.

Learning Objectives:

Class 2: Overview of Phase 1

Tuesday, July 16, 12–2 pm ET 

Explore the reasons why, in RLT, data must be gathered as a first stage of therapy. Also laid out are the seven diagnostic lenses of RLT, and the first first explored in depth.

The “stance, stance, dance” dynamic is explained, tools are given to describe each partner’s pattern and the dance that results, and the goal of therapy in working with this entire dynamic is expressed. Losing strategies, preconditions, and blatant/latent stances are explored.

Learning Objectives:

Class 3: RLT Lenses 4, 5 and 6

Thursday, July 18, 12–2 pm ET 

Explore relational trauma and its impact on adult relationships. The three major family of origin roles are discussed, and advice is given on how to work with grandiose partners.

The Relationship Grid diagnostic tool is laid out as a tool to help you identify each partner’s relational stance. You will also explore the two kinds of boundaries and self-esteem, with advice on how to work with grandiosity. 

Learning Objectives:

Class 4: Use of the RLT Lenses in Intervention & Finding Leverage

Thursday, July 25, 12–2 pm ET 

We move from diagnosis to treatment. Here, you will learn how to use the RLT approach of Joining Through the Truth to lovingly confront clients and engage them in the therapeutic process.

The concept of leverage is explored: what it is, why it’s necessary, and how it can be used. Advice is given on empowering latent people, and the concept of the “relational champion” is presented.

Learning Objectives:

Class 5: Reconnecting the Blatant

Tuesday, July 30, 12–2 pm ET

This module focuses on empowering the latent, finding leverage, and reconnecting the blatant.  From a neurobiological perspective we discuss how to create the right combination of stress and safety for promoting change. 

We explore how to work with the fears of the latent and the grandiosity of the blatant.  Terry demonstrates joining through the truth with a blatant man.

Learning Objectives:

“Terry helps reawaken couples who seem trapped in a long-term stalemate and allows them to move toward growth and fuller Selfhood.”
– Richard Schwartz, originator of Internal Family Systems

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You’re Protected by our Money-Back Guarantee

We’re confident you’ll love Relational Life Therapy Level 1, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

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This course is part of the RLT Certification program.

What Others Say About Relational Life Therapy Level 1

RLT breaks many of the rules of traditional couples therapy to get results…

We dare to take sides… because not all problems in relationships are 50/50. Some are 70/30. Some are 99/1.

If you don’t take sides, there’s a power imbalance. And you can’t guide couples into intimacy if they’re not equal. 

We also tackle grandiosity head-on, we lovingly confront our clients with the truth about how their behaviors harm their relationships. We’re direct. We’re not neutral. But we’re also compassionate and empathetic.

RLT Level 1 will give you a solid grounding in RLT theory with practical skills you can implement in your client
work immediately.

(Classes consist of pre-recorded lecture & couples therapy demos from Terry and LIVE Q&A with RLI Faculty)

Over 5 two-hour classes, you will explore:

RLT has helped thousands of relationship professionals strengthen their work with couples. We invite you to join them and start your RLT journey today ↓
A tip: “Don’t get out ahead of your client. They’re the ones to assert the leverage, not you. You go too far when you act as if you have more leverage than you have. You go too far if you take on the offender of the blatant, rather than have the latent take on the blatant, generally.”
– Terry Real

Meet Your Teachers

Terry Real,

Creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW, is a leading couples and family therapist, speaker, and New York Times bestselling author. Having worked with thousands of individuals, couples, and fellow therapists, Terry knows how to lead people on a step-by-step journey to greater intimacy and personal fulfillment. His expertise has been featured in outlets such as Psychology Networker, Psychology Today, Good Morning America, The Today Show, Vogue, Forbes, Oprah, and The New York Times. With 30+ years of clinical experience, Terry is a former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona.

He is the founder of the Relational Life Institute, which provides workshops for couples and individuals as well as a professional training program for clinicians wanting to learn his Relational Life Therapy (RLT) methodology. RLT teaches people how to make their relationships work by equipping them with the relational skills they need to cultivate and sustain authentic connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as whole.

Cathy Hill,

Licensed Psychologist & Senior RLT Therapist

A licensed psychologist in private practice, Cathay is located in Vancouver, Canada. She began training in RLT in 2010 and after her first bootcamp experience was determined that Terry teach others how to do it. She hassled him until he enlisted her help in setting up advanced training for his senior therapists, which led eventually to joining the RLI Faculty. 

Cathy is trained in the ‘scientist-practitioner’ model, and very keen on getting RLT ‘evidence-based,’ which requires excellence in training in order to translate into excellence in practice.

Anna Sterk,

LMFT & Senior RLT Therapist

Learning how to build and sustain healthy relationships has been the journey of Anna’s life, and not always an easy or straightforward path. It was life changing for Anna to build on the personal work she was doing when she started studying with Terry Real in 2012, and it is an honor for her to pass along what she has learned to clients and through teaching the relational skills in bootcamps, practicums,
and mentoring.

A senior RLT therapist and a member of the RLI Faculty, Anna is part of the team responsible for training mental health practitioners in the Relational Life Therapy method.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course live?

Each class consists of a pre-recorded lecture of roughly 60 minutes—including theory, couples therapy demos, debriefs, and case studies—with Terry Real and Cathy Hill. You will then join Anna Sterk, senior RLT therapist, for an LIVE in-depth Q&A on the material to deepen your understanding and further explore practical aspects.

All elements of the training will be recorded and stored within your private learning platform.

The classes take place on the following dates and times:

Class 1: Wednesday, July 10, 12–2 pm ET

Class 2: Tuesday, July 16, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 3: Thursday, July 18, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 4: Thursday, July 25, 12–2 pm ET 

Class 5: Tuesday, July 30, 12–2 pm ET

(All classes will be recorded and stored within your private learning platform.)

Yes—10 CEs are currently available for the home study version of this course. Once you have completed the course you may take a test to collect your certificate.

Forever! All course materials, including the call recordings, will be stored in your private learning platform for you to review at your convenience.

Yes—when you enroll in the RLT Certification (our deepest, richest couples therapy training), you automatically receive access to RLT Level 1. Find more information on the RLT Certification here

We’re confident you’ll enjoy Relational Life Therapy Level 1, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at within 48 hours of the first live class and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

Yes! RLT is useful in preparing you to work effectively with couples, but it is also helpful in your work with individuals. Learning how to compassionately tell the truth to your clients, work with grandiosity, and gather data to identify dysfunctional patterns will all benefit your 1:1 sessions, too.

Please reach out to our support team at

Here’s Everything You Get Inside Relational Life Therapy Level 1

(Classes consist of pre-recorded lecture & couples therapy demos from Terry and LIVE Q&A with RLI Faculty)

Plus 3 special bonuses…


75-Minute RLT Couples Therapy Demonstration with Terry Real


60-minute interview with
Gabor Maté


60-minute interview with
Carol Gilligan

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The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW

Continuing Ed credits offered:  7.5 hours for the 5 Classes with Terry Real, LICSW

Content: Over five live classes with Terry, you’ll embark on a deep exploration of psychological boundaries and how to build healthy boundaries in relationships. You will learn the different boundary profiles, including what it means to be boundaryless and walled off and how boundaries intersect with self-esteem to create repeated patterns in relationships. You’ll also discover practical strategies and exercises to support yourself—and your clients—in building better boundaries. In addition, there are three LIVE Q&A Bonus calls with Faculty to answer your questions.

Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Describe the difference between internal and external boundaries.
  2. Identify the four boundary profiles on the Relationship Grid and two characteristics of each.
  3. Identify one exercise used by Terry to help clients establish healthy boundaries.
  4. Understand how self-esteem intersects with boundaries to create repeated cycles in relationships.

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

  • What psychological boundaries are, including the important distinction between boundaries and limits.
  • How relational trauma in childhood shapes our level of boundaries in adult relationships.
  • How the Relationship Grid can act as a tool to help your clients understand their boundary profile.
  • What the unholy triad of boundaryless is and the treatment for love dependence.
  • The two types of love avoidant and the different approaches to treating each. 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:  $397 in full; or 3 payments of $147 each

CE Cost: $40 in addition to enrollment fee. Participants will receive and email from RLI once the course has ended which will include instructions to purchase the CEs and complete an Online Feedback Form. Once RLI has verified attendance you will be emailed your certificate in 10-14 days.

Course Dates & Hours:   

Class 1: Thursday, May 16, 1:30-3pm ET    

Class 2: Thursday, May 23, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 3: Thursday, May 30, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 4: Thursday, June 6, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 5: Thursday, June 13, 1:30-3pm ET

BONUS: Q+A calls with RLI Faculty: Kate Harris, PhD, Julie Rudiger, LCSW 

Call 1: Tuesday, May 28th, 12pm – 1 pm ET Kate Harris, PhD

Call 2: Monday, June 3rd 12 pm – 1 pm ET  Kate Harris, PhD & Julie Rudiger, LCSW 

Call 3: Tuesday, June 18th, 12 pm – 1 pm ET Kate Harris, PhD 

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact if you wish to cancel your purchase. 

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.


How do I receive the Zoom link? 

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name? 

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all 8 classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate? 

Certificates will be available within five to seven business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions

Instructor’s Bio: Terry Real, LICSW

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist, NH 1195 renewal biannually (2025/06/30)

I am a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, I watched Terry Real work with 5 couples and was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with my values. Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with my husband gave us tools that we use to stay close to each other and deepened our 32-year relationship. I became an RLT certified therapist in 2018 and I am excited to join the faculty and share what I’ve learned.

Julie Rudiger, MSW: Licensed Clinical Social Worker Colorado # 992023 renewal biennially (2025/8/31)

I have been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008. I became certified in 2010, and since then, my practice and personal life has transformed. I love the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenant of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of my practice. I love the role of “coach” in teaching the skills. Most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families. I am also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, whereby we help individuals and couples learn the skills in a 2-day intensive workshop.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure: 

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written 

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a 

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the 

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to 

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the 

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for 

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the 

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the 

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all 

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance 

Procedure is available upon request. 

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030