Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Master the art of cultivating good internal boundaries to build true intimacy in your relationships in the new LIVE course from Terry Real.

A new LIVE Course From New York Times BESTSELLING AUTHOR Terry Real – Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Here’s An Overview of Everything You Get In Building Better Boundaries

5 LIVE 90-minute Classes with Terry Real

Class 1: Thursday, May 16, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 2: Thursday, May 23, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 3: Thursday, May 30, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 4: Thursday, June 6, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 5: Thursday, June 13, 1:30–3 pm ET

3 LIVE Bonus Classes with Kate Harris from the RLI Faculty

Call 1: Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET
Call 2: Monday, June 3, 12–1.30 pm ET
Call 3: Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material

Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.

What You’ll Learn

Class 1: Why Healthy Relationships Need Healthy Boundaries

Explore why healthy intimate relationships require good boundaries. You’ll learn the difference between what we commonly believe to be boundaries (limits) and psychological boundaries. Terry will also lead a powerful live visualization to help you build better boundaries.

We’ll cover:

Class 2: Boundarylessness: Connected but Not Protected

This class is a deep exploration of what it means to lack boundaries (boundaryless). You’ll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how they’re affecting your boundaries in your present. This class is also useful to helping you better understand those in your life who have too few boundaries.


We’ll cover:

Class 3: The 5 Domains of Intimacy: How Well Are You Sharing & Receiving?

In this class, we’ll further explore what it means to have too few boundaries, before beginning to look at the other side of the coin: too many boundaries. You’ll discover the link between intimacy and boundaries as you assess how well you give and receive in your relationships with a practical “Intimacy Inventory” exercise.


We’ll cover:

Class 4: Living Behind Walls: Protected but Not Connected

You’ll continue exploring what it means to be walled off, with strong protective boundaries. Discover where this boundary profile comes from, the different types of love avoidance, and how to work towards healthier boundaries.


We’ll cover:

Class 5: Your Boundary Dynamics in Relationships

In this final class, you’ll bring everything together. You’ll begin to understand how your level of boundaries determines how you react with each of the other three. Description is prescription, and by knowing where your boundaries fall, you’ll uncover the specific work you need to do to build better boundaries.


We’ll cover:


Plus these special bonus classes with Kate Harris, PhD., from the RLT Faculty…

These classes will provide you with the opportunity to ask more of your specific questions. For the second call, Julie Rudiger LCSW, will also join to provide additional teaching on the following:

The Art of Setting Good Limits

Understanding Your Brain for Better Boundaries

What Are Boundary Violations?

Call 1: Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET
Call 2: Monday, June 3, 12–1.30 pm ET
Call 3: Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

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You’re Protected by our Money-Back Guarantee

We’re confident you’ll love Building Better Boundaries, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

Do You Need More Closeness in Your Relationship… or Could a Little Distance Be What You Need?

Many of us say we want more intimacy in our relationships, but do we really know what we’re asking for? 

The truth is, intimacy isn’t closeness. Real intimacy requires a delicate balance of closeness and distance. 

Because when you and your partner are too close, you’re enmeshed. Too distant, however, and you’re like ships passing in the night. 

So, what’s the key to building real intimacy?
Good boundaries.


A good boundary is supple: it keeps you connected and protected at the same time. But often, we sacrifice connection for protection or vice versa. This leads to too many or too few boundaries, and both wreak havoc in our relationships.

Do any of these scenarios resonate with you..?

These are all signs of unhealthy boundaries.

Too few, and you become overly dependent on others for your sense of worth and value. You’re connected but struggle to self-regulate—how others feel about you is how you feel about you. 

Too many boundaries, on the other hand, and you shut the world out. You’re a fortress. You may feel protected, but that comes at the expense of genuine connection. No one can get close to you. 

Fortunately, your boundaries aren’t set in stone; they’re the result of learned behaviors. 

And you can learn to build better boundaries.

Let Terry Real teach you how

In Better Boundaries, you’ll explore how your boundaries are affecting your relationships.

You’ll discover what childhood experiences lie behind them and acquire powerful tools and skills to help you heal past wounds and build healthier boundaries, fostering a greater sense of inner peace and more fulfilling relationships. 

What Others Say About Terry’s Live Courses

About Your Teachers

Terry Real

Creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.

Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.

His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

Kate Harris

Kate Harris, PhD in Private Practice, Dover, NH and PSYPACT

Kate Harris is a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach.

Kate’s RLT journey began In 2015, after watching Terry Real work with five couples. From then, she was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with Kate’s values.

Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with her husband gave them tools they continue to use to stay close to each other and deepened their 32-year relationship. Kate became an RLT-certified therapist in 2018 and is excited to be part of the RLI faculty and share what she’s learned.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course live?

Yes—the course consists of 5 live classes with Terry Real on the following dates:

  • Thursday, May 16, 1:30–3 pm ET    
  • Thursday, May 23, 1:30–3 pm ET
  • Thursday, May 30, 1:30–3 pm ET
  • Thursday, June 6, 1:30–3 pm ET
  • Thursday, June 13, 1:30–3 pm ET

You also have access to three live bonus classes with Kate Harris from the RLT faculty on:

  • Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET 
  • Monday, June 3, 12–1:30 pm ET 
  • Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

Don’t worry—all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. You’ll receive log in and access details as soon as you enroll. 

Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like. 

If you commit to showing up, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate better boundaries which will provide the foundation for stronger relationships. Your boundaries will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you find the balance between closeness and separateness that’s essential for an extraordinary relationship. 

Yes—7.5 CEs are available for professionals who attend all 5 live calls with Terry Real for an additional $40 fee. Find more information on CEUs here.

Please reach out to our support team at

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The Relational Life Institute is pleased to offer:

Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Relational Life Institute (RLI) has been approved by NBCC as an Approved Continuing Education Provider, ACEP No. 7495. Programs that do not qualify for NBCC credit are clearly identified. Relational Life Institute (RLI) is solely responsible for all aspects of the programs. 

  ACEP No. 7495

FORMAT: Five LIVE Online Sessions on Zoom, facilitated by Terry Real, LICSW

Continuing Ed credits offered:  7.5 hours for the 5 Classes with Terry Real, LICSW

Content: Over five live classes with Terry, you’ll embark on a deep exploration of psychological boundaries and how to build healthy boundaries in relationships. You will learn the different boundary profiles, including what it means to be boundaryless and walled off and how boundaries intersect with self-esteem to create repeated patterns in relationships. You’ll also discover practical strategies and exercises to support yourself—and your clients—in building better boundaries. In addition, there are three LIVE Q&A Bonus calls with Faculty to answer your questions.


Learning Objectives: At the completion of this course, participants can expect to:

  1. Describe the difference between internal and external boundaries.
  2. Identify the four boundary profiles on the Relationship Grid and two characteristics of each.
  3. Identify one exercise used by Terry to help clients establish healthy boundaries.
  4. Understand how self-esteem intersects with boundaries to create repeated cycles in relationships.

Throughout the course, you’ll learn: 

  • What psychological boundaries are, including the important distinction between boundaries and limits.
  • How relational trauma in childhood shapes our level of boundaries in adult relationships.
  • How the Relationship Grid can act as a tool to help your clients understand their boundary profile.
  • What the unholy triad of boundaryless is and the treatment for love dependence.
  • The two types of love avoidant and the different approaches to treating each. 

Target Audience: Social Workers, MFTs, Counselors, Substance Abuse Counselors, Nurses, and LMHCs, LMFT’s, Educators, Chemical Dependency Counselors 

Course Content Level: The course content is appropriate for Beginner level clinicians.

Cost:  $397 in full; or 3 payments of $147 each

Course Dates & Hours:   

Class 1: Thursday, May 16, 1:30-3pm ET    

Class 2: Thursday, May 23, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 3: Thursday, May 30, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 4: Thursday, June 6, 1:30-3pm ET

Class 5: Thursday, June 13, 1:30-3pm ET

BONUS: Q+A calls with RLI Faculty: Kate Harris, PhD, Julie Rudiger, LCSW 

Call 1: Tuesday, May 28th, 12pm – 1 pm ET Kate Harris, PhD

Call 2: Monday, June 3rd 12 pm – 1 pm ET  Kate Harris, PhD & Julie Rudiger, LCSW 

Call 3: Tuesday, June 18th, 12 pm – 1 pm ET Kate Harris, PhD 

Cancelation Policy: You may request a refund up to 2 days after the first live session.

Please contact if you wish to cancel your purchase. 

Registering for the course on the RLI website for is required to receive a Continuing Ed Certificate.


How do I receive the Zoom link? 

The Zoom link is emailed to you from ZOOM when you register for the course. If you do not receive the link, please contact us at

Should the name you register with match your Zoom name? 

Yes, your first and last both names must be entered on your registration and then displayed on the screen during all 8 classes. Please do not use nicknames, or employee ID numbers or log into Zoom using a co-worker or family member’s Zoom Account as this will post you as ABSENT.

When will I get my certificate? 

Certificates will be available within five to seven business days of the event. Certificates will be emailed to the email address you used to register for the course.

Please contact our Support team if you have any questions

Instructor’s Bio: Terry Real, LICSW

Terry Real is the bestselling author of I Don’t Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret Legacy of Male Depression, the straight-talking How Can I Get Through to You? Reconnecting Men and Women, The New Rules of Marriage: What You Need to Make Love Work and most recently Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship just debuted in June 2022.

He founded the Relational Life Institute, offering workshops for couples, individuals, and parents as well as a professional training program for clinicians.   Terry’s work, with its rigorous commonsense approach, speaks to both men and women. A proponent of “full-throttle marriage,” Terry has been called “the most innovative voice in thinking about and treating men and their relationships in the world today.”

Kate Harris, PhD: Licensed Clinical Psychologist, NH 1195 renewal biannually (2025/06/30)

I am a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach. In 2015, I watched Terry Real work with 5 couples and was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with my values. Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with my husband gave us tools that we use to stay close to each other and deepened our 32-year relationship. I became an RLT certified therapist in 2018 and I am excited to join the faculty and share what I’ve learned.

Julie Rudiger, MSW: Licensed Clinical Social Worker Colorado # 992023 renewal biennially (2025/8/31)

I have been a licensed therapist since 1993 and was introduced to Terry Real’s Relational Life Therapy in 2008. I became certified in 2010, and since then, my practice and personal life has transformed. I love the value of Full Respect Living, which is the tenant of RLT. Teaching clients and therapists the model remains the central focus of my practice. I love the role of “coach” in teaching the skills. Most couples and individuals just need the education and tools to better care for themselves and their partners and families. I am also co-leader of the Relationship Boot Camp in Denver, whereby we help individuals and couples learn the skills in a 2-day intensive workshop.

CONFLICT of Interest: There is no known conflict of interest or commercial support for this event.

Grievance Procedure: 

If a student believes they have been discriminated against, they can submit a written 

complaint that includes their name, address, phone number, location, date, and a 

detailed description of the issue. If a student with a disability disagrees with the 

accommodation provided or has any other grievances, they can schedule a meeting to 

discuss and attempt to find a solution together. If the student is still not satisfied with the 

accommodation after further discussion, they can contact the Operations Director for 

the Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan, via phone, email, or mail. If the 

grievance cannot be resolved, the complainant will be advised to contact the 

appropriate Ethics Committee or Licensing Board. The Operations Director will keep all 

grievances and their resolutions confidential in locked files. A copy of this Grievance 

Procedure is available upon request. 

Contact information: ACEP Administrator & Operations Director for Relational Life Institute (RLI), Lisa Sullivan follows: 291 Nahanton Street, Newton, MA 02459; 617-861-3030