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Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Master the art of cultivating good internal boundaries to build true intimacy in your relationships in the new LIVE course from Terry Real.

A new LIVE Course From New York Times BESTSELLING AUTHOR Terry Real – Building Better Boundaries: How To Stay Connected and Protected in Your Relationships

Here’s An Overview of Everything You Get In Building Better Boundaries

5 LIVE 90-minute Classes with Terry Real

Class 1: Thursday, May 16, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 2: Thursday, May 23, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 3: Thursday, May 30, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 4: Thursday, June 6, 1:30–3 pm ET
Class 5: Thursday, June 13, 1:30–3 pm ET

3 LIVE Bonus Classes with Kate Harris from the RLI Faculty

Call 1: Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET
Call 2: Tuesday, June 3, 12–1.30 pm ET
Call 3: Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

Lifetime Access to The Class Recordings and Course Material

Refer back to the material as many times as you need to help you make real self-esteem a lifelong practice.

What You’ll Learn

Class 1: Why Healthy Relationships Need Healthy Boundaries

Explore why healthy intimate relationships require good boundaries. You’ll learn the difference between what we commonly believe to be boundaries (limits) and psychological boundaries. Terry will also lead a powerful live visualization to help you build better boundaries.

We’ll cover:

The important distinction between “limits” and “boundaries”?
Exploring the differences between external boundaries and internal boundaries:
– The two aspects of an internal boundary.
Boundaryless or Walled Off: What it means to have too many/too few boundaries.
What does a healthy boundary look like?
A visualization exercise to help you establish healthy boundaries.

Class 2: Boundarylessness: Connected but Not Protected

This class is a deep exploration of what it means to lack boundaries (boundaryless). You’ll delve into the impact of your early childhood experiences and how they’re affecting your boundaries in your present. This class is also useful to helping you better understand those in your life who have too few boundaries. 

We’ll cover:

A deep exploration of what it means to have too few boundaries (Boundaryless).
The Unholy Triad of Boundarylessness.
Understanding how childhood abandonment contributes to a lack of boundaries.
The two-step process of boundaryless love addiction.
The Relationship Grid: Understanding the different types of boundarylessness:
– Boundaryless and one-down.
– Boundaryless and one-up.

Class 3: The 5 Domains of Intimacy: How Well Are You Sharing & Receiving?

In this class, we’ll further explore what it means to have too few boundaries, before beginning to look at the other side of the coin: too many boundaries. You’ll discover the link between intimacy and boundaries as you assess how well you give and receive in your relationships with a practical “Intimacy Inventory” exercise.

We’ll cover:

A continued exploration of the boundaryless profiles.
How your level of boundaries determines how much you take in/share.
The 5 Domains of Intimacy and what it means:
– Intimacy inventory exercise.
– Why emotional sharing is one of the biggest issues in intimate relationships.
The Relationship Grid: Understanding the different types of walled-off:
– Walled off and one-down.
– Walled off and one-up.

Class 4: Living Behind Walls: Protected but Not Connected

You’ll continue exploring what it means to be walled off, with strong protective boundaries. Discover where this boundary profile comes from, the different types of love avoidance, and how to work towards healthier boundaries. 

We’ll cover:

Class 5: Your Boundary Dynamics in Relationships

In this final class, you’ll bring everything together. You’ll begin to understand how your level of boundaries determines how you react with each of the other three. Description is prescription, and by knowing where your boundaries fall, you’ll uncover the specific work you need to do to build better boundaries. 

We’ll cover:

PLUS

Plus these special bonus classes with Kate Harris, PhD., from the RLT Faculty…

These classes will explore the content in greater detail as you have the opportunity to ask more of your specific questions. For the second call, Julie Rudiger LCSW, will also join to take you deeper into practices for building better boundaries.

Call 1: The Art of Setting Good Limits

Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET

Call 2: Understanding Your Brain for Better Boundaries

Monday, June 3, 12–1:30 pm ET

Call 3: What Are Boundary Violations?

Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

Join Building Better Boundaries

Choose the payment option that best suits you.

3 x Monthly Payments

$145

Pay in Full

$397

You’re Protected by our Money-Back Guarantee

We’re confident you’ll love Building Better Boundaries, but we offer a 100% money-back guarantee for your peace of mind. If, for whatever reason you’re not completely satisfied, please contact us at support@terryreal.com within 48 hours of the first live call and we’ll issue you a full refund, no questions asked.

Do You Need More Closeness in Your Relationship… or Could a Little Distance Be What You Need?

Many of us say we want more intimacy in our relationships, but do we really know what we’re asking for?

The truth is, intimacy isn’t closeness. Real intimacy requires a delicate balance of closeness and distance.

Because when you and your partner are too close, you’re enmeshed. Too distant, however, and you’re like ships passing in the night.

So, what’s the key to building real intimacy?
Good boundaries.

A good boundary is supple: it keeps you connected and protected at the same time. But often, we sacrifice connection for protection or vice versa. This leads to too many or too few boundaries, and both wreak havoc in our relationships.

Do any of these scenarios resonate with you..?

These are all signs of unhealthy boundaries.

Too few, and you become overly dependent on others for your sense of worth and value. You’re connected but struggle to self-regulate—how others feel about you is how you feel about you.

Too many boundaries, on the other hand, and you shut the world out. You’re a fortress. You may feel protected, but that comes at the expense of genuine connection. No one can get close to you.

Fortunately, your boundaries aren’t set in stone; they’re the result of learned behaviors.

And you can learn to build better boundaries.

Let Terry Real teach you how

In Better Boundaries, you’ll explore how your boundaries are affecting your relationships.

You’ll discover what childhood experiences lie behind them and acquire powerful tools and skills to help you heal past wounds and build healthier boundaries, fostering a greater sense of inner peace and more fulfilling relationships.

What Others Say About Terry’s Live Courses

About Your Teachers

Terry Real

Creator of Relational Life Therapy

Terry Real, LICSW, is an internationally recognized family therapist, bestselling author, and sought-after speaker.

A former senior faculty member of the Family Institute of Cambridge in Massachusetts and a retired Clinical Fellow of the Meadows Institute in Arizona, Terry is renowned for his ability to save couples on the brink of divorce using the progressive approach he created, Relational Life Therapy. RLT equips people with the powerful relational skills they need to cultivate meaningful connections—to themselves, each other, and the planet as a whole.

Via his esteemed training school, the Relational Life Institute, Terry has trained thousands of mental health practitioners in his RLT method to date.

His original insights on couples therapy, relationships, and men’s issues have been featured in outlets from Oprah and Vogue to The Today Show and CNN. His latest book is the New York Times bestseller, US: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.

Kate Harris

Kate Harris, PhD in Private Practice, Dover, NH and PSYPACT

Kate Harris is a Clinical Psychologist and a certified Martha Beck, North Star Coach.

Kate’s RLT journey began In 2015, after watching Terry Real work with five couples. From then, she was committed to becoming an RLT therapist, in part, because RLT honors “the worth and dignity of all people” and aligns clearly with Kate’s values.

Attending Terry’s Bootcamp in 2017 with her husband gave them tools they continue to use to stay close to each other and deepened their 32-year relationship. Kate became an RLT-certified therapist in 2018 and is excited to be part of the RLI faculty and share what she’s learned.

Frequently Asked Questions

Is this course live?

Yes—the course consists of 5 live classes with Terry Real on the following dates:

Thursday, May 16, 1:30–3 pm ET
Thursday, May 23, 1:30–3 pm ET
Thursday, May 30, 1:30–3 pm ET
Thursday, June 6, 1:30–3 pm ET
Thursday, June 13, 1:30–3 pm ET

You also have access to three live bonus classes with Kate Harris from the RLT faculty on:

Tuesday, May 28, 12–1 pm ET
Monday, June 3, 12–1:30 pm ET
Tuesday, June 18, 12–1 pm ET

What if I can’t make all of the live classes?

Don’t worry—all classes will be recorded and stored in your private learning platform, the RLT Hub, for you to watch at your convenience. You’ll receive log in and access details as soon as you enroll.

How long will I have access to the course material?

Forever! You’ll have lifetime access to the class recordings inside the private learning platform, to watch back as many times as you like.

Will this course really transform my relationships?

If you commit to showing up, doing the work, and practicing the skills Terry and his team will teach you, you can cultivate better boundaries which will provide the foundation for stronger relationships. Your boundaries will not change overnight, but with dedicated practice, the insights and skills within this course can help you find the balance between closeness and separateness that’s essential for an extraordinary relationship.

Are CEs available for professionals?

CEs are no longer available.

I still have questions. Who can I speak to?

Please reach out to our support team at support@terryreal.com.