A FREE Live Session With Terry Real and Dr. Alex Howard
You’re Growing – So Why Does It Feel Like You’re Growing Apart?
Learn practical steps to stay centered and connected when you and your relationship both need it the most.
🗓️ Wednesday, June 10
⏱️1–2:30 pm ET | 6–7:30 pm UK (90 minutes)
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Why Becoming a Better Person Doesn’t Always Mean Becoming a Better Partner
You probably know exactly what it feels like. There’s a tone in their voice, a look, or just the way they start a sentence – and something in you tightens before you’ve even processed what’s happening.
You can feel yourself wanting to stay grounded. You might even be able to watch yourself losing it in real time. And you still can’t stop it.
The version of you who has done all that work goes quiet. Something older and faster takes over. And afterwards you’re left wondering why – when you know yourself this well – you keep ending up back here.
Because the moment your partner shuts down or blows up – in the same old way, the way you’ve worked so hard to step away from – you find yourself dragged right back into the fire.
And it’s easy – when you’re the one doing the work and they’re not – to start feeling resentful. To start telling them what they need to do differently. Or to try to “manage” their reactivity. But that only pushed you further apart.
This isn’t about trying to fix your partner or taking responsibility for their reactions.
It’s about owning your side – and letting that change what happens between you.
And it’s exactly what Terry Real and Alex Howard are going to show you in this free session:
When You’ve Done The Work But Your Relationship is Stalling
How to stay grounded when your relationship needs it most – and bridge the gap between you.
🗓️ Wednesday, June 10
⏱️1–2:30 pm ET | 6–7:30pm UK (90 minutes)
Join the Free Session To Discover:
Why you can regulate beautifully on your own… and fall apart the moment your partner sets you off
– what's actually happening in that moment, and how to change it.
Practical tools for staying centered when things get charged between you
– so you can choose how you respond instead of automatically jumping back to your old patterns.
Why years of trauma work can leave you more self-aware and just as stuck in the same relationship dynamic
– and what trauma healing was never actually designed to fix.
What you're actually responsible for in your relationship
– and why focusing on the right thing (instead of waiting for your partner to catch up) is what actually shifts the dynamic between you.
The most common mistakes people make when trying to invite their partner to grow
– and what actually works instead of explaining, pushing, or waiting for them to see what you see.
PLUS there'll be time for live Q&A at the end where you can bring your questions directly to Terry and Alex.
Meet Your Teachers
Terry Real,
Terry Real is the founder of Relational Life Therapy and one of the most respected experts on relationships in the world. Terry’s work has helped hundreds of thousands of people transform their most important relationships. His teaching is direct: most of us were never taught how to be in relationship. We inflict our wounds onto the people closest to us, and we play out the same painful dynamics on repeat – not because we’re broken, but because nobody ever showed us another way.
Dr Alex Howard
Dr. Alex Howard is the founder of the Optimum Health Clinic and creator of Therapeutic Coaching, which has helped thousands of people heal from trauma, chronic illness, and the long shadow of difficult childhoods. His books have been translated into 11 languages, and his online conference series has been attended by over 2 million people.
What's interesting – and what brought these two together – is that they actually agree on more than you might expect…
Terry deeply believes in self-regulation. It’s central to his work. What he hasn’t built is a comprehensive toolkit for how to do it – the specific, repeatable practices that shift the nervous system from dysregulation to calm, even under relational pressure. That’s where Alex’s work fills the gap.
And Alex deeply believes in the power of connection and relationships. What his audience often struggles with is the relational dimension – how to stay regulated when someone else’s nervous system is pulling on yours, how to communicate from a grounded place under pressure, and how to bring a partner or loved one with you as you grow, rather than leaving them behind.
“So liberating for me when I realize that I am the one who can change.
I loved Terry’s emphasis that you can only change yourself, not your partner. It’s so easy to fall into the trap and yet so liberating for me when I realize that I am the one who can change.
I now understand how my journey towards healthy self esteem has provided me with the perfect foundation to become a loving partner and to create the intimate relationship I have always desired. I am really excited about our future together and look forward to learning more!”
Elaine Van Melle on Terry Real
“I am cherishing every moment of this journey.
I feel I’m getting to a point where “the dots” are beginning to connect for me. Attending a workshop like this and listening closely to Terry, made the connections between those dots stronger and clearer, and assisted me to validate my interpretation of all of my readings to date.
My journey to understand my SELF and heal, to become a better person, husband, father etc has been a long road. I am cherishing every moment of this journey.”
Jim MacDougall on Terry Real
“A transformative and life-changing impact on me.
A brilliant way for me to learn and put into practice a variety of tools/techniques to help with calming my nervous system. I have experienced a number of changes (including working on defending against my inner critic and opening up to my emotions) that have already started to make a transformative and life-changing impact on me.
With Alex’s skillful, supportive and enjoyable way of teaching, I would thoroughly recommend to others.”
Simon on Alex Howard
“I now feel I have ways to safeguard myself and act differently.
After years of trying so many other responses to my issues and struggles, I finally found something that worked for me! The practical tools have been invaluable. I wish I had come across them years ago.
In situations that formerly seemed completely outside my control, I now feel I have ways to approach, to safeguard myself and to act differently.”
Kath on Alex Howard
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Join FREE Live Session
When You’ve Done The Work But Your Relationship is Stalling
With Terry Real and Dr. Alex Howard
🗓️ Wednesday, June 10 | ⏱️1–2:30 pm ET | 6–7:30 pm UK (90 minutes)
Can’t attend live? Register anyway and we’ll send you the replay.