The First-of-its-Kind Group Coaching From the Relational Life Institute
Radically Transform
Your Relationship in 6 Months
- Tuesday, March 3 – Sunday, August 30, 2026
For the first time ever, join Join Living Love – the first-ever 6-month coaching program rooted in Relational Life Therapy. For those who are ready to stop repeating the same painful patterns and do the work to create meaningful, lasting change in their relationship.
- Watch Terry’s Live Couples Therapy – and learn from their breakthroughs
- Small Coaching Groups of Max. 10 – with RLT-Certified Coaches
- Tuesday, March 3 – Sunday, August 30, 2026
Mel Robbins
#1 New York Times bestselling author and award-winning podcast host
You know something needs to change – you’re just not sure what
Does this sound familiar?
But here's the problem
When the only way forward depends on them changing – them having an epiphany or finally “doing the work” – you’re powerless.
You’re waiting for them to see what you see, to care as much as you do, to transform themselves into the partner you need.
And that waiting is slowly killing your relationship.
Thankfully, there’s a better way…
You can radically change your relationship by changing how you show up.
You don’t need to wait for your partner. When you focus on your side of the street – how you regulate yourself, how you speak, how you feel about you, how you set limits – the entire relationship begins to shift…
You don’t need to wait for your partner.
When you focus on your side of the street – how you regulate yourself, how you speak, how you feel about you, how you set limits – the entire relationship begins to shift.
Not because you’re controlling the outcome, but because you’re no longer reacting on autopilot.
Many relationship programs offer understanding without support.
You learn the concepts – you recognize yourself in them. And for a moment, things feel clearer.
Then suddenly, you’re right back in the heat of conflict – activated, flooded, and doing exactly what you promised yourself you wouldn’t do.
That’s because insight alone doesn’t help when your nervous system is overwhelmed.
Without consistent guidance, practice, and support, most of us abandon any skills we’ve learned and default to the same reactions we’ve always had.
That’s why in Living Love, we don’t just teach you skills – we work with the part of you that won’t use them.
And that takes consistent practice, feedback, and accountability over time, which is what you access in this six-month, in-depth group coaching program.
A first-of-its-kind opportunity
In Living Love, you’ll witness something that’s only been available to Terry’s private clients and the therapists he trains:
Why does this matter?
Because most relationship programs teach you concepts – but concepts don’t help when you’re triggered and falling back into old patterns.
You need to see how change actually happens.
When you watch Terry work with a couple navigating conflict:
- You see your own patterns reflected back (and realize you’re not alone)
- You witness exactly how RLT tools are used in the moment (not just in theory)
- You understand what real transformation looks like (messy and imperfect)
Then you take what you’ve witnessed and practice it yourself – in your small coaching group with a certified RLT coach – then in your own relationship.
That’s the work that leads to lasting change.
A chance to work with Terry
The couples Terry works with will be selected directly from the Living Love community. If you choose to opt in, you may be selected to receive a full-length therapy session with Terry – a rare opportunity to work directly with him in a supported group setting.
(There is no requirement to put yourself forward – this is entirely optional.)
And you're not doing this alone or without support.
Your certified RLT coach will guide you through this work every step of the way – helping you recognize your patterns, practice new responses, and stay accountable to the changes you’re trying to make.
This program is the culmination of Terry’s life’s work – rooted in his decades of clinical experience identifying the tools and skills that make love work.
And you’re among the first 100 people who will ever experience it.
Here’s what becomes possible after six months…
Where you resentfully kept score of who was doing more or trying harder…
How Living Love Works
A consistent cycle of coaching, practice, integration, and support – so change actually sticks.
✨ Join 25+ Live Sessions
Small Group Coaching
Live Therapy with Terry Real
Integration
Holistic Class
Over six months, this same cycle repeats, deepening your understanding and strengthening your ability to show up differently in your relationship.
What to expect from each session type
2 hours
Small Group Coaching
- Explore your own patterns as they show up
- Practice new ways of responding
- Receive personalized feedback and support
90 minutes
Live Therapy + Q&A
- You see your own patterns in others
- You see how RLT tools are actually used in the moment
- You understand when and how change happens, not just theory
90 minutes
Integration
- You see your own patterns in others
- You see how RLT tools are actually used in the moment
- You understand when and how change happens, not just theory
60-90 minutes
Holistic Class
- Meditation
- Breathwork
- Restorative yoga
- Relational sex & sexual beliefs
- Somatics and tapping
Check you can make the dates
Small Group Coaching time slots
Your small group coaching takes place at the same time every month across the full six months.
Because these sessions are not recorded, it’s important that you make sure you can commit to attending at least one of the coaching time options below. (We’ll assign you a coaching group based on your availability once you sign up.)
Coaching group times (you will meet at the same allocated time each month):
- Tuesday 12–2pm ET
- Friday 12–2pm ET
- Wednesday 7–9pm ET
✨ Access 30 hours of foundational video courses
(Unlocked over time)
Alongside the live calls, you’ll have access to three of Terry Real’s in-depth online courses.
At the start of each month, we’ll point you toward the specific lessons that best support the live work you’re doing – so you’re never guessing what to watch or when.
Getting What You Want From Your Relationship
Work with your partner to create the relationship you desire.
Real Self-Esteem
All great relationships start with a great relationship with yourself.
Building Better Boundaries
How to stay protected and connected in love.
✨ Be part of a supportive community
Living Love includes a thoughtfully designed online community, so you’re not left holding things on your own.
You’ll have access to:
A private space for your small coaching group
This is a dedicated space just for the 10 people in your group – a place to reflect, ask questions, and stay connected between calls in a setting that feels familiar.
A wider Living Love community
A shared space for the full community, where you can ask any questions about the program, learn from one another, and recognize common patterns. A certified RLT coach – trained by Terry Real – will be active in the group every Monday–Friday to offer support.
Plus a 3-hour bonus workshop from Terry Real
Moving On From Betrayal
How to heal from infidelity, rebuild trust, and use the crisis as an opportunity to transform your relationship into a more fulfilling one than before.
Your Powerful Curriculum
The Relational Skills & Capacities You’ll Develop Over Time
Month 1 - How Do You Respond in the “Crunch”? (Unlocked immediately) Recognize your automatic coping strategies and understand how your self-esteem and boundaries shape your behavior in relationships.
(Unlocked immediately) Recognize your automatic coping strategies and understand how your self-esteem and boundaries shape your behavior in relationships.
You’ll explore:
- Relationship Grid – a powerful tool that shows how your level of self-esteem and boundaries shape your behavior in relationships.
- The 5 Losing Strategies – the predictable (but unconstructive) ways we try to protect ourselves in relationships.
- Your Adaptive Child – the part of you that learned adaptive strategies to stay safe – and see how those old strategies, while once necessary, now block connection.
Month 2 - Standing Up For Yourself With LoveDevelop the core skill of Relational Mindfulness and begin shifting to a more proactive approach in your relationship and asking for more of what you want, as you start practicing the Winning Strategies in relationships.
Develop the core skill of Relational Mindfulness and begin shifting to a more proactive approach in your relationship and asking for more of what you want, as you start practicing the Winning Strategies in relationships.
You’ll explore:
- Relational Mindfulness – how to notice when you are acting from old patterns in real time and returning to a steadier, more grounded state.
- Loving Power – how to speak up for what you want with love and respect for your partner, so you don’t push them away.
- Remembering Love – learning to pause before you speak and asking yourself, “Am I speaking to make things better?”
- Turning complaints into requests – complaining is far less vulnerable than asking for what you want. You’ll learn how to do it with love, skill, and confidence.
Month 3 - Growing Relational MaturityRelational maturity doesn’t mean we’re calm and centered all the time. In this module, you’ll learn how to reconnect to that grounded state when emotions are high – especially when your partner is far from centered!
Relational maturity doesn’t mean we’re calm and centered all the time. In this module, you’ll learn how to reconnect to that grounded state when emotions are high – especially when your partner is far from centered!
You’ll explore:
- Relational Integrity – “staying on your side of the street”, and learning to stay grounded even when your partner isn’t.
- Winning Strategies – including how to listen to understand rather than defend.
- The Feedback Wheel – a communication tool you can use to communicate with your partner when you’re hurt, without escalating into an argument.
Month 4 - Resolving Conflict Without EscalatingYou’ll continue building on the skills you’ve already learned, particularly Relational Mindfulness and Loving Power to resolve conflict more effectively. The emphasis isn’t on saying things “perfectly,” but on staying accountable and respectful – regardless of how the other person responds.
You’ll continue building on the skills you’ve already learned, particularly Relational Mindfulness and Loving Power to resolve conflict more effectively. The emphasis isn’t on saying things “perfectly,” but on staying accountable and respectful – regardless of how the other person responds.
You’ll explore:
- Detachment from outcome – learning how to ask for what you want without over-attaching to the desired outcome.
- Handling disappointment – how to grieve the days you don’t get what you want.
- Feedback Wheel – you’ll deepen your understanding and practice of this invaluable tool.
- How to apologize effectively – learn the 4 steps to a genuine apology that your partner can receive.
Month 5 - Learning To Think Like a TeamYou’ll learn how to move your mindset from “you vs. me” to “us vs. the problem” as you remember that you and your partner are on the same side.
You’ll learn how to move your mindset from “you vs. me” to “us vs. the problem” as you remember that you and your partner are on the same side.
You’ll explore:
- Cherishing – how to nurture your connection and develop an attitude of gratitude for what’s good in your relationship.
- Relational Reckoning – what do you do when, despite your best efforts, your relationship isn’t bringing you joy and fulfillment?
- How to respond with generosity to your partner’s requests.
Month 6 - Practices for Lasting LoveThis module focuses on the often-overlooked skill of taking in the good – learning how to receive love, appreciation, and positive moments so they actually register and last. You’ll learn how relational healing is not only about repair, but also about savoring moments of connection, safety, and joy.
This module focuses on the often-overlooked skill of taking in the good – learning how to receive love, appreciation, and positive moments so they actually register and last. You’ll learn how relational healing is not only about repair, but also about savoring moments of connection, safety, and joy.
You’ll explore:
- Integrating the skills and insights you’ve learned throughout the program.
- Creating a “relationship-cherishing culture” – one that build on what’s going well.
- Celebrating progress over perfection in your partner’s efforts.
- Practices for sustaining lasting intimacy beyond the program.
Meet your transformation team
Terry Real
Terry is an internationally recognized couples therapist and the New York Times bestselling author of Us: Getting Past You and Me to Build a More Loving Relationship.
Kate Harris
Our small group coaching groups are all led by RLT-Certified Relational Coaches, trained by Terry Real
Wil Carlos
Since 2010, Wil Carlos has supported individuals and couples in over 28 countries to have healthier, more connected relationships. As a certified Relational Life Coach, Wil helps couples identify the patterns that keep them stuck and develop the relational skills needed for lasting change. Drawing from his background in intuitive and energy-healing work, he also helps clients address the deeper emotional blocks that often interfere with connection.
Nancy Pickard
Nancy is a certified RLT Coach and a bootcamp facilitator. She is also a Master Integrative Coach certified in Breakthrough Shadow Coaching, Empowered Parent, Healing Your Heart,
Leadership, Holistic Lifestyle, and Boundary Coaching as well as a Grief Facilitator through David Kessler. Nancy is the author of the international bestseller, Bigger Better Braver: Conquer Your Fears, Embrace Your Courage, and Transform Your Life.
Shannon Curran
Known for her compassionate and intentional approach, Shannon helps clients strengthen self-trust and move through relational challenges with integrity. After earning a degree in Economics and working in hospital administration, Shannon stepped away from the corporate world to raise her two sons and later founded her coaching practice after experiencing firsthand how RLT transformed her own relationships.
Elyse Killoran
For over two decades, Elyse Killoran has helped individuals break free from self-defeating patterns and build relationships that are authentic, resilient, and deeply fulfilling. Integrating advanced trauma modalities along with RLT, she guides clients to regulate their nervous systems and cultivate empowered, enduring connection.
Michelle Coops
Michelle inspires individuals and couples to wholeheartedly Lead with Love. As an RLT practitioner, trauma-informed bodyworker and erotic intimacy coach she guides clients back to intimate connection with themselves and their beloved. Michelle translates cognitive concepts into somatic experiences, allowing her clients to create deeper imprints around healthier relating in an embodied way.
Nikki Loscalzo
Niki Loscalzo, Ed. M., is an RLT Certifed Therapuetic Coach, RLT Certified Relationship Bootcamp Facilitator, and also Developmental and Relational Trauma Therapist (DARTT) certified through the Healing Our Core Issues Institute.
How RLT Courses & Programs Have Helped Others
I was never taught how to be in an equal relationship and really needed to be told words/phrases on how to speak – i.e. to request rather than demand or direct. That was a game changer and easy once I was given words to use – I would have stumbled for months or years!”
on the Getting What You Want From Your Relationship course
I feel I’m getting to a point where “the dots” are beginning to connect for me. Attending a workshop like this and listening closely to Terry et al, made the connections between those dots stronger and clearer, and assisted me to validate my interpretation of all of my readings to date.
My journey to understand my SELF and heal, to become a better person, husband, father etc has been a long road. I am cherishing every moment of this journey.”
on the Unstuck workshop
I loved Terry’s emphasis that you can only change yourself, not your partner. It’s so easy to fall into the trap and yet so liberating for me when I realize that I am the one who can change.
I now understand how my journey towards healthy self esteem has provided me with the perfect foundation to become a loving partner and to create the intimate relationship I have always desired. I am really excited about our future together and look forward to learning more!”
on the Getting What You Want From Your Relationship course
And the one about abundance in myself when my partner left, also the amazing truth that an adult cannot be abandoned. These all have been very helpful and i have been putting them into practice and they REALLY work.”
on the Building Better Boundaries course
We participated in the RLT Staying in Love recorded program in September 2021 and also in the live Couples Experiential Workshop in January 2022. We have since been more patient and understanding with ourselves, each other, and even with other people in our lives.
Terry’s distinct philosophy of gentle honesty and mutual respect is a gem. What we learned about ourselves and each other has changed the way we think and live as a couple every day.”
on the Staying in Love course and Couples Experiential
And showed us how to navigate them successfully from conflict, disharmony, repair and back to harmony.”
on the Getting What You Want in Your Relationship course
Who is this for?
- You do not need your partner to participate in order to join
- Couples are welcome but partners will be placed in separate coaching groups so each person has space to focus on their own work
- Single participants are welcome if you’re willing to reflect on past relationships and patterns
- You’re looking for a quick fix or a set of scripts to control outcomes
- You want your partner to change, but aren’t willing to look at your own patterns
- You’re looking for a passive learning experience rather than continued practice
Try the program risk-free
- 100% refund if you request it before March 3, 2026
Join Living Love Today
Be part of the first group to ever embark on the the Living Love 6-month coaching journey.
Remind me – what’s included?
- 25+ hours of live sessions over 6 months
- Watch Terry Real's couples therapy sessions live
- Personalized coaching in groups of 10
- 30 hours of video courses
- A supportive communities
- A bonus 3-hour workshop from Terry Real
Joining with a partner?
You’ll have the option to add them at the next step at a 50% discount. Note that couples will participate in separate coaching groups.
One-Time Payment
$1750
Pay Monthly
6x $325
Frequently Asked Questions
Is this couples therapy?
When are the live sessions?
Living Love runs from March 3 – August 25, 2026.
You’ll be invited to attend a mix of:
- Small group coaching
- Live therapy sessions with Terry Real
- Integration sessions with Kate Harris
- Holistic classes
- An Opening Circle and Closing Circle with the whole community
You’ll be placed into a small coaching group based on your availability once you’ve signed up. We ask that you’re able to attend at least one of the group coaching time slots below. You will join your coaching group at the same time every month.
Small group coaching time slots:
- Tuesday 12–2pm ET
- Friday 12–2pm ET
- Wednesday 7–9pm ET
What if I can’t attend all of the live sessions?
We encourage you to attend as many live sessions as possible, but we understand that life happens.
- All full-group calls (live therapy with Terry, integration with Kate, and holistic classes) are recorded and available in your private learning platform.
- Small group coaching sessions are not recorded, as live participation and feedback are essential to the work.
For this reason, we ask that you prioritise being able to attend your small group coaching sessions live.
Will the sessions be recorded?
Most sessions will be recorded. See below for more details:
– Recorded:
Live therapy with Terry Real
Integration sessions with Kate Harris
Holistic classes
–Not recorded:
Small group coaching (to protect privacy and depth of work)
Recordings are added to your private membership platform to watch back at a time that suits you.
How much time should I expect to commit each week?
You can expect to spend:
- 2 hours on small group coaching (monthly)
- 4 – 4.5 hours on other live calls and classes (monthly)
- 30 minutes watching the monthly prep video
- A small amount of time on your homework and practicing in real life
You don’t need to “keep up” or do everything perfectly. This program is designed to be integrated into your daily life, not added on top of it.
Can I join if I’m single?
Yes. Living Love is designed for individual relational work. If you’re single, you’re very welcome to join – we simply ask that you’re willing to reflect on your patterns in past relationships so you can build healthier ones moving forward.
Can my partner join?
Yes – in a couple of different ways.
- Your partner is welcome to watch the recorded content with you (foundational videos, live therapy sessions with Terry, integration calls) without signing up.
- If both of you want to participate in group coaching, your partner will need to join separately. You’ll have the option to add your partner at a 50% discount during checkout.
Partners will be placed in separate coaching groups. This keeps the focus on your work and protects the integrity of the group process.
What’s your refund policy?
We want people in Living Love because it genuinely feels right for them, not because they feel pressured.
Because this program is limited to approximately 100 participants, we hold spots intentionally and fairly. That’s why we have a clear refund policy in place – to protect both you and the integrity of the group.
If, for any reason, you decide the program isn’t the right fit for you, you’re free to step away within the refund window below.
Our refund policy:
- 100% refund if you request it before March 3, 2026
Just email support@terryreal.com – no questions asked.
What is Relational Life Therapy?
Relational Life Therapy (RLT) is a groundbreaking approach to relationships developed by leading couples therapist and New York Times bestselling author Terry Real.
Based on over 40 years of clinical experience, RLT focuses on:
- accountability and respectful honesty
- healthy boundaries and self-esteem
- emotional maturity
- and skills for building meaningful relationships
Living Love is rooted in RLT principles, and all coaches leading the program are fully certified and experienced in the model.
Is this program suitable for therapists and coaches?
If you are a therapist or coach hoping to enroll for your professional development, we would encourage you to explore our RLT courses for professionals. Living Love is exclusively focused on learning these skills and practices for your personal relationships. For example, the group coaching, Terry’s Q&A, Kate’s integration calls will exclusively focus on how to apply these practices and skills in your personal life, not how to apply it to your work with clients. If you are in the RLT Certification program, we encourage you to focus on your studies and development within that program as you may risk overcommitting by also enrolling in Living Love.
I still have questions – who can I speak to?
Please reach out to support@terryreal.com with any questions. If you’d like to experience a taste of the program and the kind of teaching/skills you will learn before you sign up, we invite you to join our free 90-minute workshop with lead coach Kate Harris on Friday, February 20, 12–1:30pm ET.